The mother-in-law relationship is rooted in love
Author: Liu Jianjun
Originally, I wanted to conceive a "Small Discussion on the Relationship between Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law" or "Ten On the Relationship between Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law", but when I saw the "Spring Wind Post", "Winter Solstice Words", "Peach Blossom Fu", which used up images and adjectives, they sat in the city and said homesickness, sat in the central air conditioner and said twenty-four solar terms, and I talked about this seemingly ancient problem with my mother-in-law and mother-in-law: on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Yesterday, I heard the old birthday star Aunt Zhang say downstairs: Filial piety's daughter walks on the road, and the filial daughter-in-law's bedside guard. This is a very good saying, and it is also a truth that ordinary people have proved for generations. I have known Aunt Zhang for many years, and I was in the fifth grade of elementary school when her son worked at the Seongsan microwave station. Last year, I saw Zhou Zhifeng Wenyou's documentary "Accompanying the Old Birthday Star Zhang Gengen Back to the Old House" in the "Reading Village", which said that it was this ninety-year-old aunt Zhang. The optimistic and cheerful Aunt Zhang on crutches is still an example of a harmonious family.
As the saying goes: One woman raises ten sons, and ten sons are difficult to raise a mother. Especially after the mother is old, after being weak and sick, there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time! It has become more and more difficult to prevent hunger in the valley, because there are not many people and departments in this matter who are willing to take care of it, and there are powerful people in the mother-in-law's family, that is, to put it lightly, and they are afraid of offending the nephews, let alone saying nieces, the old logic is that the gray cannot hit the wall; the women cannot raise the mother. At this time, the daughters-in-law are particularly important.
In the ancient "Twenty-Four Filial Pieties", most of them were to educate their children and grandchildren to be filial piety, and the actual daughters-in-law were the main force of the daily waiters. Male cultivators and female weavers and sons and daughters serve the country from the army, and only daughters-in-law serve their in-laws.
I once saw the filial piety and in-laws in the countryside before and after the reform and opening up in the old movie "Xiyingmen" in the 80s, which was really a photo of God.
After the reform and opening up, the tide of migrant workers has surged up, and the left-behind women, the elderly and children, are the main body of caring for their parents. Such sour, sweet, bitter, spicy, salty and astringent men should be deeply understood and sincerely thanked. After serving the old mother for several months in the hospital and the hospital bed for two years, I understood the triviality and difficulty of filial piety to my parents, let alone bad. Filial piety is not an adverb, an adjective, but a verb.
It is said that the best distance from parents is the distance of a bowl of hot rice, that is, a bowl of rice delivered to the parents' house is still hot. The common people love to say: teeth and tongue are good, and sometimes they accidentally bite by mistake. Distance produces beauty, but the distance really can't be too far, which is the truth that distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. The daughter-in-law has lived in her mother's home for 20 years, and she has her own lifestyle and temper habits, and it is an adaptation process to immediately integrate into the in-laws' family. There are also words that are easy to change and difficult to move, so we must tolerate and understand each other. It's not that a family doesn't come in the door to comfort each other.
I have seen Han Chinese you Shui Yue ji's own in-laws, it is indeed the in-laws who regard her as a daughter; she regards the in-laws as her own parents. This is the respect for each other, this is the real home with two old is the second treasure, so that they also become a happy family of small cotton jackets. Bless a happy and happy family, such a family is also a paradise for career love double harvest and health and longevity.
Why is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law difficult? The first is because there are big differences in age, region, education, and tutoring, not just a simple generation gap. The point is also the ridiculous and pathetic battle of small interests! I have seen several daughters-in-law in the village argue for days and grow up for days, and their faces are all dug up. They have also heard that the ten silver dollars (Yuan Datou) saved for the in-laws have made the chickens fly and the dogs jump and smoke miasma, they have no idea that this silver dollar is worth thirty or fifty yuan, it is better to feed two more pigs. It is estimated that they will also fight, because their logic is: do not fight for steamed buns.
Parents and in-laws also have the bad habit of the emperor loving the prince and the people loving the children. As the saying goes and practice proves: those who eat more milk do not come out, which also lays hidden dangers and bombs for eating more and occupying more, selfishness and domineering. Parents and in-laws do not dare to favor any children, and the doting one will become bear goods, and they will not have the ability and love to honor the elderly, which is the lesson of iron beating.
