The stone of his mountain can attack jade, these 8 rules of upbringing are remarkable, parents may wish to try

Many people know that Germans attach great importance to family education, and realistically speaking, their education has a lot to learn from our parents. German education pays more attention to imparting skills, focusing on cultivating children's lifelong habits and problem-solving skills.

In preschool education, Germans pay more attention to the training of children's concentration and logical thinking.

Overall, their curriculum is more inclined to allow children to learn through play, both scientifically and fun.

Just a few days ago, the Ministry of Education issued a new policy of "listing the labor curriculum as an independent curriculum", from which we can see that the educational concept between the two coincides in some aspects.

It is the stone of the mountain can attack jade, the following eight rules of upbringing are remarkable, parents may wish to try.

01 Learning ability is greater than grades, so that children become independent individuals

Parents who educate short-sighted parents often only focus on their children's academic performance, but neglect the more important ability development.

1. Children need to be cared for, but also experienced.

For example, parents do not want to do everything, but let the child do more and experience more, so as to improve the child's practical ability to be independent in the future.

2. Let go and let the child grow.

Letting go and letting children grow is the first lesson of learning independence. Believing in children's feelings and judgment cannot replace children's feelings with adult experience.

02 Teaching by example is more important than words

There is a saying that goes: to educate children, parents should not shout out their throats, but better to make an example for their children.

A good example from parents will bring children a silent effect on moisturizing things.

In the early stages of their child's growth, parents need to give their children a good example in the following aspects:

1. Create a harmonious family atmosphere.

A good family environment can promote the growth of children. Only when the family atmosphere is harmonious, it is possible to teach children with a peaceful mind.

2. Be trustworthy to your child.

A promise of gold is not only a virtue for the outside world, but also the key to parents establishing "parental authority" in the family. Parents are trustworthy to their children, and children can learn from them and can also be trustworthy.

3. Become a parent who loves to read.

A child who does not love to read is a potential poor student. Many parents are also aware of the importance of letting their children read.

Since we want our children to become a person who loves to read, we may as well show our children a love of reading, which is more useful than preaching to children countless times, because children will be unconsciously brought to the world of reading by their parents. A child who loves to read will soon become a leader in learning.

Not only that, reading is also an important basis for children to form an independent personality.

03 Do not fight, do not condone, let the child grow naturally

If parents are condescending, loud reprimands, and impatient, they will only fill their children with pressure. On the other hand, if parents regard their children as equal individuals, they often encourage their children, and children who are physically and mentally happy are more likely to develop.

1. Do not interfere, encourage more, let the children learn independently. 2. Even if the child makes a mistake, he will not reprimand him casually. 3. Respect your child's voice and understand your child's ideas.

04 Moderate tempering is an excellent exercise for children's mental and physical abilities

Practice your bones and bones, sharpen your will. Allowing children to grow up in collisions can hone their courage and guts.

We want to let children hone moderately in normal times, such as doing housework and simple labor, etc., which is an excellent exercise for children's mental and physical fitness.

Many parents pay more attention to subject courses and ignore the importance of labor courses. In fact, labor courses are indispensable for children's healthy growth. Therefore, it is beneficial to moderately let the child do housework and participate in simple labor within his ability.

05 Tolerance without indulgence, establishing rules is more effective than preaching

To formulate rules, we must persist in them, and it is the key to education to let children act according to the rules.

1. Establish family rules, which are more effective than preaching.

Family rules are not just for children, but for all family members.

In terms of abiding by the rules, parents should make a good example to their children, strengthen the seriousness of the rules, and use the rules to restrain and regulate the words and deeds of the children, and the educational effect is better than that of adults simply making demands on children.

If parents break the rules, after the children see it, they will not only destroy the three views, but also begin to despise, neglect and perfunctory rules, and the family rules will lose their feasibility, so that the next cost of education will be greatly increased.

2. Treat children with tolerance.

Children will inevitably make mistakes and break the rules, and if they are simply and rudely reprimanded, the educational effect will be counterproductive.

Parents treat their children with tolerance, which is more likely to arouse their children's empathy and finally achieve the purpose of self-adjustment.

3. If the child can do it himself, the parents should not easily help.

The reason is simple, parents do what they can for their children, which is equivalent to depriving them of the opportunity to try, and they will never get the opportunity to grow.

And failure itself is also a special growth for children, so we should not worry about children not doing well and failing, and cross the line to do what they can do well for children.

06 Cultivate good habits and build good character

Habits develop character, and character determines destiny. Whether it is habits or personality, it is a major event related to the growth of children.

1. Cultivate good habits in children.

The most important thing to do to educate children is to cultivate their good habits, and habit formation includes many aspects, such as living habits, learning habits, reading habits and so on.

These habits developed from an early age will greatly affect the subsequent growth of the child, and it is no exaggeration to say that it has a decisive impact on the child's life.

2. Build a good character for your child.

Children's character development generally begins before school age, and the most critical is before the age of 6.

If the child lacks a good personality, it will affect all aspects, such as interpersonal communication, attitude, self-control and so on.

There are several ways to build a child's good character:

One is to give children enough security, simply put, to give children high-quality companionship; the other is to create a warm and harmonious family environment. Whether the family environment is harmonious or not directly affects the healthy development of the child's physical and mental health; the third is to treat the child with patience and allow the child to make mistakes. The more patient the parents are, the more they understand tolerance, the better the child's mentality; the fourth is not to accommodate the child's unreasonable demands; the fifth is to appropriately "delegate power" to the child; the sixth is to teach the child to learn to assume his own responsibility; the seventh is not to impose the will of adults on the child; the eighth is to treat the child with a gentle and firm attitude.

07 Give children independent growth space, the future can have unlimited development

Give your children more room to grow freely and let them learn to be responsible for themselves.

Even if the child does not meet our requirements temporarily, we should not arbitrarily belittle the child, but encourage the child to learn from others.

Each child is unique, different children need different educational programs, we must teach according to their aptitudes, it is possible for children to have unlimited development possibilities.

08 Cultivate children's self-control

Self-control is better than control. The educational goals achieved by parents by controlling their children are far less than the educational goals achieved by children through self-control.

A child with self-control can properly arrange his study and life, and can maximize the use and control of time.

Because they are able to exercise self-control, they can arrange their own learning without the supervision of any external forces.

But self-control is not an innate ability, need to be cultivated through the day after tomorrow to form, before the school age to cultivate children's self-control, can achieve the most ideal educational results.

epilogue

The main purpose of education is to awaken children's strength, cultivate their various abilities, including independent learning, induction and comprehension, and lay a solid foundation for them to eventually become the best version of themselves.