Mark Wayne says:
"As soon as you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to stop and reflect."
Most people today, in order to live a stable life, seem to be consciously or unconsciously close to the "public" and integrate into various circles.
Then, in this lively, pyrotechnic "community", there are constantly dabbling in something new, constantly absorbing so-called new knowledge.
These people are afraid of being left behind by life, by the group, by the times, so they are anxious, anxious, confused.
In fact, the more people are in a group environment, one-sidedly absorbing the so-called successful and growing knowledge, the more they fall into an endless sense of anxiety and pressure.
It's like a dish in a meal, a bowl of rice, a full stomach, and just a good life.
But one day you suddenly find that you have to be like those "salesmen", ten dishes in a meal, a bowl of rice.
The amount of food has not changed, but the dishes are more, so you have an excess at every meal, your stomach is getting bigger and bigger, your fat is getting fatter and fatter, and your body is getting more and more unhealthy.
Blindly following the crowd, going with the flow, others give you definitions and standards, you don't even think about it, the body and brain have agreed.
As a result, the steps of your life begin to be chaotic, and your heart is also chaotic.
Confused, instead of knowing how to reflect and not examining which link went wrong, he continued to explore solutions with the original initiators.
And then, in a dead loop, it can't come out again.
1: The power of introspection
In the "Mid-Levels Anthology" I saw this passage:
"The grinding wheel of life is very heavy, you think it is crushing you, but in fact it is teaching you delicacy, and helping you present the details of life, so that you do not spend this life too roughly." 」
The person who really has HuiGen is that when he faces the same encounters and difficulties, he sees a turnaround, a challenge that can be faced.
And people who lack cognitive ability, once they encounter difficulties, first of all, they are afraid, anxious, and then anxious, never stop, calm down and reflect on it.
We can think about why some people are getting stronger and stronger, and why are some people living worse and worse?
Is it because the strong eat one more bowl of rice per meal than the weak person, and sleep an hour more a day?
In fact, the difference between the strong and the weak is that one is replacing thinking with the body, and the other is using thinking to look forward to the future.
In the course of life, most people will experience such things as starting a family, and some people are defeated and crushed in it.
And some people, not only take care of the family very well, but also gradually make their lives to glory.
If the beauty of life becomes a kind of survival pressure in you, you should not complain about this society, but should reflect on yourself in time.
If complaining were useful, there wouldn't be so many people in this society who live like the walking dead.
Therefore, smart people, when they encounter problems, are to solve problems, and wise people, when they encounter problems, are introspective problems.
Hugo says:
"Being unmasked is a failure, taking off one's own mask is a victory."
So, whether you want to be unmasked by real life, or do you want to be brave enough to unmask yourself and then live out your own strength, you decide.
Any annoyance, pain, stress, and despair in life is actually a reminder that it is time to reflect and make a change.
You will find that the moment you start to actively reflect on yourself, everything seems to have changed, everything seems to have changed again.
I like what Heine said:
"Introspection is a mirror that clearly illuminates our mistakes and gives us a chance to correct them."
As a person, you must not have the idea of "hiding your illness and avoiding medical treatment", obviously there are problems, but also try to maintain yourself and say that there is no problem, and even always favor your own vulnerability and self-esteem.
In the face of the greatest principle of strengthening oneself, all careful thoughts and small ideas should not come out and deny anything, but everything should be based on strength.
Only in this way can we reflect on our own mistakes, and then correct them, improve ourselves, change ourselves, and create ourselves.
2: The wisdom of introspection
In Lost, Xi Silk writes:
"Only if you have suffered deeply can you understand the pain of others, so it is rare to reflect on yourself."
Once people walk in the world, they will more or less experience the so-called bitterness, bitterness, sorrow, and sorrow, and it is precisely because they have experienced the pain of the skin that they can understand the pain of others.
Although Mr. Lu Xun once said that the joys and sorrows between people are not connected, although this is the case, it does not mean that the emotional communication between people is completely blocked.
People are animals with feelings, many times, we have more self-examination, there is more tolerance in the heart, more tolerance in the heart, which means that there is a love in the heart.
A person's upbringing that is deep in the bones lies in the fact that there is more caution in the heart.
Prudent and independent people, self-discipline in doing things, and self-conscious.
And a person's deeper upbringing lies in being "cautious of the masses."
That is to say, whether it is when you are alone or in a group of people, you can be strict with yourself and introspect yourself.
When a person is independent, it is difficult to achieve self-examination and cautious independence, but in a chaotic group, it is even more difficult to continue to maintain cautious independence and self-examination, and it is even more difficult to achieve "prudence".
However, if one perceives the wisdom of self-confidence and can also use this wisdom from the process of self-practice, and finally get a steady stream of positive feedback from it.
Then, we can say that this kind of person has already understood life and life.
3: Examine life
The famous great philosopher Socrates said:
An unexamined life is not worth living.
Really powerful people will seriously reflect on their lives, work and feelings.
Anything related to themselves, or even irrelevant, they will think about it, settle down, enrich themselves, and lay out their lives.
The French poet Ruckett said:
"Life can't be twice, but many people are not good at even once."
There is nothing sadder in life than this, so as long as you don't want to get rid of your life, it becomes a tragedy.
Then, you must allow yourself to be in the process of examining yourself, reflecting on life, and introspecting yourself.
Find out the shortcomings, correct the pain points, reject internal friction, focus on growth, and then build a blue sky of life, create a wonderful life, and enjoy every beautiful moment.
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