Hello everyone, I'm Empty Valley Youlan, mom of two children!
Do you want to have a second and third child, and what is the difference between having a baby or not? I believe that this problem has always been a problem that many families are thinking about.
Some people have said that having a second child and having a third child are exclusive to rich people, but in fact, this is not the case. Except for some people, because the family conditions are particularly good, most families who have a second child also belong to ordinary people. Everyone's ideas are different, but also willing to pursue a different life, whether to have a second child, the mother's living state is really very different, especially some mothers who give birth at an advanced age.
The two girlfriends who give birth to a second child and do not have a second child, life is one day and one place, and it is heart-wrenching and realistic
Xiao Wei and her girlfriend Xiaoyun are both 35 years old, and their sons are also 7 years old, and they are also ordinary wage earners. The two moms are good friends and both kids have a great time playing.
Later, Xiao Wei accidentally became pregnant with her second child, originally she did not plan to have a second child, but the family was very happy, thinking that this was a decision of heaven, and their family should have two children.
Because it is an elderly mother, Xiaowei's pregnancy period is very hard, fortunately, the second child was born smoothly, and as a result, she was even more sad, and she was a boy again. Two million sons, what about two sons? Xiao Wei also felt that her two sons had brought herself very great financial pressure.
After giving birth to her second child, Xiaowei felt that her life had completely changed, and she and her girlfriend Xiaoyun lived a completely different life. Xiaoyun asked her to take the child out to play together, the adults can relax, and the children can grow up and see. But where did Xiao Wei go? Going out alone with two children is certainly not possible.
Xiaoyun told her to go out shopping, she also couldn't get out, the second baby left her, more than an hour can not hold on. It is completely trapped by the child. Watching friends leisure and entertainment together, but at home, in addition to taking children is to do housework, physically tired, the heart is also wronged.
Spending money is much more frugal than before. Xiaoyun, who has only one child, is still dressed exquisitely and stylishly, but he has to think carefully before spending money every time, the cost of two children is already very large, or save a little.
There are many 35-year-old mothers, and they may hesitate between having a second child and not having a second child. After all, moms have stepped into the ranks of older mothers, and there is not much time left for them.
Having a second child has the advantage of having a second child, two children grow up together, and a lot of the family affection gained cannot be measured by money. An only child who does not have a second child also has the advantage of having an only child.
Two-child families and one-child families are manifested in these elderly mothers, and the differences in specific lives are still very obvious in these places.
After a woman is 35 years old, she does not have a second child, which is very different
Second-born mothers need to pay more energy to bring up and educate their children.
After the birth of the child, in most families, the mother is the one who takes the child more. During the period from 0 to 3 years old, it is more energy-consuming to take care of the child. When the child goes to kindergarten, the child's education problem is very important. Therefore, many mothers say that a child makes themselves very busy and makes themselves 10 years old, which is the reason for physical exhaustion and worry.
In particular, some elderly maternal mothers over the age of 35 will obviously lack energy when taking children, and often feel overwhelmed. With two children, mom's energy and physical strength are a big challenge.
The mother of the second child needs a little more struggle, and the financial burden of the two children is heavy.
Raising children is more expensive, which is the consensus of all parents. Whether to have a second child or not, whether there is money to raise or not is also the most important issue that many mothers consider. Having one more child also means that we need to take on more responsibilities and make more efforts to give our children a better life.
Therefore, in the second-child family, the mother will work harder to make money, and the money will be more frugal, because the economic burden of the second-child family is heavier.
The mother of the second child will gain a family affection and have more joy in life.
Although it will be very tired, although it will become poor, there will still be many people who want to have a second child. Because there is a natural affection between children and parents. It's tiring to raise children, and it's expensive to raise children, but children can also bring us a lot of happiness. When we watch our children grow little by little, and become more excellent little by little, parents will feel that all their efforts are worth it.
Second-born mothers should also consider that employment difficulties after the age of 35 are difficult
A woman's youth is only a few years, after giving birth to a child is still young, parents can still help, but women are 35 years old, parents are also old, and the help is also somewhat inadequate. Moreover, the elderly also began to need to take care of, the economic pressure was all on the husband, the woman took care of the child and still took care of the parents, and if she wanted to work, she really did not dare to think.
I am also a second-child mother, whether to have a second child or not, is the mother's own choice. However, I would like to remind you that if you are planning to have a second child, it is best to have a second child at the optimal childbearing age, which is better for both the mother and the child. Moreover, our generation has more only children, not only two people have to take care of parents and children on both sides. In recent years, the impact of the epidemic has made the economy even more tense, so if you are older, you must be cautious when considering having a second and third child.
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