In the past, when it was not allowed to have a second child, young people were more comfortable, everyone was the same, almost everyone had only one child, whether it was a boy or a girl. However, after the two-child policy was opened, the three-child policy was liberalized again, and some elderly people felt that it seemed good to have one more grandchild. There are elderly people who have been spawned, but more and more elderly people have not joined the spawning family.
Xiaoyun has a lovely daughter, who is three years old and has gone to kindergarten. A very good colleague who had a second child also joked with her: "When are you going to add a brother to your daughter?" Xiaoyun said: "We have no plans to have a second child, the family conditions are not allowed, fortunately, no one urged me to give their family a succession." ”
Xiaoyun's in-laws are all from the countryside, they are not in good health, they need to be taken care of, so they can only turn to their sons and daughters-in-law. Xiaoyun gave birth to a daughter, but her in-laws, who are rural people, did not want her to have another child, and never urged them to have children. Xiaoyun's in-laws have poor economic conditions, her mother's family is also an ordinary family, and she and her husband are also ordinary workers, and their incomes are very average.
A few years after graduating from college, the young couple relied on their own efforts to buy this two-bedroom and one-room house, the house is only about sixty square meters, and now the family is already very nervous to live together, if there is another child, it may be necessary to change the big house.
For them, changing houses is a fool's dream, they need to pay off their mortgages, they also have to raise children, and two elderly people need money for treatment. In-laws often say that they are not urged to have children, but that although their lives are separated from the countryside, it is really not easy.
Now, parents not only can't help, but also drag them down and don't urge them to have children, because they also know that the family can't afford it.
Why don't the elderly give birth, it is not that they do not like children, but because of many practical reasons, let them themselves shut up about having children.
First, the children's economic pressure is great, and the elderly cannot help.
Why are young people reluctant to have more children? Because it is not easy for them to take care of their own lives. Living and working in peace and contentment is a prerequisite for having more children, but now some young people are struggling to raise a child.
It's easy to have one more child, but it's hard to have one more child. One more child means one more room in the family, which means one more education funding.
In today's society, everyone's life pressure is very great, and the elderly are also in the eyes. If the elderly have money, they can help their children buy houses, buy cars, raise children, and have the right to speak, if they do not have the ability to help children change the status quo of life, they will not urge children to have a second or third child, increasing their economic pressure.
Second, the children are busy at work, and the elderly cannot help with the children.
The elderly help with children is the status quo of many families, mothers can not work at home with children, family and career can not have the best of both worlds. There are many families that do not have the conditions to let the mother be a full-time wife, and the elderly in the family cannot help with the children, which makes the mother in trouble.
When the elderly in the family can not retire because of physical health reasons, or have a job can not retire, can not help with the child, they also feel very guilty, of course, no longer urge the child to have a second child, the third child.
Third, children are determined not to give birth, and they no longer cling to it.
Some elderly people are more willing to let their children have a second or third child, although they have also expressed their ideas, but the child's attitude is more resolute. Today's young people have their own ideas, live the life they want, and will not change because of the wishes of their parents.
The elderly are also more knowledgeable, look at the child's willingness is more resolute, no more nonsense, let the child get bored, the occurrence of family conflicts is not worth it, so the child does not have a second child, a third child, they are not willing to take care of it.
Fourth, the elderly's ideological concepts are progressive, and they do not interfere with the lives of children.
Today's grandparents are not the grandparents of decades ago, they are a new generation of grandparents with knowledge and culture. Their ideological concepts and the previous elderly have a great change, first of all, most of them have given birth to a child, but also experienced the hardships and efforts of raising children, so when the children grow up, they want to live their own lives, not willing to participate too much in the children's lives.
Many young grandparents, they are still shining in the workplace, have their own lives and careers, their eyes will not only focus on children, so there are more and more elderly people who do not give birth to second and third children.
It is the right of parents and mothers not to have a second child, and grandparents really cannot participate in too many opinions. As long as we have children, we must be responsible for our children, so we must consider the second and third children.