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In patriarchal families, it is always difficult to achieve home and everything.
Because of partiality and injustice, the family affection between children has long been torn apart.
It is even more the confusion of parents, making it difficult for the court to unite and harmonize.
In the next case, the family members, under the guidance of the confused mother, went their own way to the strange.
The two sisters, Ah Zhen and Ah Fen, were sitting in the courtyard at this time, helping their mother choose dishes to cook.
But their little brothers ran to the game hall early in the morning to play slot machines.
My mother accidentally burned her hand in the kitchen, and she immediately cursed and grinned in her mouth.
It is nothing more than saying that his life is bitter, her husband does not care, and her two daughters still have to serve her.
Both Ah Zhen and Ah Fen are in their twenties and have long been accustomed to unreasonable mothers.
While peeling the beans, my mother shouted, "Ah Zhen, you come in and stir-fry." Ah Fen, you went to get your brother back to eat, otherwise he wouldn't remember to eat, and his stomach wouldn't be hungry!"
The two sisters looked at each other helplessly and went to work according to their mother's instructions.
Soon, the eldest sister Ah Zhen made a meal, with good dishes such as farmhouse moss, chicken stewed mushrooms and so on.
Although she was very hungry, she had to wait for her brother to arrive before she could eat.
After all, as the only boy in the family, his mother was reluctant to let him eat leftovers.
After waiting for nearly forty minutes, the second sister Ah Fen finally returned with her brother.
It was obvious that the younger brother was unhappy, and Ah Fen was also black-faced.
As soon as the mother saw her son, she quickly brought dishes and chopsticks and urged her son to eat.
The younger brother's name is Feng Feng, and after sitting down, he takes chopsticks and pokes and pokes in the dish, as if there is nothing he likes to eat.
When the mother saw this, she broke the two large chicken legs and put them in her son's bowl.
He also said, "Look at your thin body, you have eaten both legs." ”
The younger brother said unhappily: "Mom, why don't you let my second sister go to me, I am happy to play!"
The second sister Ah Fen listened to it and said with a warm face: "You mean to say, Mom, you have to take care of him in the future." He's actually playing slot machines, and he's not even getting a gamble when he's too old!"
After listening to this, the mother said to her daughter impatiently, "Well, Affin, your brother's affairs are not in your hands, eat your meal!"
The younger brother was also proud when he saw it, saying that after getting married anyway, he would be a member of someone else's family, and the affairs of the family would be less in charge.
As the daughters of the family, Ah Zhen and Ah Fen were very unhappy at the dinner table when they were told this by their mother and brother.
But then again, this patriarchal mentality has always been a tradition in her family.
From the time the two sisters remembered, they had to help their mother with housework.
Because the mother spent all her thoughts on her brother, she did not care about her daughter at all.
What is delicious in the family, it is also close to the younger brother to eat, he really does not eat before the turn of the two sisters.
The sisters' clothes are all worn in turns, but the younger brother's clothes are changed once a quarter.
So every time the little brother put on new clothes, the two sisters looked around the corner.
The neighbors also know that his family's preference for sons and daughters is great, so they will also take the initiative to give Ah Zhen and Ah Fen any snacks.
Another neighbor who was upset said to their mother, "Oh, you are so blessed, your two daughters will be blessed in the future." ”
But the mother always hugged her young son and responded loudly: "The pieces of the bitch's head will be given to others in the future, or the son is good, the old saying is to raise children to prevent aging!"
As a result, the neighbor listened, could only smile awkwardly, and did not care much about it anymore.
It's just that the two sisters have grown up in an unappreciated environment.
As adults, Ah Zhen and Ah Fen found an ordinary job near their hometown.
Although the income is not much, it finally allows the two sisters to live a good life.
The delicious clothes that could not be eaten before and the new clothes that could not be bought can now be consumed with their own wages.
As soon as the two sisters were paid, they liked to buy snacks and fruits, and they especially liked to eat various snacks, as if to fill the shortcomings of childhood.
But when the mother saw her daughters spending money like this, she was not very comfortable.
They are often told to pay for food, not to spend money indiscriminately, and to learn to save money.
At first, the two sisters did not take it seriously, thinking that their mother was talking about playing.
