Mo Yan wrote in "Late Familiar People": Marriage is not terrible, the worst is divorce, the real horror is getting married, finding yourself unable to afford to leave, and can only spend your life in this marriage that wants to escape, but cannot escape.
Someone said: "It is not a good thing to be in love for a long time, because you don't want to get married if you drag it." ”
Although it has always been said that "marriage is the graveyard of love", people who truly love each other will eventually go to marriage. Marriage is the end of love, and marriage is also the beginning of a new life. Love is a long process, and marriage is the best witness of two people's feelings, so couples who truly love each other are eager to enter the palace of marriage. Someone once said, "If you really love her, give her a wedding." "Know that a man who truly loves you will not make you wait too long.
My old classmate Li Meng, is one of the earliest of my girlfriends to fall in love, she and her boyfriend are college classmates, her boyfriend is tall and handsome, at that time in the school was also a school grass level figure, Li Meng is beautiful and gentle, they are together is the combination of Lang Cai female appearance, golden boy and jade girl, when in love, they sprinkled us enough dog food.
In the first two years, the boyfriend was very good to Li Meng, and it can be said that she was spoiled as a little princess, so Li Meng was happy at that time. It is precisely because of the boyfriend's pampering that after graduation, Li Meng ignored the opposition of her family, pushed away the work arranged by her parents, and resolutely followed her boyfriend to his hometown. The boyfriend's hometown is in a small market town, his parents are small vendors, and the boyfriend has found a not-so-good job in a small third-tier market not far from home.
When she arrived at her boyfriend's city, at first Li Meng rented a house by herself, and then she couldn't stand her boyfriend's soft and hard bubbles and lived with her boyfriend.
From a little princess in the palm of her hand, she became a nanny who took care of housework
After living together, at the beginning it was also a good time, but with the passage of time, the boyfriend's attitude began to change, began to make Li Meng do this and that, even if Li Meng was unhappy in her heart, but also took the initiative to do it, and then good, the boyfriend changed from making the call to disgust, disgusted that she could not cook, disgusted that she was diligent enough. In fact, the family's meals are all done by Li Meng when she returns from work, and housework is basically Li Meng's business alone, and Li Meng's salary also naturally subsidizes the family.
Women, once they identify a person, will lose their minds and become very persistent
Even if her status changed from a princess to a nanny, Li Meng never thought of leaving her boyfriend, people are chosen by themselves, the road is their own, since they have identified him, even if they are bitter, they will always be with him. This is probably the mistake that all women make, once they are overwhelmed by love, they will lose their minds and even become particularly stupid.
This lasted for another three years, during which Time Li Meng had hinted that her boyfriend wanted to get married, and she had been saving money to buy a house. However, the boyfriend either said leisurely, "It's not good this way now." Then perfunctory, or said for two years, when there is money, forced to be anxious to coax her sweetly."
From college graduation, to work they have been together for seven years, the boyfriend never mentioned the marriage, a woman, can have several seven years, these seven years of feelings for Li Meng is too heavy, if this relationship does not have a result, she can not accept, she always deceives herself, think that she will be fine if she insists on it again.
Just a few days ago, Li Meng urged her boyfriend to get married again, this time she became smarter, called the future mother-in-law over, and the three of them sat down to seriously talk about marriage. The boyfriend still has an attitude of inaction, but the words of the mother-in-law made Li Meng completely dispel the idea of marriage.
The mother-in-law said: "You two have been together for such a long time, in fact, in my heart, we have long been a family, if you really want to get married, go and get the marriage certificate down that day, this matter will be fixed." ”
Hearing this, Li Meng was angry on the spot, but she still pretended to calmly mention the wedding and the bride price, and the mother-in-law said: "You see that you have been together for several years, the money earned by my son is not all in your control, and our old two families do not want you, it should be a bride price." Wedding, we have a rule here, that is, to have a child, give birth to a child when the wedding full moon together, double happiness linmen how lively ah..."
Li Meng was annoyed by her boyfriend's mother's words, she was not stupid, of course, she knew that the boyfriend's family was preparing empty gloves white wolves, at this time she put her only hope on her boyfriend, when she wanted to ask her boyfriend for help, the boyfriend pretended to be something and went out to answer the phone. At this time, Li Meng could no longer hold back, she wow... A cry, as if all the grievances of all these years had gushed out at that moment.
Li Meng spent seven years, and finally saw the real face of the boyfriend who has not mentioned marriage, although the time is a little long, the price is a little big, but fortunately not married, if you really live with this kind of calculating person for a lifetime, think about it.
Li Meng resolutely left the third-tier small city, just like when she left her hometown, no matter how her boyfriend retained her, she could not change her decision. Sitting in the car home, she sent a circle of friends to cry, "My seven years of youth fed the dog..."
Admonish to girls:
If a man is only in love with you and not about marriage, unless he is unmarried, he is weighing the pros and cons, either you are not satisfied enough to make him set a life, or he is calculating. You think, a couple of a certain age, the love period has passed, everything that should be understood, he is not ready to marry you, what is he thinking?
I especially agree with a sentence: the most feared thing about marriage is not the lack of love, but the calculation of the pillow person.
Some people are in love for 8 years and 9 years without marriage, and some people are eager to keep her around forever with a marriage certificate, so the man who truly loves you will not let you wait too long.
We often say that women must know how to love themselves, how in the end to call themselves love?
In my opinion, the performance of loving yourself, first of all, is to be "selfish", no matter if you love a man again, you must leave three points of love for yourself, you do not need to completely revolve around him, you should also have your own life, at the same time, you can not pay too much, if he does not know gratitude, you have to have the courage to leave him. I can love you very much, but I can't wronged myself.
Women must learn to save money, must be financially independent, have their own financial planning, do not get married before their respective money to be clear, do not feel together because of love, his is yours, yours is his, the years are quiet, the wind and waves are calm, once the relationship breaks, you will find that his or his, yours is also his.
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