If you want to get a foothold in the future society, you need not only solid basic skills, but also enough emotional intelligence. A person's success requires 80% emotional intelligence and 20% IQ. It can be seen that between emotional intelligence and IQ, the former is more important.
Speaking of which, many parents are still a little unclear, mainly because they don't know much about emotional intelligence. In the thinking of the older generation: emotional intelligence is the expression of treating people and things. If the child has a cheerful personality, especially can talk and do things, it is a typical high emotional intelligence.
There is nothing wrong with such a view, it is just not comprehensive enough. The so-called emotional intelligence actually includes many aspects: not only has a very clear understanding of themselves, but also can effectively control emotions and recognize the emotions of others. At the same time, it can also achieve self-motivation and deal with interrelationships.
It is no exaggeration to say that people with high emotional intelligence have almost no shortcomings, and no matter what they do or say, they can reveal wisdom from the inside out. Most importantly, it is particularly comfortable to get along with such people, there will be no sense of oppression, and there will be no sense of inferiority.
You know, once you have a super high emotional intelligence, even if you are not very smart, you still have a very good future. It is precisely in this way that parents are eager to stimulate their inner potential and stimulate their emotional intelligence when raising their children.
As everyone knows, the level of children's emotional intelligence is all hidden in daily life. Many inadvertent behaviors expose the child's emotional intelligence. Sadly, they have sent out signals of low emotional intelligence, but parents have not received them, so that they miss the best time for education.
Do parents know about these manifestations of low emotional intelligence of children?
1, no manners, nest horizontal
Parenting is carved into the bones, but many children show impoliteness from an early age. They treat their parents and elders with disrespect, and even speak ill of them, with no tutoring at all. Imagine that even your dearest parents and family can treat them like this, which is completely a manifestation of no gratitude.
The most amazing thing is that these children look one way at home and another when they go out. It is hard to imagine that these children in the nest will be so timid and cowardly when they go out.
2, go to other people's homes as a guest, randomly turn around
Is it good or bad for a mature child? Parents always feel that having a cheerful personality and being able to quickly adapt to unfamiliar environments should be a good thing. But everything should pay attention to the boundaries, if you take your children to other people's homes as a guest, as if you are in your own home, how can such behavior be acceptable?
It seems that the personality is very lively, but the behavior is completely a manifestation of low emotional intelligence. Touching other people's things without the permission of others can really only be described as uncultured.
3. Shirk responsibility and often complain about others
As long as something bad happens, they will find a way to excuse themselves and pass the responsibility to others. Many elderly people actually think that this is a manifestation of children's intelligence and think that they are very brainy. I just want to say: how much will a child who does not even dare to bear the responsibility grow up?
Habitual resentment and always living in negative emotions are extremely detrimental to the child's physical and mental development. When encountering things, he complains, but never finds the reason from himself.
If you find that your child has these behaviors, parents really need to be vigilant and help them correct them. You know, no matter what kind of behavior in it is, it is difficult to get the likes and appreciation of others, and it directly cuts off the social road.
In the future, these children who do not know gratitude, do not understand politeness, and are not educated will eventually pay for their actions. Either a mediocre life, or no friends... In short, it is difficult to do great things, and it is doomed to do nothing all your life.
How to cultivate your child's emotional intelligence? This is the focus of parents' greater concern
Quite simply, be an enlightened and "lazy" parent. In life, use encouragement to educate children, so that they can learn to be self-reliant and have the ability to live alone. Because in the process of continuous learning independence, children will extend more good habits, such as persistence, bravery and so on.
Be sure to teach children to be polite, which is the most basic ability to deal with the world. People who are truly polite can exchange the likes and respect of others and get the approval of more people. Politeness isn't just about saying "I'm sorry" or "thank you," but about always being grateful.
Another is to take advantage of the young age of children to take them into contact with society and experience more storms in life. The external environment will give children different cognitions, as if opening their "Pandora's box", which will stimulate unlimited potential. In fact, after more experience, the child will mature unconsciously, and the emotional intelligence will slowly improve.
Written at the end: Emotional intelligence determines how far a child can go in the future; IQ determines the height of the child's future. Most of the time, parents and children should get along like friends and confidants. Discover each other's shortcomings, tell each other sincerely, and help each other and correct each other.