Introduction: There is an old saying that marriage should pay attention to the door to the door, in this era of love first, some people think that this sentence is too powerful, do you have to pay so much attention to getting married? When you actually get married, you will find out that the old saying is true.
I believe we have all heard of "poverty alleviation marriage", mention this word, first of all, the economic strength of both sides is not equal, on this basis marriage will inevitably have various contradictions and problems, so the general poverty alleviation marriage will not be blessed.
"15 million yuan of demolition money will be divided into 13 million yuan for me", the wife of fu di mo said, and the husband was speechless
As the saying goes: "Marry someone without marrying a phoenix man, and marrying a wife without marrying a brother and a demon." I have seen many examples on TV, like Fan Shengmei in "Ode to Joy", helping her brother pay a down payment, and even helping her brother repay a loan, while she lived a tight life, once being "eroded" by the original family and pulled into the bottom of life.
We used to think that this kind of thing only happened on the screen, but in real life we found a more outrageous thing than the screen.
The Guangzhou boy demolished 15 million, and the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law lion opened their mouths to ask for 13 million for their brother.
Guangzhou a small group of parents demolition to share 15 million, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law after learning to claim to give themselves 13 million, the reason is very strange, to buy a house for the brother-in-law to get married, if the man does not agree, immediately divorce, many netizens have complained "just worried that there is no reason to divorce it, hurry up and leave."
The man also responded helplessly, the house is his parents', has always been able to help a hand is a hand, but this time really did not expect to 13 million.
In fact, no matter which laws and regulations are based, this money has nothing to do with the woman, although after getting married, it is a family, and there are difficulties that should help each other, but also remember that helping is love, not helping is the duty, and the marriage tied with interests will not be happy.
Of course, the result of this matter is also like the public imagination, ending in divorce. There are many netizens who complain that the woman is too stupid, there are so many demolition funds and rush at this time, and the man who has to help the place where there is a help will definitely help, and the lion's big opening can be said to directly ruin the marital love of these years.
As the saying goes, "a day husband and wife a hundred days of grace", in the end the man still gave the woman 1 million, after all, in these years the woman also paid a lot.
Originally a good family has become two families because of this matter, the idea of son preference can be said to have always been deeply rooted, and the woman may also have a lot of unavoidable choice, tied up by the original family into "Voldemort", but also buried her marriage, can be the biggest victim of the whole leave.
Should women really give everything for their families of origin?
Although it is said that society cannot enter now, the level of education is generally high, and now it is a peaceful and democratic society, advocating equality between men and women, but are men and women really equal? Certainly not, there are still some places in our country that have prevailed in the idea of son preference.
Girls, whether they are sisters at home or sisters in the family, seem to have been born for their older brother or younger brother in the family.
In some places, the bride price received by the girl in the family will be directly given to the younger brother as a dowry, and the sister will earn money to subsidize the family for the sake of her brother or brother dropping out of school early, and even save money to buy a house for her brother or brother to start a family in the future.
Even after these girls have become their own families, they must continue to be "Voldemort", growing up in this concept from childhood to adulthood, girls even lose their egos, if they do not help their original families, they will even feel guilty, this distorted values doom the girls' marriage will not be happy, let alone lasting.
After the girl marries and becomes a family, she is an "outsider" to the in-laws and a "guest" to the mother-in-law's family, it seems that the fate of the girls is sad, can the girls not control their own destiny?
Definitely not.
Women should be brave enough to be themselves and remain sober and principled at all times
First, women should not be kidnapped by the morality of their original families. It is right for a family to help each other when they have difficulties, but the premise is that they cannot sacrifice the happiness of the girls, the girls themselves must be sober, you are an independent part, you have the right to be yourself, you must do your best to help when you should help, but if you want to sacrifice your whole, then you have to be brave and say no.
Just like in "Ode to Joy", we often sympathize with Fan Shengmei, but everything about her is also self-inflicted, she has the opportunity to refuse, but she does not refuse. So, girls, you must have your own principles.
Second, we must learn to handle the relationship between the three parties. After marriage, it is not one family, but three families, and the handling of each relationship is a science.
Especially after you have children, you must learn to deal with the contradictions between the families, just like the story of the Guangzhou guy, after the divorce, in addition to the woman who is hurt, there are also her own children, and what is wrong with her children, so for her children, women should be brave and try to deal with family relations.
In the end, the happiness of the girls must be firmly in their own hands, tough and principled, gentle and powerful, not humble, not compromised. It is never others who can make you happy forever, but yourself, so women, brave to be yourself.