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Life is a one-way train that never stops, there are people coming and going along the way, busy and busy are all scenery. But everyone can accompany you, it is only a journey.
In our lifetime, we care about too many people. Filial piety to parents, raising children, taking care of partners, but only forgetting to care more about yourself.
People will only understand in their old age, and the last person to accompany you is your dearest person, not your wife, not your children, but yourself, I hope that people can understand this truth earlier and love themselves more.
One: Husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, but it is easy to love each other and difficult to keep each other
Modern people's marriages are too fragile.
This year seems to be a divorce year, some netizens have counted, from the beginning of the year to now, there have been more than a dozen celebrity couples officially announced divorce, many of which have been married for several years, before in front of the public has been showing a happy family appearance.
Although the marriage of ordinary people, unlike the marriage of celebrities, will be tempted as much, in the marriage of ordinary people, problems are also everywhere.
Many people feel that marriage is a practice, has been together for a lifetime, in the old age, can be regarded as stable, can rest assured to rely on their partners, carry each other to old age.
Such an idea, while beautiful, is also pale.
Looking at the marriage data in recent years, we will find that the number of divorces over the age of 60 is increasing year by year. Many people feel puzzled, most of their lives have come, why should they go their separate ways when they should support each other and accompany each other?
In fact, it is very simple, it is nothing more than because they have wronged themselves for half a lifetime, and they want to live for themselves once when they are old.
People in that era basically had no emotional basis, and they had not even met before getting married, so it was inevitable to run into each other after marriage. In the run-in, there must always be one party who is particularly able to endure, and if he has suffered more grievances, he does not want to endure.
Husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, but it is easy to love each other and difficult to keep each other, even if there is no problem with feelings, there will always be a person who will go first in the future, so we should learn to rely on ourselves more than relying on our old partners.
Second: the company of children, more than enough but not enough
Many elderly people have a kind of thinking of raising children and preventing old age, believing that with children, there is security in old age. They don't need much financial subsidy from their children, they just want their children to take care of them more.
But such a simple request, many children can not complete, not that they are not filial piety, but the reality of life does not allow.
Most families are ordinary families, and they don't make much money all year round, and with the daily expenses, life is stretched thin. Especially middle-aged people, in the stage of old and old, there are small and old, only people can rely on them, and there is no one they can rely on.
At this time, as an old man, can you really bear to make them work so hard? Even if you are helpless and can't do without their care, they may not be able to take care of it. Because they themselves are already taking care of themselves.
Therefore, many people say that when people are old, the key is that they still have money in their hands.
Because you have money, you can have more choices, not to become a burden on others, so that the psychological pressure is not so great, and there are many ways to retreat, you can take care of yourself.
Three: In your old age, in the final analysis, you still hold it in your own hands
The more you need help, the more you will find that no matter how close the person is, you may not be reliable, and the most trustworthy thing is actually yourself.
Your body is your own, if you pay attention to the maintenance of the body when you are young, do not stay up late, quit smoking and alcohol, do not overdraft the body, regular physical examination, then your quality of life in your later years will be greatly improved.
Your salary is your own, and being able to have a stable and independent income of your own can fundamentally maintain your life and dignity in your old age.
After all, no matter how filial the children, no matter how loving the partner, reach out to take money from others, wait for others' handouts, you yourself will be short in mentality, no bottom.
Most importantly, a positive and healthy mindset that only you can give yourself. Not afraid of aging, not afraid of loneliness, calmly face physiological changes, and actively welcome every stage of life.
If you live every day of your life seriously, then when death comes, you will not feel fear or regret because you wasted your years.
When people are old, it does not mean that they have reached the trough of life, and the elderly can also enjoy their own lives.
As long as your heart is young, you can always be eighteen. Stop keeping your eyes on your children and let them live their own lives. Don't cling to the corner of your partner's clothes, even intimate couples can have their own space and have their own wonderful.
In your life, only you are the closest person.
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