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In the face of the approaching new year, Wu Kaiyu fell into sorrow again.
He doesn't know what he will face again with this Chinese New Year's Eve in 2022. Last year, when I went home for the New Year, I felt only one way - there was suffering and embarrassment on both sides.
The reason, in the final analysis, is because of money.
Wu Kaiyu's family conditions are extremely bad, and his parents, in order to provide for his schooling, smashed and sold iron to pay for tuition. He was also a contender, admitted to a key university, and raised his eyebrows for his parents, relatives and friends, and even the whole village.
At this point, Wu Kaiyu is very proud, and he also secretly swears in his heart that when his life is better in the future, he will be better to these relatives and friends.
He did it. After graduating from college, he earned 300,000 yuan a year and often received relatives from his hometown. Whoever borrowed three or five thousand, he would not let the other party pay it back, for this reason, his reputation was laid down among relatives, and they all knew that in this poor ravine, the Wu family flew out a golden phoenix.
Wu Kaiyu, who is down-to-earth and capable, was favored by the girl of the unit leader, and then Wu Kaiyu got married. Although he is not a door-to-door son-in-law, but the difference between the door and the relatives are talking behind his back, Wu Kaiyu has a woman as a backer, more rich, but also more capable.
Careers are soaring, but status is taking a sharp turn for the worse. Wu Kaiyu always felt that he could not lift his head at his in-laws' house, especially when his relatives came back to borrow money, borrow, and ask for things, he felt even more embarrassed.
He felt that he was really like the male protagonist Chunsheng in the film and television drama "Mendi", and even the nanny of his wife's family looked down on him. If he wasn't still capable, he would really be bullied to death.
On the one hand, he felt that he could not lift his head, and on the other hand, he did not want to lose his current life, after all, no matter what, he was still decent in his hometown, and even when the village chief saw his parents, he had to give three points.
Such a day, on weekdays is fine, once the New Year arrives, but it makes Wu Kaiyu feel that he is not a person inside and outside. Especially coming home for the New Year last year.
We all know that visiting relatives and friends in the New Year is a necessary process, because Wu Kaiyu has a career, and there is a rich father-in-law as a patron, so relatives can not go to anyone's home, that is, they cannot not come to their home.
Wu Kaiyu is naturally happy, but relatives come, they lead large and small children, each child has to wrap red packets, package 500 is too little, Wu Kaiyu feels that there is no face, bag 1000 wife and put their faces on their own, saying that they are poor relatives, package 500 are too little, really poor and exquisite. Under the trade-off, Wu Kaiyu put 800 in each red envelope, drawing a good color head.
Unexpectedly, when relatives knew that Wu Kaiyu gave 800 yuan in red envelopes, word spread, not only more frequently, but also more children. Children who are exaggerated to the point of just reaching the full moon are held out.
The twenty thousand yuan red envelope money prepared by Wu Kaiyu was not enough, and he asked his wife to take ten thousand yuan. Later, I took it again, inside and out, and the money spent fifty thousand yuan on the pressure of the year, not counting the gifts sent to relatives.
At this time, the wife was angry, accusing Wu Kaiyu of dying to face the guilt, and now some of these achievements are all dependent on the father-in-law's support, but for their own face, they send money to relatives.
Wu Kaiyu felt that it was only fifty thousand yuan, and his wife's family was so rich, but she was so stingy and did not understand human feelings. If he only paid a hundred yuan, in addition to making his relatives look down on him, he would laugh at his parents behind his back and tell his parents how to live in the village.
The two people quarreled over this, and his wife shouted that he wanted to go home, and Wu Kaiyu felt that his wife was leaving now without giving him face, not giving him the face of the whole family, and blocking the way.
One after another, the two people even moved out of the divorce, and then there was no way, in order not to make things bigger, Wu Kaiyu secretly stuffed ten thousand yuan for his parents, let his parents invite relatives to go to town to eat a good meal, and returned to the city with his wife first.
Wu Kaiyu did not expect that fifty thousand yuan of red envelope money almost let his wife divorce him. After returning home, his wife said that she could not stand his original family, and she could only see money in her eyes, and did not want to return to his home for the New Year.
At that time, Wu Kaiyu agreed in order to ease his wife's emotions and wanted to talk about it later. Now that another year of new year is approaching, he is worried, if he does not go back, he will certainly have no face, and his wife will not agree to go back, he is helpless, and his heart is very depressed.
In my opinion, the red envelope for visiting relatives and friends in the New Year is actually a good lottery head, Wu Kaiyu really does not need to pack 800 yuan, one or two hundred yuan is enough, not to mention this situation where no one gives him a gift in return.
Lu Xun once said: "Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, as long as you grasp this, just like pulling out the braids in the past, the program is open, and the whole body is moving around." ”
For a phoenix man like Wu Kaiyu, the most important thing is face, and the most important thing is also the relatives in the family.
Can understand Wu Kaiyu's wife's behavior, if this fifty thousand yuan, is spent on Wu Kaiyu, or even on Wu Kaiyu's parents, I believe that with her family situation, will not say anything, but if this fifty thousand yuan is spent like this, just for the so-called face, it is really not worth it.
In fact, face is the most useless thing in the world, in the most vulgar words, it can neither be eaten as food nor spent as money. If you live just for face, it is easy to be like Wu Kaiyu, punching a swollen face and filling a fat person.
In other words, if Wu Kaiyu has difficulties and needs help, presumably those relatives will hide faster than anyone else, afraid of making their originally unsmooth life worse, and in the end they will still have to count on their parents and wives.
For thousands of phoenix men, they have many advantages, such as simplicity, steadfastness, ability, they know how to be grateful, filial piety to their parents, not afraid of trouble, and will not wear colored glasses to see people. But the shortcoming of loving face cannot be avoided.
Although it is important to be developed and not to forget the poor relatives, it is also a kind of kindness to give them proper relief, but if you do this for the sake of face, it is really unnecessary.
And if because of this, there is a conflict with the wife, resulting in family disharmony, it is even more than worth the loss.
After the phoenix man and the city woman are combined, it is easy to have various contradictions with the partner in terms of living habits and some concepts, if you pay more attention, the married life will probably be seriously threatened, I hope that men can change it, and if there is none, they will be encouraged.
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