Chasing after it like this, in "Dear Child", Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo's marriage went wrong.
Although at the beginning of the plot, Xiao Lu did a lot of wrong things when his wife gave birth to a child, such as he drank beer at home alone and almost overslept, such as he missed his wife's operating room in order to send placenta to his mother, but in general, Xiao Lu is still a good husband.
Especially when Fang Yinuo was incontinent after childbirth, the scene where he carefully took care of Fang Yinuo was still very touching.
If you think about it, their big family is not an absolute bad person—
Xiao Lu needless to say, after his wife gave birth, he carried all the pressure on his shoulders, tired from work during the day, sleeping on the sofa at night, he did not complain;
As for Fang Yinuo, on the eve of the pot, he was still in class, even the amniotic fluid was broken in the classroom, at least a responsible good teacher, obviously he had been hospitalized, but when he heard that there was something wrong with her husband, she immediately let her husband go busy, really considerate;
Xiao Lu's mother Gao Caiping, although she has done a lot of unreliable things, it can be seen that she really loves her granddaughter and son, no matter how Fang Yinuo's mother squeezes her, she has always stayed at her son's home;
In contrast, Fang Yinuo's mother is very unpleasant, but from another point of view, being able to retire early is to take care of her daughter and granddaughter, and such maternal love, if not touching, is touching enough.
Thinking about it, in the whole family, only Xiao Xu was out of tune, in addition to making trouble, he was only left to eat and wait for the old man to die.
But such a family, which no one is wrong with, has fallen apart, just like when an avalanche, no snowflake is innocent, their family is in trouble, and each of them is responsible.
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The first is Fang Yinuo's mother, who, in a way, is the trigger for the instability of this family.
The reason is very simple, because their two families are not right, when Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo got married, she was opposed in her heart.
Even though Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo had been married for many years, she was still unwilling to accept them.
When he was in the hospital, Fang Yinuo said that children could not see the flash, and Gao Caiping looked indifferent, and Fang's mother immediately showed a look of disgust.
At that time, there were still so many people in the ward, so it was a bit out of place to look at people like this.
Later, in order to take care of her daughter and granddaughter, Fang's mother moved in, and after moving in, she immediately showed her picky side - especially the act of buying vegetables every day to write in a small book, which looked like a joke.
Although I didn't like Xiao Xu's personality, but during that time, Fang's mother's practice in Xiao Lu's home was indeed a bit excessive, although I also knew that at that time, she was also very hard, and the division of labor with Gao Caiping also had a certain rationality.
But during that time, the whole family was her decision, just as Xiao Xu said, as if she was the master of this family, Xiao Lu and Gao Caiping were outsiders.
She forgot that in this family, she, like Gao Caiping, was the mother of her own children, and to some extent, she and Gao Caiping's status was the same.
On the surface, she was discussing with Gao Caiping every time she did things, but such consultations always had some condescending feelings, in other words, she never put this family on an equal footing with herself.
In particular, her move of not letting Gao Caiping approach the child, how to see how awkward.
With such a mentality, it is natural to lay a time bomb for this home, if it does not explode, it will fall apart.
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The second is the high color screen, to be honest, the high color screen in the play is much better than many mothers-in-law in reality.
Although when Fang Yinuo first gave birth, she only saw her granddaughter in her eyes and ignored her daughter-in-law, but she was able to take the initiative to take care of Fang Yinuo and her granddaughter, which was already very good.
Moreover, as an old smoker for many years, for the sake of her granddaughter, at the request of Fang Yinuo, she quit smoking hard, and few people really could do it.
For me, there are three points on the high color screen, and I really can't understand it-
First of all, I don't understand Gao Caiping's obsession with mahjong.
When I didn't have my granddaughter with me, she played mahjong all day, which I can understand and accept, after all, as an old person, when there is nothing to do, I also need entertainment and leisure.
However, with the child, he also poured all his thoughts on mahjong, and he could not accept it.
