There is a classic line in the movie "The Godfather": Softness without boundaries will only make the other party inch; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants.
Especially in the family, the softer you are, the more benevolent you are, the more the other party will be able to advance. If the parents are more partial, then most of the time, the person with the soft heart will only become the parents' ATM.
The writer ShiYi once said: The root cause of disputes in multi-child families is not the love of brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents. The injustice of parents will not only cause resentment between brothers, but also cause contradictions between children and parents, and finally gradually separate.
01, obviously two sons, but parents only prefer the younger son
Zheng Mingzhe never thought that he would tear his face with his parents in the year of confusion, and it was also because of his parents' eccentricity.
Zheng Mingzhe is the eldest son in the family, from childhood to adulthood, the most his parents said to him is, you are an older brother, you have to let your younger brother, you must know how to love children. So the advice of his parents became the shackles of Zheng Mingzhe and could not break free.
Zheng Mingzhe grew up with good grades in school, was admitted to a foreign university by his own efforts, and successfully graduated and stayed in the local city to find a job. But the younger brother is not good, he has not loved to read since he was a child, and his grades are always at the bottom of the class. So after graduating from junior high school, my brother chose to drop out of school and break into society.
The younger brother has been wandering in society for several years, but he still has nothing to do, he can't even support himself, and he still has to ask his parents for his monthly living expenses. His parents were distressed by him, and often transferred it to their younger brother immediately after receiving the filial piety fee from their eldest son.
Even though Zheng Mingzhe later married the only daughter in the city as his wife, his parents still did not put too much thought into him. Instead, he always contributed money to help his brother get married and marry his wife, and then his sister-in-law gave birth to a child, and his parents rushed to help bring the child to raise the child.
The completely different treatment of his parents to his brother and himself made Zheng Mingzhe feel very hurt in his heart. He didn't understand that they were all sons, so why did his parents only favor his brother and be extremely indifferent to him?
02. "The demolition money is evenly shared, and the brothers take turns to adopt their parents"
Before Zheng Mingzhe could think clearly about this problem, the parents who had been helping his brother-in-law and daughter-in-law to raise children with their children were tired of getting sick. The sister-in-law had not served for a month, so she sent her parents to Zheng Mingzhe's house, saying that the brothers should take turns to take care of them.
Zheng Mingzhe had no words, but his wife was somewhat unwilling. However, his wife is not willing to return to her, or she will do her best to help take care of her parents, which makes Zheng Mingzhe feel a lot of worry.
If it were not for the demolition and relocation of his parents' hometown, Zheng Mingzhe would continue to support his parents without complaint. But his parents' eccentricity finally broke his heart. No matter how much his parents cried, Zheng Mingzhe decided to send his parents to his brother's house.
The parents did not tell Zheng Mingzhe and his wife, but quietly called his brother to the house, and then stuffed the 1 million passbook and real estate deeds into his brother.
After Zheng Mingzhe learned of this news, his brother had already taken 1 million yuan to buy a car and transferred the house to his own name. Zheng Mingzhe could not bear it any longer, he confronted his parents and asked why they were so eccentric?
Although the parents were a little surprised, they did not feel guilty at all: Your brother has two sons, you only have one daughter, the family property is to be left to the son, the daughter is the daughter who marries out, the water that is spilled out, can not be relied on.
03, "All the demolition money is given to the younger brother, and the younger brother's adoptive parents in the future"
This explanation from his parents did not appease Zheng Mingzhe in the slightest. Zheng Mingzhe is very clear that this is the bias of his parents, but also the favoritism of his parents. Even if the younger daughter-in-law throws them out of the house, they have nowhere to go but to cling to his eldest son, but in the hearts of their parents, the dearest and most loved is still the younger son.
Thinking of his wife's complaints, the arrogance of his brothers and daughters-in-law, and the blatant partiality of his parents, Zheng Mingzhe completely woke up. Even though he served his parents for three years, his parents' hearts still only cared about their brothers.
Zheng Mingzhe did not say anything more, but calmly told his parents, "All the demolition money is given to my brother, and after my brother's adoptive parents, my son who picked it up, will completely break off the relationship." ”
Hearing Zheng Mingzhe's decision, his wife, who had been wronged for three years, finally smiled. The suffocation from the beginning of marriage to the present has finally disappeared. But the parents cried, and they pleaded that they did not want to leave, and the sister-in-law was a powerful character, they went to the pension, and specified that there would be no good fruit to eat. Wherever you go, there is no comfort in the eldest son's house.
The cries of his parents made Zheng Mingzhe flash a little intolerable in his heart. But no matter how much they can't bear, in the contrast of their parents' eccentricity, they are all forgotten. His parents never paid attention to him at all, and even if they show weakness and plead now, they are only asking for him.
Zheng Mingzhe did not have a soft heart and sent his parents to his brother's house. As for the demolition money and the house, even if the parents said that they would divide it equally, Zheng Mingzhe did not have the heart to ask for it again. Barely obtained property, he is not rare.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Cheng Mingzhe sending his parents to his brother's house?