What kind of state is it for middle-aged people?
Liang Wendao explained it like this:
"The advantage of young people is that every young person believes that he can fly. When middle-aged people incite their wings, there are still heavy scales on both sides of the wings that cannot be shaken off. ”
I thought that after fading the innocence of my youth, I thought that after accumulating a certain amount of contacts, I thought that after mastering some skills, after entering middle age, I would be able to live more comfortably.
In fact, while living makes you grow, it also makes you shoulder some unshirkable responsibilities.
When people reach middle age, they are powerless in the face of many things, because they are in the situation of "old and old and small", no matter what they do, they will have more worries.
As a result, we always see the concerns of middle-aged people as a kind of despair, thinking that they do not understand the style, and that their lives are too boring.
But in fact, for middle-aged people, desperation is just a kind of last resort.
In Zhu Ziqing's reminiscent essay "Back Shadow", he uses a delicate handwriting to portray the love of his middle-aged father for him.
From the time his father took him to the train station, took care of him to get on the train, and bought him oranges, in the whole process, he was slightly disgusted with his father's clumsiness, he laughed at his father's lack of beauty, and he laughed at his father's detours.
But in the end, when he saw his father dragging that clumsy body and climbing up and down on the platform, he still secretly shed tears.
When he recalled this back, he finally understood his father's difficulty, and he also understood his father's love for him that he did not easily reveal.
The back of Zhu Ziqing's father is also the back of many fathers in life, and the burden in life has long been bent on their waist, but responsibility and love have forced them to work hard to straighten their waist.
Life in middle age is really not easy.
Life is not easy, creating a middle-aged man's despair.
Young men and women will yearn for love, and even talk about love into the most important thing in life, but for middle-aged people, sentient beings cannot drink enough, even if they love a person again, they are not willing to give up too much for them.
As a result, many people will feel that the behavior of middle-aged people is too impersonal, too desperate, and will doubt their so-called love.
But in fact, love is not the same at different ages.
For example, if you are a young person, you may recognize the story of Liang Zhuhua butterfly and be moved to tears because of their love, but if you are a middle-aged person, you may feel that they are too irresponsible and have failed those who love them.
It is not because they do not expect love, but because they have more important things in their hearts than the pursuit of love, and they have more things that they need to bear.
Their hearts are still looking forward to love, yearning for the beauty of "holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son", but they are more afraid of hurting themselves, so they will pretend to be desperate.
When people reach middle age, only a few people are not married, and most middle-aged people have already tried the taste of marriage, so they see marriage more openly.
The goddess Maggie Cheung, when she was young, was a crazy woman for love, after several ups and downs in the love field, she thought she could find her own home, and finally she was alone.
Later, middle-aged, she finally let go of her attachment to love, she worked hard to realize the rock dream in her heart, even if she was questioned, she still had the courage to face it, and lived wantonly and dashingly.
In fact, for love, she does not completely lose her expectations, but compared with love, she wants to live her own life and love herself well.
Admittedly, for love, no matter what age people are, it is not something that can be forced.
Even if love has not arrived, as long as you hold a hot heart and live your life well, this journey of life is still wonderful.
When they were young, they didn't have so many responsibilities on their bodies, they didn't have so many burdens in their hearts, and they didn't have such goals in their eyes, so naturally, they were willing to invest more time and energy in love.
Moreover, middle-aged people do not invest so much time and energy, they are like a "coward", groping in the dark, once the damage is found, it will be hidden in the dark again.
In fact, such desperation is a disguise made to protect oneself.
After all, when people reach middle age and shoulder heavy responsibilities, if they do not know how to protect themselves, how can they protect the people they want to protect and assume their own responsibilities?
We are not ascetics of cultivation, and naturally we cannot cut off our seven passions and six desires, but many times, the pressure of life is too great, and we can only force ourselves to step by step towards despair.
The desperation of middle-aged people is actually a disguise.
If so, who wouldn't want to be loved and pampered?
No matter what kind of lifestyle, as long as the person has worked hard, he deserves to be respected.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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