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There is a woman in the neighboring village, about 30 years old, divorced twice, and when she got married for the third time, she insisted on doing a lot of work, and the wedding was indeed very solemn and full of ceremony.
Old relatives and young relatives gathered together to wish her that she found "true love" and would be happy.
Of course, this is also her first wish, to wash away the previous obscurity and bad luck, and to show her relatives and friends the determination to run for happiness, through their blessings to get good psychological comfort, but also do not rule out that there is vanity at work. The man's conditions sound good, divorced once, with a girl, but the marriage lasted less than a year.
The grand third marriage lasted less than a year, why?
At least one conclusion can be drawn, whether the marriage is happy or not, not long, and whether the wedding is grand or not is not absolutely linked.
The wedding is just a process, a ritual, the inside is the self's account, the outside is the blessing of relatives and friends. When we have a wedding, we should realize that we will immediately start a new life, everything has just begun, and there is no connection between how to complete the content of the next life.
In fact, for guests, romantic ceremonies and joyful moods are often not what they pay attention to and care about, and they are served early.
For remarried couples, men are usually more resistant, rejected, or even unable to accept too many requests from women, including unnecessary rituals, which is not entirely because of door slamming and rigidity.
The main reason is that he feels that she is also divorced and has experienced real life, so she should be able to understand and know the focus of life, what is important and what is key.
So I can't help but have some opinions, are you really running to live a life? It means that women should no longer take form as important.
Everyone's ideas are different, men's and women's ideas are even more different, the form of pursuit is normal and reasonable, but the premise is that their center of gravity cannot deviate, regardless of the next life content, do not consider the next life content.
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Before getting to the point, let's first tell the truth, marriage is not for everyone. For example, some people just can't adapt to the short life of their parents, some people are very strong and selfish, no matter how hard they are, they will only lose both. So not suitable behind, including but not limited to personal problems.
There is a very simple truth.
In the human society, one person says that you are not good, it may be the person's prejudice, two people say that you are not good, it may be that they can't see you well, but a group of people say that you are not good, you have to find your own reasons.
The same is true of divorce, the failure of one marriage may be the reason of the other party, the failure of the second marriage may be a matter of luck, but the failure of three marriages, it absolutely has an unshirkable responsibility.
In this kind of thing, don't feel that if you feel that there is no problem, how can marriage and life have frequent problems?
Although it is not possible to generalize in a partial way, men and women who have been married many times usually have a very serious problem with themselves, that is, the problem of not knowing themselves.
So for the divorce, he (she) does not think that he or she is responsible, but will only add fuel to the various problems of the partner, or pick out the various problems of the partner's family, in order to show how innocent he is, purely a victim, eager to get the sympathy of outsiders.
Maybe you can get through the confusion and get rid of your responsibilities, but the facts and results will not accompany you to act, and life will always continue.
In particular, you still have plans to get married, you can enter a new marriage, and your own problems will be brought into this new marriage.
It is a wrong idea to think that divorce is the end of the problem, that everything is solved, that everything is over. On the contrary, divorce is only the beginning of the problem.
Whether you are married three times or four times, you will still end up failing.
Because not knowing one's own problems naturally means never seeing the parts of oneself that need to grow and change, and not being able to learn from failed marriages. Entering marriage again, such people are often narrow, selfish, subjective, and good at shirking responsibility for big things and small things.
It is too important to be good at thinking, to summarize and reflect on problems in thinking. Happiness is grasped by oneself, it is managed by oneself, and one must have the ability and wisdom to control happiness, otherwise the grandeur of the wedding ceremony will be in vain, and the formal extravagance cannot change the problem of people.
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There are still many women in life, although they have experienced a realistic married life, but they still lack a correct understanding and attitude towards marriage. She is a person who lives in fairy tales and always makes married life too idealistic, artistic, and perfect.
Love is beautiful, all kinds of mountain alliances, all kinds of faith and determination, as long as you enter the marriage, with the inevitable passage of passion, and the arrival of various family trivialities, the arrival of the real life of responsibility, immediately feel disappointed, feel that you have chosen the wrong marriage, think that you have married the wrong person, and think of "true love" in front.
The seeds of disappointment will also take root in the heart, so that all the small things in life, the problems will be infinitely magnified, and the determination to divorce will gradually be strengthened.
In fact, love and marriage are completely incomparable, if you can't correct your attitude, look around, you can't find the ideal partner, can't find the right person for you.
The so-called "fit" between two people is the same, the fit is only the result of respect, acceptance, tolerance, there is no perfect match.
Respect, acceptance, tolerance, is the most correct way to get along between husband and wife, do not allow you to have half unrealistic fantasies, always fantasize about someone who is very accommodating to you, very suitable for you, and can never get what you want.
No matter how many marriages, remember that as long as you get married and rush to get married, you must know how to get rid of half of your personality, and you must never have too high expectations and too harsh requirements for your partner.
Seriousness and seriousness about marriage, not expressed in the form of the wedding, their own heart, their own attitude, willing to grow and change is the key.
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