To our emotions
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feeling
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Author—Xia Mo · Anchor - Yao Xiaoming
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To emotional originality
Emotional
2022.4.17
Department gathering, everyone drank three rounds, began to talk about the topic of blind date, the most powerful voice in the dozen people is Ms Wu and Liu Sir, as the elderly single youth they have been dating many times, but repeatedly unsuccessful.
Ms Wu and Liu Sir have their own different views on blind dates, chatting and chatting began to tit-for-tat, red face, sitting on the side of us do not know how to be good.
Liu Sir's point of view is that the girl who is now blind date is too realistic, and has high requirements for appearance and economic conditions, which can be said to be a seam on the egg. Ms Wu strongly refuted Liu Sir's views.
Ms Wu said that as a woman, of course, you should find an excellent and good condition of the man, so as to ensure the future life, and after marriage, you must have children to take care of the children to take care of the elderly, wash and cook, unconsciously become a housewife, women's sacrifice is greater than men, so it is normal to seek a man with good conditions before marriage.
Hearing Ms Wu's defense, Liu Sir was not willing to show weakness, he said that it was right to find a good condition, but first you have to see if you are worthy of that excellent. What is the sacrifice of a woman greater than a man!' After marriage, isn't it hard for men to desperately earn money outside to support their families? Not only do they have to pay off their mortgages to support their wives and children but also their parents, so men's sacrifices are even greater.
As the debate between the two of them became more and more intense for more than half an hour, and finally broke up, perhaps, I can more or less understand why the two are still single after many blind dates.
In fact, I think that both of them are right, they are all starting from their own standpoint, but what is missing is that it is really important to think in empathy, understand each other, and tolerate each other, whether it is in love or marriage.
Someone said: "Marriage is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1." That is, the two men each cut off half of their own personalities and shortcomings, and then put together to be complete. "It's like a combination of swords, many problems need to be faced by two people in the future, not just one person's efforts, if only one person tries to maintain this marriage after marriage, then it will definitely be unfortunate."
Whether it is blind date or love, the final destination or marriage, of course, marriage must find a suitable person, some people say that you should find the right door, some people say that you should find your own likes, whether you value each other's conditions or value feelings, there is one thing you can't ignore, that is, the character of both parties.
Even if the other party's conditions are good, you have a special feeling, but after marriage, how can you guarantee that you will not break up because of the difference in personality between the two sides, if you think it is not a problem, then I can only tell you one sentence, the ideal is happy, the reality is bone.
So I think that two people must fully understand each other before getting married, especially each other's personality, if there is a difference, you must run into it, and this run-in must not wait until after marriage, otherwise you will really regret it.
Finally, I would like to say that whether you go on a blind date or fall in love freely, you are ultimately running to get married, and the happiness of marriage is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1.
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