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The maintenance of a stable marriage requires a balance of forces between all parties.
If a party is pampered and arrogant and does not know how to cherish, the foundation of that family will begin to shake.
The hero in the next case encountered an arrogant and cruel wife who disturbed the family with unrest.
Li Fei just finished his wedding last month, which made everyone around him blush.
The reason is that he got the beauty and married a big beautiful woman to go home.
You should know that Li Fei's height is only 173, and his posture is also fat. Therefore, such a physical condition, it is not easy to find a beautiful wife.
His wife, Xiao Yue, is a dance teacher, and was painstakingly pursued by Li Fei for two years before agreeing to a relationship.
The reason why they were able to get married was that Li Fei's family had a blood cost. Not only did he buy the villa according to Xiao Yue's request, but he also gave her family a dowry of 300,000 yuan.
Although Li Fei's image is not as good as Xiao Yue's, such economic conditions are also unique in their third-tier cities.
After the wedding, they lived together and lived a formal married life.
Because the family is a villa, so the place is in a lot of ashes, Xiao Yue asked to arrange a full-time nanny to take care of food, clothing and living.
Li Fei was very spoiled for his wife, and immediately went to the talent market to find a nanny. But after inquiring about it, the cost of asking for a live-in nanny is also about five thousand.
To be honest, This price Li Fei is a bit unacceptable.
Because the family borrowed the debt when he bought the villa, and his income can only be just enough to maintain the family's expenses.
So I thought about it, so I went back to the house, ready to explain the actual situation, and let my wife give up the idea of asking for a nanny.
Knowing that Xiao Yue had a bad temper, he also went to the mall to buy a bracelet.
Back at home, Xiao Yue did not show a happy look for the gifts handed by Li Fei.
Just casually put it on the table and ask him if the babysitter was well found.
Li Fei's fragmented appearance made Xiao Yue's expression more and more ugly.
Only to hear Li Fei say weakly: "Xiao Yue, the full-time nanny's minimum monthly salary is more than five thousand, or not." Rest assured, I am all-inclusive in the family. ”
Xiao Yue left without saying a word, and for several days she was black-faced.
In the face of his wife's cold violence, Li Fei could not bear it for only a few days.
He seriously apologized to his wife and asked how not to be angry.
Only to see Xiao Yue said: "Invite the nanny back, you see who in the community does not have a nanny." ”
Li Fei suddenly understood that his wife was vain and did not want to be compared to the neighbors.
No way, in order to satisfy his wife's idea, he still gritted his teeth and asked for a nanny.
Only in this way, Li Fei's income was completely moonlit, and he could not save a penny.
Fortunately, after the nanny came, the home was indeed much cleaner, and there was no need to worry about eating and washing dishes.
Although their free time has become more, their feelings have not increased much.
In the end, it was because Xiao Yue was reluctant to marry him.
It turned out that Xiao Yue still had a younger brother underneath, and the family's economic conditions were not very good.
Fortunately, the daughter born is beautiful and generous, so her parents are also interested in cultivating Xiaoyue to find a rich son-in-law.
When he knew that Li Fei's family was doing business, the attitude of Xiao Yue's parents immediately changed.
Especially after seeing that Li Fei's family bought the villa in full, Xiao Yue's parents fully approved of the marriage between the two.
However, Xiao Yue was arrogant and arrogant, and did not like Li Fei, whose appearance was not satisfactory.
However, he could not resist the persuasion of his parents, and still married Li Fei with a shelf.
Therefore, this marriage, Li Fei and Xiao Yue were not equal from the beginning.
In order to please Xiao Yue, Li Fei not only responded to every need, but also connived at home and did not go to work.
Li Fei's parents couldn't bear to look at this matter, and as soon as they had time, they said to Li Fei: "Don't be too accustomed to Xiao Yue, our family is not a rich man, how good it is to stay at home every day." ”
But the helpless Li Fei was sloppy every time and helped his wife speak.
He also said that he did not go to work in order to prepare for pregnancy and give birth to a big fat boy as soon as possible.
