The enduring of marriage depends on two hearts, not on the flesh of both parties. The greatest tragedy in the world is that two people love each other and cannot manage their marriage. At present, society loves quickly and it is difficult to get along. Whether it is a couple or a lover, the partner who can eventually love each other for a lifetime, the following 3 points are important.
When you quarrel, know how to let you
According to a survey, "A couple will quarrel 189 times a year, on average once every 2 days; according to the 40-year marriage, there are about 7500 quarrels in a lifetime." There are no couples in the world who do not quarrel, only marriages that know how to advance and retreat.
It is often said: "Once love enters marriage, it is only a trivial matter." Everyone knows that Zhu Ziqing's love is a model couple, but there will still be contradictions in life.
Zhu Ziqing hoped that his wife could teach her husband and children at home, because he was used to the ease of not having to worry about anything.
For example, Zhu Ziqing could not eat hot dishes when he returned home, and the unhappiness on his face immediately appeared, and he would write these things into articles. Zhu Ziqing even compared her with his ex-wife, Guangming Zheng wrote a big article to mourn his deceased wife, frankly remembering his meek Gu family who missed his deceased wife.
The couple began to quarrel with red ears, and Chen Zhuyin felt very aggrieved and cried and proposed a divorce.
Zhu Ziqing panicked, and sentenced "I was wrong" to keep his wife.
As the saying goes, "Bending down is not to concede defeat, but to pick up the happiness that has been lost." "A good marriage, where there are so many wins and losses and right and wrong, some only have understanding and tolerance. When quarreling, who bows your head first is not shameful, this is the performance of your cherishing, heartache, and reluctance to hurt the other party.
When doing housework, know how to help you
There is a hot topic on the Internet: "What is the experience of husband doing housework?" ”
Woman Xiao Zhang said a piece of her own experience:
She is a civil servant in the system and her husband is a sales manager for a food company. She leaves work at 5 o'clock, and his time off work is never certain, 8 o'clock, 9 o'clock, 12 o'clock... Of course, all the chores in the family are carried by Xiao Zhang...
Once, she was on a business trip for a few days, Xiao Zhang was worried that when she came back, her home would be in a mess, but she did not expect that when she returned from a business trip, the room was cleaned up and there was a hot dinner.
Netizens have praised that the most comfortable marriage is not like this. I accompany you to earn money to support the family, and you accompany me with my housework with the baby. Housework has never been a woman's responsibility, but a common obligation of husband and wife, or a preservative of family happiness. When she is cooking, you come home from work and naturally walk into the kitchen to help her peel garlic, not to compare who does more, but to form a natural flow of who has time to pay. A happy marriage is indispensable to a sentence of "Hard work, I come." ”
When frustrated, know how to understand you
In recent years, because of the epidemic, enterprises have closed down, and employees have lost their jobs.
Xiao Wang's husband Xiao Zhang is one of them, unfortunately optimized, and had to find another way out. Xiao Zhang wants to simply start his own business, watching the economy slowly recover, taking the opportunity to start a business and do a big job. Xiao Wang did not interfere with her choice, but accompanied him as soon as he had time. Relying on his own savings, Xiao Zhang went around to investigate the market and installed a façade to open smoothly.
He did not think that the epidemic was suddenly serious and completely disrupted his rhythm, which could not bear the loss caused by the epidemic for Xiao Zhang's new store. He chose to return the lease to pay back. Shut yourself in your room day and night. When his wife persuaded him, he yelled at her and told her to roll.
Although Xiao Wang does not like her husband to "throw gas on himself", he will not argue with him. Every day, I made a good meal and brought it to my husband to comfort him. She even put 50 percent of her savings into her husband's account to help him pay off his debts.
No matter how much romance, no matter how touching the vows, can not compare to the consistent companionship, Xiao Wang's understanding, and finally let Xiao Zhang come out. When a husband and wife live, one of them will suddenly encounter difficulties: career failure, or sudden illness... A partner who can understand each other and accompany each other through suffering is more likely to complete this life.
Gorky said: Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the difficulties and hardships of the world together. The marriage of adults must not only have love, heartbeat, and heartache, but also have the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, and the tacit understanding of Qinse and Ming. When you are proud, clap your hands and laugh, and when you are frustrated, you are in the same boat.
Good relationship lies in working together with heart
Unhappy marriages vary, but happy marriages have one thing in common: a willingness to compromise and give in for you. In life, the happiest thing is to meet someone who can open up to you, so that you can show your weakness to him, and snuggle up to each other and go on. It's like: "You win, I accompany you to the world; you lose, I accompany you to make a comeback." May you spend the rest of your life with her/him and you.