Today is the 18th day of Xiaoyun's confinement, she has cried 8 times, knowing that crying in the confinement is not good for her eyes, but she still did not hold back.
The cause is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiaoyun's mother-in-law rushed over on the third day after she gave birth, because this is the first time Xiaoyun and her mother-in-law met, when the mother-in-law entered the door, she called Xiaoyun to the door to pick up the driver, Xiaoyun's wound was really painful and unbearable, so she did not do it, and the mother-in-law was angry, almost as soon as she entered the door, she was unhappy.
Then, because of the difference in the method of taking the child, Xiaoyun and the mother-in-law reasoned, the mother-in-law did not listen, and threatened: "If you want to beg me to help you with the child, don't use this attitude." My three children were all raised by me, don't you know more? ”
Mother-in-law cooks every day, completely do not ask Xiaoyun's opinion, do all her son's favorite dishes, the bacon brought from her hometown to do every day, Xiaoyun wants to drink some soup water conservancy to improve the nutrition of milk, the mother-in-law said that they ate every day at that time there is milk in the nest, there is milk is milk, no milk to eat bird's nest shark fin soup also no milk.
Xiaoyun did not want to continue to get along with her mother-in-law, and discussed with her husband to send her mother-in-law back, but unfortunately her husband said: "My mother is far away, big bags and small bags, it is not easy to come, you now ask her to go back, where is her face?" "But I can't stand it anymore!" Xiao Yun almost begged her husband.
The husband came and said: "They are all family, can't you bear it?" Whose old man doesn't? More elderly people and more tolerance, the family atmosphere is much more harmonious! ”
Xiaoyun was so aggrieved that she thought about it for a hundred times, and she chose to be patient, except for a little smile when she was alone with the baby every day, the rest of the time she didn't say a word, and her mother-in-law ate whatever she said, and listened to what she said, just like the walking dead.
Xiaoyun complained to her own parents, but she did not expect that her parents also criticized her for being squeamish, saying: "They are all mothers, and they are still so squeamish and willful, and their mother-in-law can come to help you is a good mother-in-law, don't pick and choose, you have to respect the old and love the young." Otherwise, she will be angry and gone, and the child will be thrown to you, and some of you will suffer!
The family is harmonious, but Xiaoyun's heart is about to explode, she came to me and complained: "The revenge of the moon, do not share the sky, do not persuade me to be generous if you have not experienced it!" When I get through this toughest time, I must leave this man and this family! ”
But I know that Xiaoyun is only lip service, and most women will be soft-hearted.
The confinement is the mirror of marriage. What is the real face of the husband? What is the true face of the in-laws? The moon is clear.
During the 30 days of confinement, a woman has almost seen her fate in this life, as long as she continues with her husband in front of her.
Why do countless women cry when it comes to confinement? Every time the old thing is mentioned again, it is a ripple of tears and sorrow?
Because it was the most vulnerable, helpless, and undignified 30 days of a woman's life, during which we could not take care of ourselves and whiplash.
Just after giving birth to a child, the body has not recovered, the role has not changed, by a small life to panic everywhere, never slept a whole night. In order to give their children the best love, countless new mothers have suffered in the persistence of breastfeeding, and their bodies have been destroyed...
I will not advise you to be generous, but there are three words to say to the girls of the world:
First, economic strength is always the first! Without money, you can only suffer.
If you have money, you will drive a wave to go to the confinement center, you and your baby can get good care, and you are a good man when you have a confinement.
Second, the baby should not be born casually, the boat to the bridge is naturally a lie, before giving birth to a baby, we must consider these 3 questions about the mother-in-law.
First of all, are you aware of your mother-in-law's character and personality, including your own personality, and can you get along more harmoniously?
If the mother-in-law has a generous and cheerful personality and is easy to get along with, and you deal with the problem with little emotion and more rational, then the mother-in-law is the first choice with the baby, after all, it is the grandmother, and there will be no bad heart for the grandchildren.
Secondly, what is the level of knowledge and culture of the mother-in-law, can it be relatively scientific?
If the mother-in-law only believes in folk remedies, lacks safety awareness, secretly provokes the relationship between the child and the mother, etc., then please stay away from such a mother-in-law.
Finally, if you can't ask your mother-in-law to help with your children, and you don't have the money to hire a nanny, can you be a stay-at-home mom and bear the sacrifices and pressures accordingly?
If these 3 questions are all negative, then it is recommended not to have children, you are not ready to be a mother, the arrival of children will only disrupt your life.
Third, if you find that your husband is not mature enough in the month, then you must hurry up and adjust, otherwise the marriage will eventually end in failure.
Most men mature late and are exposed from the confinement, so is it depression, sulking, or reforming him?
I suggest choosing to transform, their own men themselves tuned, not into a device, again. The man who truly loves you will continue to reflect on himself, continue to grow, and eventually become a good husband and father, and you will be a happy family. But if you are disappointed, angry, and give up at the beginning, then the result can be imagined.
You are a first-time mom, he is also a first time to be a dad, this is a new run-in, mutual help and understanding is the right solution.
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