Marriage is like a siege, people inside the siege want to go out, people outside the siege want to come in, which is really an interesting thing.
There are not a few people with happy families, they know how to manage marriage, know how to get along with husband and wife, and marriage is naturally warm and sweet. There are many people who are lost and broken, and they are cautious when they re-face a relationship, afraid that the tragedy will repeat itself.
Some second-married women will make many demands, both to meet her needs for material life, but also to require the other party to be emotionally loyal and responsible for marriage. "Once bitten by a snake for ten years, I am afraid of the well rope", these ideas of women are excusable, but the premise is that the man must accept her concept, otherwise everything is not discussed.
Aunt Su is 51 years old, widowed, with a pension of 3900 yuan and a house of 80 square meters. Aunt Su likes to play the piano, sing, and read, and is a versatile "literary youth".
Aunt Su arranged her spare time to be full, living a full and happy life every day, and Aunt Su enjoyed this carefree retirement time. Aunt Su envied her peers in pairs, and she often felt lonely and couldn't help but miss her wife.
Aunt Su and her wife have been loving and loving for decades, and her wife treats her wholeheartedly, all her salary is handed in, she takes the initiative to do housework, never quarrels with her, and is a good man who loves his wife and loves his family.
After 3 years of single life, Aunt Su had the idea of remarriage, and she wanted to find a man with an income of more than 4,000 yuan, good character, and a solid life.
According to Aunt Su's request, The Red Lady arranged for Uncle Lu to come on a blind date. Uncle Lu is 60 years old, divorced, pension 4200 yuan, has his own house, living conditions are quite good.
Uncle Lu is in good health, can speak the Tao, and is a very thoughtful person. When he is idle, Uncle Lu likes to play chess and cards and play with a group of friends. During the day, Uncle Lu had someone to accompany him, and when he returned home, no one spoke with Uncle Lu, and no one took care of his food, clothing, and living, and Uncle Lu's inner loneliness and helplessness could be imagined.
Uncle Lu wants to find a gentle and considerate, young and beautiful wife, who has a common language with him, who can support and take care of each other with him, and enjoy his old age together. Aunt Su meets Uncle Lu's requirements for the other half, can they spark love?
After meeting, Aunt Su's first impression was very good, Aunt Su felt that Uncle Lu was talking well, looking good, sincere, and Aunt Su was quite good. Uncle Lu recognized Aunt Su's height and appearance, and the fly in the ointment was that Uncle Lu thought that Aunt Su was not beautiful enough, and Uncle Lu was somewhat dissatisfied with it.
Red Niang saw the height of the eyebrows, she took the initiative to invite Aunt Su to play a song, after seeing Aunt Su's talent, Uncle Lu changed his attitude, he said: "Now people are impetuous, people who can play the piano and have talent are rare, she has an elegant temperament, I like it." ”
Aunt Su's appearance is not high, but she makes up for her own shortcomings through her talents, thus winning the favor of Uncle Lu, which lays a good foundation for blind dates.
Uncle Lu's liking for Aunt Su skyrocketed, and he asked a question he cared about while it was hot, and he wanted to understand how Aunt Su viewed the family's economic problems.
Aunt Su said: "Two people really want to live a life should put money together, usually the family's money is managed by the woman, I am no exception, in the future I want to control the family's financial power." ”
Uncle Lu objected to this: "I am not opposed to the woman managing the money, but the premise is that both sides must have enough trust." We just met, don't know much, I can't give the money to you, you have to give me time to run in, as little as half a year or more than a year, after this time I think you are reliable, I am willing to give the money to you. ”
Uncle Lu looked at the problem very rationally, his words were reasonable and reasonable, Aunt Su agreed, and they reached a consensus on this issue.
Aunt Su said that she was most concerned about the problem, which made the atmosphere of the blind date scene drop to the freezing point in an instant.
Aunt Su said: "Since we plan to further communicate, we should show enough sincerity and posture, no matter whether you have a close relationship with the opposite sex before, whether you have had a relationship with the opposite sex before, I hope that after we are together, you take the initiative to leave those women and do not contact the opposite sex again, this is my bottom line, and it is also the thing I am most concerned about." ”
Aunt Su's meaning could not be more obvious, she didn't care about Uncle Lu's past, she cared about the future of the two people. Aunt Su hopes that After Uncle Lu and her relationship with the other opposite sex, they can no longer intersect, which is both responsible for the feelings and helps to enhance their relationship.
Aunt Su's consideration is not unreasonable, which is also a problem that most women attach great importance to, which is directly related to whether two people can successfully hold hands and the happiness of marriage, but all reasonable men will agree to this request.
Uncle Lu put forward a different view on this issue, Uncle Lu thought that Aunt Su's request was a bit excessive, Uncle Lu said: "You are worried that I am ambiguous with other women, I can understand your thoughts, you ask me to be loyal to marriage, I can do this." But I have lived most of my life, and it is normal to have some friends of the opposite sex, and it is simply unreasonable for you not to allow me to interact with the opposite sex! ”
In Uncle Lu's view, the loyalty of marriage does not lie in whether it is associated with the opposite sex, but in the self-consciousness of the individual, and whether there are friends of the opposite sex has nothing to do with it.
Through this matter, Uncle Lu's impression of Aunt Su was greatly discounted, Uncle Lu felt that Aunt Su's personality was strong, too much demand, and it would be very tiring and uncomfortable to get along with such a woman, in order to avoid this situation, Uncle Lu did not want to continue to talk, and the blind date was so unhappy and dispersed.
When talking about marriage, we must consider many factors, such as both parties must have a full understanding, to have a deep emotional foundation, and at the same time, living habits, consumption concepts, income levels, academic qualifications, looks and other aspects must be almost the same. There is also a problem that must be mentioned, that is, both sides must have the same three views, and only when these conditions are met can they come together.
There is no doubt that everyone's life experience is different, the level of education is different, and the view of the problem is naturally different. In the process of getting along, the two sides coexist peacefully in accordance with the principle of seeking common ground while reserving differences, everyone understands and tolerates each other, speaks frankly when encountering problems, and jointly seeks ways to solve problems, so as to help enhance feelings and help promote an intimate relationship.
Aunt Su has good conditions in all aspects, she hopes that Uncle Lu will cut off contact with other members of the opposite sex in the future, Aunt Su's request is not excessive, if Uncle Lu cherishes this relationship, he should take the initiative to cooperate, and when encountering special circumstances, he should report and explain to Aunt Su in time, which is the attitude that should be treated with feelings. Uncle Lu simply and rudely rejected Aunt Su, which could not help but make people think more.
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