Many small family things are also salty and salty, soft and hard, dry and thin, and trivial. How can you understand that there is meat and not eating tofu? Of course, there are also mother-in-law gods who nag the hens not to lay eggs, lay eggs... They regard the succession of seeds as greater than their destiny! I have also heard a beautiful woman say that her mother-in-law treats her like a thief. I asked her what to prevent you from? She said that she wouldn't take her things to her mother's house; in case she talked to the man more... I said that it is not easy to prevent these things. It is a rich man with two legs and one foot, and he has to pay the gun to God and God. But who can read it all? This is the world, the life can not be lifted, can not be put down. They did not understand the forgiveness and benevolence and wisdom of Old Master Kong, and they were gentle and frugal. Love to play a finger sang scolding, pushing chickens and scolding dogs, swearing to heaven, what is the difference between this and the conspiracy and trickery and negative selfishness in "Thirty-Six Plans"? Even if you ask for the blessing of a god, you can't usually not burn incense and rush to hug the Buddha's feet.
I have seen my daughter-in-law Ming with one head in the dark, Ming washing her mother-in-law's feet and face, and secretly knocking on the pot and smashing the bowl for her mother-in-law... Acting. It's standard cold violence, really dirty. In the end, if you make a fuss, you will not tolerate fire and water, and you will not interact with each other, and your relatives and families will harm each other and become wrongdoers. This is not a big discord, there is no reason, it is purely a plan, a narrow road, and a one-way reverse road.
I have also seen those who cry and cry and repent with tears: the tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to treat them. I don't know if they have long honored their parents' hearts? Or is there no ability to honor your parents? Anyway, it's late! It's annoying. It's either filial piety or filial piety. Regardless of the filial piety under the stick? In short, we must standardize the role of filial piety and cultural values from virtue and law.
I have also seen the same sisters who have a good relationship with their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law of the family business is the chairman and daughter-in-law are the general manager. The business management is orderly, there are plates and eyes, and the joint-stock system of steel and steel is organized. This is not acting Yang Jiajian, but a good relationship of scientific, reasonable and reasonable integration. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has developed well, you have me, I have you, and each other is the treasure in each other's palms.
Now the cost and cost of honoring parents is not too high, the special is the cost of treatment. Medical insurance and agricultural cooperative medical insurance can reimburse most of them, which does reduce some economic pressure. Small illnesses seize the time to see, parents' health and peace is the fundamental happiness of their children. Usually more visits, physical observation, do not be seriously dragged out of the serious cost of spending a lot of money may not be optimistic, filial piety and filial piety are not only able to guard the front of the bed and urinate, but can help parents exercise health in advance.
And for the precious, and angry for the wealth, home and everything.
A good daughter-in-law, prosperous for three generations.
In fact, Chairman Mao has said a few quotes to the people: Do it yourself and eat enough; treat others with strict self-discipline and leniency; criticism and self-criticism. These truths are not only for the benefit of the country and the family, but also for everyone.
I often explained to my mother: no good crutch is as good as a leg! Young couples come to each other, and old wives are the best good legs. When they are old, even the best legs are not good, and they have to rely on crutches and children. Raising children and preventing old age is not only psychological dependence, children must fulfill this obligation, which is a double requirement of morality and law. As the old saying goes: good is not much, a top ten. Bad sons and daughters-in-law also have to fulfill their obligations, which are necessary obligations. Yangxian also has traditional pension virtues, and the legend of Xiesun Bridge in Xiecun Bridge is also a beautiful talk of filial piety. The land of Tianhan is also the birthplace of the Han people's hometown, respecting the elderly has a long history, and it should be carried forward and kept pace with the times. Smartphones, electric vehicles and electric vehicles also bring more convenience to healthy elderly people.
Sincerely bless the benevolent and love the people, Leshan Leshui finally has to be happy.
About the author of the Partridge Column
Liu Jianjun, whose ancestral home is Yang County, Shaanxi Province, now lives in Korla City, Xinjiang. In 1996, he studied in the journalism and literature class of Northwest University, taking pen names: "Mountain Spring", "Xinyang", "Liu Yidao". He is a member of the Shaanxi Youth Literature Association, the Hanzhong Writers Association, and the Xinjiang Bazhou Writers Association.
Photo editing: Moon in the cloud