The time the stroller slid away, although it was unintentional to her, but such a thing, there is really no way to forgive, in this matter, I am on the side of Mother Fang.
Secondly, I couldn't accept that Gao Caiping gave her granddaughter's placenta to Xiao Xu to eat.
If this had happened before liberation, it might not have been much, but the background of the story is already twenty-first century, and it is impossible to accept that such a thing can be done.
As for the third, it is that Gao Caiping always uses his own experience to ask Fang Yinuo them.
I remember when Gao Caiping just went to help take care of the children, she also specially brought the diaper that Xiao Lu used in the past, and it is not difficult to understand that the elderly are frugal, but it is really rare to be frugal to this extent.
With such a difference in concepts, even if there is no hidden danger of Fang Yinuo's mother, sooner or later their family will have problems.
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Of course, Fang Yinuo himself had problems.
Fang Yinuo is a good woman, which is true, and her gentle and considerate kindness to her husband is really enviable.
Fang Yinuo is a good mother, there is no doubt about it, after the birth of the child, she poured all her love into the child.
But Fang Yinuo's biggest problem is that she cares too much about her children. Especially during the month, she tossed the whole family around.
For the sake of the child, she stayed up all night, for the sake of the child, she was suspicious and scared all day, for the sake of the child, she quarreled with her mother-in-law and her husband, and the good family was a chicken and a dog, and later quarreled with her mother.
And her strength, her tolerance, her patience, her empathy, it seems that all disappeared overnight, and now she only has a child in her eyes, only the baby waiting to be fed.
In fact, if you look closely at her husband, although sometimes he is a little unreliable, most of the time, he is still a qualified husband and father.
For the sake of his wife and children, he worked hard every day, in order to complete the performance, he often drunk himself, in order to take care of the children and his wife, he took his mother as a "nanny".
But she didn't see any of this, and she was still complaining there.
To tell the truth, although I didn't like Xiao Lu later, it was still a little painful to see the scene of Xiao Lu and his wife crouching in the doorway.
As a mother, there is no problem in loving the child, but her love has completely lost herself, she is afraid that the child will suffer a little sin, and she is even more afraid that the child will suffer a little torture, as for everything else, she has ignored it.
In the words of Fang's mother, at that time, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu were no longer like husband and wife, but each other's customers.
Screenshot of the TV series "Dear Little Child"
Judging from the later story, the biggest problem is still xiao Lu.
At first, although Xiao Lu was a little out of tune, he was basically a good man, but later, everything deviated from our expectations.
Especially after Xiao Lu and Zhu Zhu were mixed together, his human setup had completely collapsed.
Thinking about it carefully, Xiao Lu also has three major problems.
First, he didn't care as much about Fang Yinuo as we thought.
It is normal for men to be careless, but as a man, careless to the point that his wife gives birth in the hospital, but he is drunk and can't wake up, few people really do it.
We admit that Xiao Lu is very tired, but tired is not contradictory to caring for his wife, at least he can rush to the hospital to accompany Fang Yinuo, he is really sleepy and can't stand it, even if he lies on the bed, he can rest well.
Second, he has never been able to handle the relationship between his mother and his wife.
Although xiao Lu could not be blamed for this, he should know a series of contradictions that occurred later when Xiao Xu came in, and he was somewhat responsible, after all, what virtue his brother was, he should know.
Let such a brother come to the house every day, and it is sooner or later that conflicts break out.
Third, and most importantly, he really has no sense of responsibility.
When I saw Xiao Lu tired and tired for his family, I used to feel sorry for him, but after the incident between him and Zhu Zhu, I found that his efforts were not all for Fang Yinuo, but because of his special growth experience.
Although Zhu Zhu can't blame him for that incident, I think that as an adult, running out with a female client and drinking so much wine, he should be able to think about what will happen.
Even if it is a business, there is no need to run out in the middle of the night to drink.
By the time Zhu Zhu made a big fuss at the child's birthday feast, everything had reached the point of being out of control.
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