During the New Year's Festival, children are often the most joyful, and those who have reached the marriageable age, especially single men over thirty, the happiness of the New Year's Festival is often irrelevant to them.
Every time at this time, they have to face the tight mantra that their parents and three sisters and six mothers-in-law chant day and night: find a partner.
One world, same parents. I believe that people who have been urged by their families to find a partner will suspect their parents whenever they celebrate the New Year, which is distributed nationwide.
Although most people now no longer prefer sons to daughters, and there is no such pedantic feudal idea as succession, marriage is still an indispensable thing in life.
Especially for parents, marriage is a kind of security, and life without marriage is incomplete. And in their eyes, as long as you are still single, you are a child who will never grow up.
Now, it is no longer the era of "the fate of parents and the words of the matchmaker".
Young people mostly have their own ideas, whether it is to interact with the opposite sex, or in the choice of marriage, they all have ideas that belong to their time.
No matter how the times change and how the thinking changes, a man over thirty years old or single, most of them are inseparable from the following reasons.
One: the eyes are too picky
The neighbor's big handsome is already in his thirties this year, but he is still alone, not only is he not married, he does not even have a good girlfriend, and the handsome parents sigh all day long.
The girls who have been on a blind date by the big handsome are not a hundred, there are also eighty, and the "inventory" of the enthusiastic aunts around them is almost exhausted, but there is still no one who can succeed.
In fact, there is a reason why the marshal has not succeeded in kissing so many times, that is, because he is too picky.
Not tall enough, not too tall, too thin, too fat, not too fat, not too much money, not without a job...
Sometimes, it is difficult to meet a person who looks at the right eye, not the suspect's family and the younger brother who goes to school, and it is a burden in the future, or the suspect's family is a single-parent family, and there is a lack of dependence in the future.
In short, the reasons for the boss's pickiness are various, and some people who want to introduce him to his girlfriend have also retreated after learning that the marshal is so picky.
When choosing the other half, if you filter one by one according to the criteria of the rules, I am afraid that it is really difficult to find a completely satisfied.
Every man wants to find the ideal other half in his mind, but there is never a perfect lover in this world, and there are two people who create a perfect wish together.
Two: I already have feelings but I prefer to love them
Ask what the worldly situation is, and teach people to live and die.
In this world, there are always some people who are inexplicably attached to love, and once they fall in love with a person, even if they can't keep it, they won't easily empathize with it.
The famous philosopher Jin Yuelin is such an infatuated man, he has loved Lin Huiyin all his life, but Lin Huiyin is the wife of his good friend Liang Sicheng.
Jin Yuelin can only bury this deep affection in his heart, and this hiding is a lifetime.
Because he always had Lin Huiyin hidden in his heart, there was no way to put other women, and perhaps he did not think of falling in love with other women again, so he always remained single, and he has been silently guarding Lin Huiyin.
When a man has a heart, even if he is old enough to think that he should get married, he will not casually fall in love.
Because he has a bond in his heart, there is no way to make love with a woman who is not on his heart.
In men's hearts, there is such a woman that they cannot forget, and there is no other woman's place in their hearts, and they have lost the ability to love others.
Unless he can cultivate the right results with the person in his heart, or one day he wants to open, let go, and let go of the attachment in his heart, he may choose to end single.
Three: There is a misunderstanding of marriage
Marriage is the most meaningless thing in the world. This is the marriage and love concept of the male protagonist Wei Zhe in the TV series "Perfect Relationship".
Wei Zhe is an excellent crisis pry guru, no matter how tricky things are, they can be handled properly through his hands.
But such a person who is good at handling interpersonal relationships is a single person.
In fact, Wei Zhe will be so rejected by love, rejected marriage, and has always remained single, which is directly related to his misunderstanding of marriage.
Wei Zhe's mother is a painter who is not bound by the world, has had many marriage experiences, and his mother's frequent changes of love objects and unstable marriage relations have brought great negative effects on the formation of Wei Zhe's concept of marriage and love.
In addition, the particularity of the work he is engaged in often sees the ugly side of human nature.
For example, at the beginning of the TV series, Wei Zhe did a crisis public relations for a star who cheated, and the star couple could choose not to divorce because of interests.
These bad marriage demonstrations made Wei Zhe have a great misunderstanding of marriage, and it is precisely because of this misunderstanding that he once thought that since the marriage relationship is unreliable, the love relationship is even more unreliable, so it is better not to talk about it.
In fact, there are also some men like Wei Zhe in life, who may have misunderstood marriage because of their original family reasons, or because they have seen the unhappy marriage history of others.
So that they are over thirty years old, and their families are constantly urging them to find a girlfriend, but they have not been able to enter the relationship smoothly due to their misunderstanding of marriage.
Someone said: "There is never a suitable age for marriage in this world, only love that is suitable for marriage." ”
In fact, love is the same, if it is not in love in the name of love, it is difficult to get happiness
A man, whether he is thirty or forty, has the right to choose the object he likes, but if he is too picky, he will only let himself miss the person who is worth cherishing.
Of course, if there are other women in your heart, there is no way to give another woman real happiness, at this time you choose to refuse to be in love is understandable.
And if you want to get a happy relationship, men must first correct their own view of marriage and love, just like netizens said: "All love that does not have the purpose of marriage is a hooligan." ”
This life is a long one, and no one prescribes that men must end being single before the age of thirty. The autonomy of love is in your own hands, and when you want to be in love and want to end being single, it's never too late.
There is no need to be wronged by pandering to the masses, pandering to society, and to be with people you don't like.
In life, it is true to let yourself live happily and happily.