The deep-rooted upbringing is hidden in these 30 details!

Writer Liang Xiaosheng once said a classic "four words of culture":

"Culture is a cultivation rooted in the heart, a self-consciousness without reminding, a freedom premised on constraints, and a goodness for the sake of others."

The same applies to human upbringing.

Upbringing is our calling card for people. It is like a spring breeze that moisturizes the hearts and spleens of the people around you, and it will also moisturize your own heart.

The upbringing in a person's bones is not a deliberate action, but an act made without thinking. It can't fit and won't be easily lost.

These 30 details of life are deeply hidden in our upbringing.

01

Moving the chair in public will be lifted instead of dragging directly to avoid causing a lot of movement or harsh sounds.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Not disturbing your attention is my greatest tenderness.

02

After washing your hands in public, throw water out of nowhere to avoid throwing it on others.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

In public, mutual understanding and public morality are preserved.

03

When I was about to enter the door, I saw a person in front of me deliberately pulling on the doorknob waiting for me to enter, so I accelerated my pace and caught the doorknob in time.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Hurry up and catch someone else's tiny kindness.

04

Open the WeChat group, see someone in front of you sent some key information, the following will not randomly send useless messages, so that the important messages will be on top.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Avoid adding useless work to others.

05

Go to someone for help, meet him is eating, at this time, first find a suitable reason to leave, wait for the other party to finish eating and then come back.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

When you're done eating, I'll come back.

06

Someone asks for help, if they are busy at the time, if they can predict it, tell the other party how long to wait; if they can't, tell the other party, and they will come over when they are busy.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Let those who are waiting have a score in their hearts.

07

Someone called to communicate things, if you are eating, you must first empty your mouth and put the food away.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Don't let you feel disrespected.

08

When others are speaking, even if they want to interject, they must bear to wait for others to finish.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

When you're done, I'll say it.

09

Friend A told himself the secret of Ta, and if Friend B asked later, even if the relationship with Ta was good, it could not be leaked to B.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Secrets are between two people, I will not tell others, I will guard your sense of security.

10

When you want to send WeChat voice to others, ask in advance: Am I sending voice, is it convenient to listen? After getting a positive reply, send it again.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Before switching contact information, make sure it is convenient.

11

The person around you does an embarrassing thing, don't stare at him all the time, just as if nothing happened, or deliberately avoid it.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Take care of your situation and don't let you lose face.

12

Don't say you're fat in front of people who are plumper than yourself; don't say you're poor in front of people who don't earn more yourself.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Do not pour salt on other people's wounds.

13

At dinner, after pouring yourself water, put the pot in a place where the other party can easily reach, and point the handle of the pot towards the other party.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

If it can be more convenient for you, it will be more convenient for you.

14

Go out to dinner with everyone, encounter favorite foods, and don't clip too much into your own bowl.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Others may also like this dish.

15

Borrow someone else's car, and when you're done, remember to fill up with oil or wash your car in return for friendship.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

In the face of affection, there are comings and goings.

16

When handing scissors, pencils, and other objects to others, hold the pointed end in your hand and point it at yourself.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Think a little more about others.

17

Advanced elevators, will hold down the door button until everyone comes up.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

If you can wait, you can wait.

18

Ask for permission before borrowing something, and don't look for it privately, even if the relationship is familiar.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Be measured and do not go beyond the boundaries.

19

Go to someone else's house and don't sit casually on someone's bed.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Even if the Lord is casual, he is not casual.

20

When sending off guests, try to wait until you can't see the guests before closing the door.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Send you away until you can't see it.

21

Talking to a child will crouch down and be at eye level with him.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Looking at you at a level, not being condescending or proud.

22

On public transportation such as subways and buses, do not lean on the handrails as a whole, and do not squeeze the space of neighboring seats with your body or objects.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Do not influence others for your own sake.

23

Look at photos on other people's phones and don't swipe left and right without permission.

To send a photo with someone else to a public platform, you need to seek the consent of the other party in advance.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Respect the privacy of others and do not snoop without permission.

24

Knock on the door before you enter, even if you go into your own child's room.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Can I come in?

25

Ask others to help with things, ask for the price, and return the money to the other party in time.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Conscious.

26

After explaining or explaining to others, do you understand it, and do you make it clear to me?

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Change the tone and make it comfortable.

27

If you make garbage in public, please pack it up and take it with you when you leave.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Raise your hand, don't add trouble.

28

Thousands of miles to send goose feathers, courtesy light and affectionate. Gifts from friends, whether valuable or not, should be truly appreciated and cherished.

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Value the will of others, even if it is insignificant.

29

I don't remember where I saw such a story:

A little girl came home at night, and there were several strong men who had drunk wine at the elevator entrance, and when they were worried, one of the strong men seemed to see through her thoughts, and smiled and said to her:

"Little girl, you go first, and we'll sit down so you won't be afraid."

There is a kind of upbringing called:

There is a tiger in the heart, and a fine sniff of the roses.

30

We are always polite to outsiders, but we often lose our temper with our own families, and we don't talk lightly or seriously.

Why do we always hurt the people closest to us when we are polite to strangers we don't know?

There is a kind of upbringing called:

Don't be angry with those close to you just because you are loved.

The writer Diane once said:

"Parenting, this thing is like a blood vessel. It can grow intricately in the deepest parts of a person's flesh and blood, inseparable. ”

In the long life, we will meet all kinds of people and all kinds of things.

But no matter what, we must stick to our own upbringing, so that we can live confidently, warm and light.

For the rest of our lives, may we all hide our upbringing in the details and portray our lives with upbringing.