This reason really persuaded Li Fei's parents to no longer point fingers at their daughter-in-law's affairs.
However, Li Fei did not expect that xiao yue would be accommodated like this, and she was still not sincere in living with him.
Originally, it was normal for a small couple to have a child, but Xiao Yue repeatedly pushed back, that is, she was not ready to have a child.
Li Feidu is in his thirties, and his desire for children is naturally very urgent.
But no matter how much he tried to persuade and please, Xiao Yue always had a reason to shirk not having children.
More than a year later, Li Fei was exhausted by his wife's tossing, and could not feel the warmth of marriage and family.
He began to have some regrets, regretting his humility and cheekiness, and in his heart he longed for someone who knew cold and hot to understand him.
Unconsciously, Li Fei's hometown came with a good news, it turned out that the family's old house was about to be demolished.
For this matter, his wife Xiaoyue followed and inquired about it the whole time.
Even Li Fei's parents said with some concern: "This demolition is our family's business, you don't say anything to Xiao Yue." You see she will give money to her brother when she is fine, but don't let her hit the idea of our family's demolition money. ”
Li Fei said good in a daze, and still felt that his wife would not be so excessive.
So much so that when the demolition money came down, he still accidentally said that he was out of his mouth.
When Xiao Yue knew that the demolition money of her in-laws' family was two million, she made up her mind to buy a house for her brother. Because her brother has just worked, it is not okay to find a partner without a house.
So she casually took a chance to say to Li Fei: "Li Fei, my brother is not small, he is going to buy a house, and he will take out part of the demolition money from the family." ”
Although Li Fei was very shocked in his heart, he did not humble his mouth and refused.
The unexpected Xiao Yue was suddenly unhappy and asked him what he meant.
Seeing that Li Fei was silent with a straight face, Xiao Yue said proudly: "I repeat, your parents gave my brother 1.5 million yuan of demolition money to buy a house, and if they don't give it, they will get a divorce!"
This unreasonable posture immediately annoyed Li Fei, who couldn't bear to say: "I agree, see you tomorrow at the Civil Affairs Bureau." ”
The next day, the two did divorce, and it was not until after the formalities were completed that Xiao Yue cried out.
At this time, she realized that she had left her in-laws' house and it was difficult for her to survive.
And Li Fei was much more relaxed after the divorce, and he made up his mind to find a woman who lived a solid life in the future...
In the case, Li Fei finally ended the unequal marriage and stayed away from the wife of fu di mo.
This tells us that marriage not only needs equality of personality, but also the following two requirements.
02
One: Smart men and women understand that the stability of marriage is the most important.
Marriage is not a beauty contest, and it is not looking for a long-term meal ticket.
Choosing a partner is a sane and serious matter for either party.
And there are always immature men and women who make mistakes and lose their way in premarital selection.
Some of them mistakenly believe that even two people who are not so in love can secure a marriage.
Just like the couple in the case, they all think they can get what they want in marriage.
As everyone knows, two hearts that are not equal are doomed to make their marriage difficult to stabilize.
So smart men and women always know what's most important in a relationship.
If the emotions of two people are no longer stable, then separation is only an inevitable trend.
03
Two: In marriage, don't be "overwhelmed."
One of the most basic elements of marriage is mutual respect.
Whether it is the inferiority of one party or the explosion of superiority, it is harmful and unhelpful to two people.
Therefore, the person who is overwhelmed is always self-directed and self-acting, and staged a ridiculous performance.
In the case, Xiao Yue was under the advantage of appearance, and he had to make inches and feet again and again, and finally he was overwhelmed by the demand for the demolition of his in-laws.
All these actions are caused by the husband's connivance step by step.
Know that unwilling feelings are not love, and reluctant marriages are just torture.
Don't let your choices become a source of pain, and don't be arrogant and arrogant in your marriage and make yourself a laughingstock.
04
A lot of times, we don't know exactly what we want.
Whether it is to satisfy your own desires through marriage, or to respect your heart and find a true partner.
I hope that no matter what choice you make, you can go on without complaint or regret.
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