Many years ago, my parents quarreled to find me a daughter-in-law, saying that how can a big boy stay single?
After thousands of rivers and mountains, difficulties and obstacles, it is not easy to get your wish, thinking that everything is lucky, the wind and water are smooth, who thinks that a lot of unpleasant things have happened!
If life is only like the first sight, what autumn wind and sorrow painting fan!
In the year of marriage, everything was calm and quiet, and when we were together, we were also harmonious and amiable, and we were happy and harmonious.
Since having children, it has completely disrupted the previous stability.
In the middle of the night, the baby cries, the old man sleeps lightly, but where some wind blows the grass, the old man must be the first to run over and ask the specific reason.
And me? But my daughter-in-law said that I slept too heavily, and after falling asleep, I was similar to a wild boar, and I didn't want to count on anything other than to hear continuous snoring.
I don't know if women from other families will feel the same way, and if the men who sleep around every day are useless except for taking up space?
My own mother, at night to hear the child crying, will definitely come in time to check, the daughter-in-law naturally also knows, affect sleep do not say, emotions are easy to lose control; over time, or can not get used to my words and deeds, in a moment there will be a nameless fire, provoking everyone extremely unpleasant.
In order to protect me, my mother also tried her best to excuse me; not to say that it was okay, when she said that her daughter-in-law was more energetic, she should talk about nonsense, and the words of mother-child affection made each other very unhappy!
Friends who go to work during the day and suffer at night, and who raise children at home, must have a deep understanding of it!
In fact, everyone's original intention is good, all of them are dedicated to the child, for the baby at home, so that he can grow up healthily and love and protect him; as an adult, it does not matter how much suffering and fatigue he endures.
After a woman gives birth to a child, her physical strength is seriously overdrawn and her nutrition is lacking; especially in the middle of the night, when she slept well, the child suddenly woke up, and whoever it was would be, there would be no good mood!
In fact, if you think about it, there is nothing big happening, nothing more than some trivial matters about raising children, making each other somewhat unpleasant, sometimes contradictory, and mixing mouths often occurs.
I don't know friends, is there a kind of confusion?
Her own mother, unable to hear her own daughter-in-law, says bad things about her son, some hidden knives, and vain words, even more so.
Maybe her own mother thinks that how can her own son let others comment and talk nonsense at will?
But the daughter-in-law does not think so, their ideas, extremely childish and ridiculous; that is, their husbands, what can not be said, seeing the husband's bad, or doing the wrong thing, should be said in time, hidden in the heart for a long time, the consequences will be serious.
But the daughter-in-law does not know that the above ideas are not wrong, but ignores a situation, that is, do not guard the parents, say that your husband is not, and what are the so-called shortcomings and so on.
Two people behind closed doors, you can talk well, make a good fuss, just don't say something ugly in front of your parents!
Female friends, having children and raising children originally pays more, this matter is actually known to everyone, simple and occasionally said that it is okay, there is really no need to show off all day, especially in the mother-in-law and husband's side, how good they are, so that other people are like rice buckets, just like eating idle meals.
If the husband wants to please the daughter-in-law, he can change his method to make the family atmosphere harmonious and happy!
Praising others, never praising their behavior and results, makes people sound even more intoxicated, addicted to it and unable to extricate themselves.
For example, the home is cleaned one day, in fact, I know who takes care of it, but it is not clear, purely from this behavior and results, you must recognize and like, then appreciate and praise its behavior and results, when appropriate to throw out its people, the effect is completely different, you may wish to try it now!
People, after making some results, you still need people around you to give good feedback in time, you can't always be aggressive, a look of indifference, you say yes!
Now I often hear some friends complaining, when single want to fall in love, when in love want to get married, after marriage want to have a child, but after really having children, there are too many things that people can't stand, for a while and a half will not be able to do whatever they want, and a happy ending.
On the issue of children's education, how many families have racked their brains and worked hard, they still can't get what they want.
When the child is held in his arms, he is always noisy and can't get out; it is not easy for the child to grow up, start to go to school, and begin to pay attention to the child's learning, afraid that the child will lose at the starting line, laboriously and unpleasingly supervise the child's learning, the lack of effective communication between the child and the parents, blindly comparing the achievements, thus losing the happiness and companionship that should have been there!
The mother-in-law's unintentional provocation, as well as the learning will not be peaceful, just spoil the child, do not ask about the learning problem, but other aspects are pampered to the extreme; the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law has thus escalated, and the husband who is sandwiched in the middle is even more embarrassed!
The child is well aware of the grandmother's protection, and he becomes even more unscrupulous.
Every family has a difficult scripture!
Count it, there are a lot of them; ask its merits, where to find?
If the daughter-in-law is wronged in her in-laws' house, she cannot always run back to her mother's house to complain; the mother's family is well-informed, and if she is afraid that her children will suffer losses and sins, and the mother's family will take the initiative to go to the in-laws' house to ask for explanations and theories, presumably it will be another storm and a huge wave, so why bother?
People, women, men; you must learn to tolerate, control your emotions, especially do not hide knives in verbal attacks, please put an end to them!
No matter what the people around us say, we must do it ourselves: "Listen to a good word, make you happy; also listen to some bad words, we can also be calm and steady like Taishan, that is called skill!" ”
Learn to control your bad emotions, no matter what other people say, everything is ignored, and it is better to do nothing.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not be too preoccupied, as long as you think openly, everything in life is open-minded!