But it didn't take long for her mother to say to them, "Ah Zhen Ah Fen, you see that you can earn money now, this is good to pay for food, five hundred per person is not much." ”
Ah Fen, who had a somewhat hot temper, immediately asked if he would pay the money when his brother worked.
The mother said, "Why should your brother pay the money, you are a girl and he is a boy, and when you two give birth to children in the future, they are only grandchildren, and they cannot be compared with your brother." ”
Ah Fenqi could not speak, and in the end, the eldest sister Ah Zhen played the round field, so as not to make the scene difficult to see.
The two sisters, who were sad, did not continue to live at home, but rented a small house with their salaries.
Ah Fen, who has a stubborn personality, has endured his mother for many years, and since he has worked, he has the capital to stay away from that cold-blooded home.
She said to the eldest sister: "Sister, our fate is bitter, since our mother treats us as outsiders, we will go out to live and not steam steamed ”
In this way, the eldest sister was persuaded by the younger sister, and the two moved out.
Since moving away, the two sisters have had a lot of fun.
They cook together after work, go to the mall and watch movies on weekends, and have a relaxed and comfortable life.
But not long after, another thing happened in the house that made them chill.
It turned out that the family was going to be demolished, and the policy was to choose one of the two houses and money.
The two sisters did not know about this until recently when their mother came to the door and told them.
It's just that my mother didn't come this time to talk about the demolition, but came to them for help.
The mother said with a sad face, "Jane, Fen, you must help your brother." He did not argue to gamble, and as a result, hundreds of thousands of demolitions were lost to him, and now he knew that he was wrong, and he vowed not to gamble again. It's just that you must think of a way to do this marriage room. ”
Ah Zhen and Ah Fen were shocked to hear that, how could the family's demolition mother give it all to her brother without consulting with them, and let him take it for gambling.
Ah Zhen was very angry, but she only had a somber face and did not say a word.
Ah Fen said loudly: "Mom, your demolition money is directly for my brother, and you don't bring us a word." Since this is the case, then we are not in the family, and our brother's affairs are not in our hands!"
As he spoke, he poked the eldest sister with his arm, and suddenly the two sisters said in unison, "I am an outsider!" Mom, you go!"
The mother, who knew that she was deficient, could only walk away with a straight face.
Since then, the two sisters have been completely disappointed in their mother, and on the same day they decided to save money in the future and buy a house together as their real home.
The two sisters in the case are unfortunate to have such an unforgiving and unreasonable mother. But they were also lucky because they met each other.
This tells us that in the patriarchal family, we must understand the following two truths in time.
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First: The preference of parents over daughters is the greatest harm to their children.
Sometimes the biggest harm in a person's soul is precisely brought about by his parents.
Especially in patriarchal families, the psychological burden on children is unimaginable.
Girls who are not valued in childhood will tremble in the tone and eyes of their parents' disgust.
Don't dare to eat the good food at home, and don't dare to make mistakes easily.
Looking at the parents' cherishing of the boys at home, in such a huge contrast, loneliness and inferiority arise in the heart.
Such emotions may even accompany her for the rest of her life.
Because she did not get the love of her parents, she also lacked the courage to pursue a bolder life.
The lack of self-confidence and love in children's childhood is the greatest cruelty of parents to their children.
Every parent should know that since you have brought your child into the world, you have the responsibility and obligation to love him.
Raising children according to their own preferences, it is also themselves who will eventually suffer.
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Second: Learn to say no to unreasonable demands, especially between relatives.
Since not everyone is a competent parent, children must dare to save themselves.
The two sisters in the case woke up in time and made up their minds to stay away from the original family that preferred sons to daughters.
There is even ambition to buy a new house as a real home.
Therefore, for the unreasonable demands of relatives, we must resolutely refuse and defend our own interests.
Know that a person who does not love you, even if you dig out your heart, the other party will have no feelings.
So learn to love yourself and firmly grasp your own interests.
Even if you are a loved one, if the other person does not have you in his heart, you must return the other person in the other way.
After all, the basic principle of being a human being is to exchange sincerity for sincerity.
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Family is the source of a lifetime of healing for the lucky.
And for the unfortunate, it is a lifelong wound that cannot be healed.
But don't be discouraged, if God closes one window for you, he will certainly open another for you.
So sort out your mindset, strengthen yourself, and welcome your luck.
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