Meet happiness and live up to the waiting
Text / Li Hongtu / Hu Lishu
Halfway through life, I turned around and found that there were still many people around me alone, I am not a forced marriage family, really! If I had a chance to do it all over again, I would also like to choose to go it alone.
I often feel that some men are animals in the two-dimensional world, as evidenced by this: the husband of a girlfriend mentioned viciously in a quarrel: "There is only one mother, and the daughter-in-law can find a lot." "What a strange idea! Why in a family, it is necessary to put the daughter-in-law on the opposite side of the mother? Can't these two creatures coexist in harmony? So many xenomorphs on earth can coexist harmoniously and have a long history, not to mention that mothers and daughters-in-law are not only the same species but also women? Isn't It Women Help Women? I think that many times, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no contradictions, but are caused by the son packaging himself as a victim of marriage and spitting bitter water in front of the mother's eyes.
The daughter understands the truth at the age of 12, and many adults not only do not understand, but are always deceived. One holiday, After eating at her grandmother's house, Young-hee came back and complained to me very wrongly: "Mom, I want to tell you something, but you have to make sure you don't get angry." ”
I'm a little curious, what the hell is that?
"Today Grandma gave me an example in front of me again saying that you are not good, I was very angry and retorted to her, my mother has not seen you for two years, you don't know her at all, where did these crutches come from?" There is no basis for it. "I listened to the clapping and laughing, and I wanted to add to the guilt of a lie that even a child could see through, and her son could always believe it? It is estimated that he did not believe those words, but was happy in his heart that someone could be on the same front as him, and blamed the unhappiness of the marriage on the fault of his daughter-in-law, then he was a perfect person, so that he could wipe out his own evil heart and continue to make things up with peace of mind.
What bothers me the most now is that every time I go back to my mother's house for dinner, my mother will always urge me: "If you don't have a son, the marriage will not be saved." I looked at her with wide eyes: "Do you have a throne in the family to inherit?" Why don't I know? "I think the essence of marriage is that two people share the responsibility of living and raising and educating the next generation, reducing the cost of living, reducing the burden of life, and improving the quality of life." If on this basis, two people can still love each other, foam at each other, support each other, and make progress together, then it is a marriage upgrade to a 2.0 version of happiness. If you can't even reach the 1.0 version of life, and you still have to use the birth of a son as a life-saving straw to maintain the marriage, isn't it outrageously wrong?
I often meet many older unmarried young people, and I never advise marriage, because I feel that most of the time the hardships of life are brought about by marriage. Marriage and singleness are just different ways of life, the essence is to survive while maintaining the needs of life and emotions, can be freely chosen, the Constitution does not stipulate that citizens must marry to be legal. Marriage is like a coat for each of us, if you can't shelter from the wind and rain, give warmth, but also make people unclothed, let people see jokes, it is better to get rid of it early, and let both parties be free and comfortable.
Ma Yili's "and do and cherish" I now understand a few points: women in marriage are always weak, even if they are PUA, cold violence and even domestic violence, one is that the survival skills are not strong, it is difficult to be independent, the second is the involvement of children, and the third is that society treats divorced women differently, in short, the cost paid by women is much higher than that of men. So she can only do her best to maintain, but it is such a painstaking effort that it is more capital for men to do whatever they want. Some people commented that Ma Yili only chose to divorce and let go of the article after seeing Yao Di get married, this statement is too small to look at women, not to mention such a famous woman who has been floating in Vanity Fair for many years and stands up resolutely, I think she should be a building that is difficult to save the marriage with all her strength, and after being eroded little by little, it will collapse and collapse, and then let go.
Some people say: low-quality marriage is not as good as high-quality single, I do not encourage singleness, but if singleness can make your life better, then let go of the prejudice and obsession of marriage to maintain singleness, but never stop the pace of finding a soul mate. Life is short and impermanent, if you find it, you must be brave to show love, love with all your strength, meet happiness, and live up to the wait.