Parents always think that if we give us more brothers and sisters, we will have more worries and dependence in this world.
As everyone knows, human nature is the most elusive thing. Even if there is the same blood on the body, it may not all be able to unite as one.
In particular, the older they are, the more they have their own family interests, and the more distant the relationship between them.
When I was young, I felt that the earth was desolate, and I lived most of my life to understand that it was just a joke. If you give as hard as you can, you may not have the desired result.
Between brothers and sisters, there is no exception. When you were a child, you felt like you were playing with each other, growing up together, and having a very good relationship.
But one day, you will find that the relationship between each other is not deepened with the increase of years, but the older the more impersonal.
01
The son and daughter of Grandpa Li's family at the head of the village are making trouble again, and Grandpa Li is lying on the bed and crying unceasingly.
If it weren't for the demolition, I'm afraid it wouldn't be so lively. After his wife died, he lived here alone most of the time.
The married daughter would come back two or three times a week to bring him groceries and food, to clean him, and to wash his changed clothes. Uncle Li was deeply relieved that his daughter was like this, but the two sons did not pay any attention to it.
When the news of the demolition came out, the sons also returned, and as soon as they opened their mouths, they asked how the demolition money would be distributed.
Uncle Li wanted to give most of the property to his daughter, and a small part to the two sons, but they both believed that the daughter who married had no right to distribute.
Everyone wants to gain a little more benefit, no one wants to eat a little loss, and a few children quarrel in the dark.
When I was young, I felt blessed with many children, and when I was old, I found that things were not as simple as I thought.
The children grew up playing together, but after they started their own families, the relationship gradually became estranged. Grandpa Li's two sons have always been discordant, and the two said that when they got married, their parents were eccentric and could not be treated fairly.
The eldest son is 50 years old, the younger son is just 40, the age difference between the two is 10 years, and the standard of living is normal because of the different generations.
However, the eldest son insisted that he was too much of a loss when he was young, and that he would share more property at this time, and the younger son would not be willing to show weakness.
The daughter became the target of the two of them, and was even said to have known that her father's house would be demolished, so she deliberately came to sell it. The family quarreled endlessly, saying that it was all the trouble of money.
However, without this money, Grandpa Li's old age may also be a burden.
02
Siblings, as they get older, their relationships become weaker and weaker.
Everyone has their own family and wants to maximize the benefits of their own family. If you rely on your own ability, it doesn't matter, but if it is because of the property left by your parents, I am afraid that the contradiction will only become bigger and bigger.
In the face of money, no one can be calm, even if it is the love of growing up together, even if blood is thicker than water. Once the benefits are unevenly distributed, or they do not achieve their goals, it is difficult to be calm.
If there is no money to tie, no matter how bad the relationship is, it is only a matter of each passing. However, because of the dispute over interests, it may even turn against the enemy and never come back again.
Parents are not wrong to think that brothers and sisters are relatives, but human nature cannot be underestimated.
Everyone has selfish intentions, but to varying degrees.
03
My friend's grandparents are nearly 80 years old and are not in good health as usual.
Especially my grandfather, who was bedridden for nearly a year, was only taken care of by my grandmother because of everyone's work.
Friends' little aunts were brought up by grandmothers, the age difference between the two is nearly 20 years old, it can be said that when the grandmother was young, she treated her little aunts as her own children, whether it was studying or arranging work, more attentive than her own children.
The little aunt also often said that "the sister and brother-in-law have such a big kindness, it is difficult to repay, and when they are old in the future, I will go to give them a pension", at that time, everyone did not think much about it.
But now the grandmother sometimes can't take care of the grandfather alone, call the little aunt and ask her to come and take care of it for a while and a half, but the little aunt is always pushing and shoving, all kinds of excuses.
Sometimes he complains about "so many things" and complains about delaying himself in square dancing and traveling.
Human nature often does not stand the test, and children are still like this, let alone your brothers and sisters?
Human nature is selfish, thinking about it, it is all its own interests, and who will put brothers and sisters in an important position?
Most of the time, it should also be understood. After all, no matter how close the brothers and sisters are, they will eventually have their own family, and in each other's hearts, the people who spend their lives with themselves, their children, are the first.
Therefore, the position of brothers and sisters can be retreated again and again until it cannot affect their normal life.
As a result, everyone is no longer so close to each other. Once the relationship is estranged, the human touch will naturally fade.
Whatever you do, you must first consider your own interests. As for what the brothers and sisters would think, they couldn't take care of it that much.
04
In this life, the more you live, the more you understand who is the most important person in your life.
Therefore, people who operate in their own lives and have their own protection and care for them are also closely associated with them.
Brothers and sisters once played an important role in their youth, but on the road of gradual growth, they went farther and farther.
The focus of everyone's life has shifted, and everyone has to consider the interests of their own family.
If there is no direct conflict of interest, everyone will live their own lives in peace.
Once there are problems with parents, or financial entanglements, the relationship will be severely tested.
If parents can handle these problems, most sibling relationships will not be much better, at least to maintain a superficial calm.
If the parents are confused, in the end, it is likely to dissipate the last trace of affection in the unresolved grievances.
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