The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot escape two points

Between husband and wife, there is a common life to complete, the occurrence of will, ideas, views, interests contradictions are normal, but between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no substantive content, just a relationship, how can there be contradictions, and become the "problem of the century"?

How to understand the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? It is a relationship that extends along the line of husband and wife.

It's just that you married your husband, and then your husband's mother became your mother-in-law. It's just that your son marries his daughter-in-law, and then your son's daughter-in-law becomes your daughter-in-law.

Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should never become the key relationship in marriage and family life, only the relationship between husband and wife is the key relationship, and in life, it should also be separated.

If you don't want to be a husband and wife, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are passers-by.

In life, there are many families that are restless because of the increasingly fierce relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even go to divorce. Have you ever thought that this is not necessary at all, nor should it be, what is the reason for making the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which should be very simple, so complicated.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the root cause can not escape two points!

1, the daughter-in-law always thinks about the benefits of greedy mother-in-law.

Don't talk about responsibility, don't talk about love, if you can be truly independent after marriage, do not rely on anyone to complete the content of life, then the mother-in-law is a special guest for you.

Even if each other is a very calculating person, there is no need for you to worry about the guest relationship. After all, life and interests are separated, for guests, as long as they can get by on the face, no one will go to the truth, to worry about feelings, to worry about being a person, to calculate things.

Is there anything wrong with talking about love? But on the other hand, why do you talk about love? In fact, I don't want to kidnap my mother-in-law with affection and ask my mother-in-law to pay for herself.

From the moment you start a relationship, it means that you have moved your greed.

I hope that my mother-in-law will take care of you in life, I hope that my mother-in-law will help you materially, and I hope that my mother-in-law will help you with your children, all because you want to covet the benefits of your mother-in-law.

If your mother-in-law cannot satisfy your greed, you will immediately be surrounded by all kinds of negative emotions, including disappointment, anger, doubt, and chagrin, and then accumulate contradictions against your mother-in-law. At this time, you already have prejudices and prejudices against your mother-in-law, and a small incident may detonate your emotions.

If there is expectation, there will be disappointment, and if there is disappointment, there will be emotion, so the source of all emotions is expectation, it is greed.

It is possible that the mother-in-law is not willing to satisfy your greed at all, or it may be that the mother-in-law cannot absolutely satisfy your greed. For example, you can covet the benefits of your mother-in-law, but you are not greedy enough to be greedy enough to be greedy, you want her to give you ten thousand yuan, but she only gives you five thousand yuan.

Anyone who moves greed will certainly be controlled by greed, and even you will not feel it, and when you feel that you are very rational and sober, you have actually been distracted by greed.

Greed, will also make people lose a grateful heart, desire is endless, if you do not think about the past greedy mother-in-law's dollars, when she is willing to take the initiative to give you a dollar, this dollar of grace, will also be magnified to the extreme.

2, one party always has to cross the line of life of the other.

Family life, such as the wife wants to change the TV, but the husband does not agree, then in the matter of changing the TV, only the will and ideas of two people are mixed. Two people together, how to discuss, how to solve, the big deal is to take a step back, for a cheaper one.

But if the matter of changing the TV is mixed in by the mother-in-law, there are three people's thoughts and opinions, which must be a mess, and only contradictions may occur.

So living separately, the daughter-in-law has the life of the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law has the life of the mother-in-law, this is the fulfillment of each other, everyone lives easily.

Unless there is a major matter, one party will never cross the line to affect the life of the other party, and directly and fundamentally avoid contradictions.

If the mother-in-law always interferes with the life of the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law always interferes with the life of the mother-in-law, it will definitely cause the dissatisfaction of the other party, the heart is very resistant, and on the surface it is necessary to pretend not to care.

What are you most afraid of? The mother-in-law always points fingers at the life of the daughter-in-law, or always talks in front of her son, all kinds of instigation and provocation. Coupled with the fact that the son has no opinion, the family cannot be harmonious, and it will immediately become a battlefield filled with gun smoke, and the family will fight and bleed.

In this world, understanding this thing does not seem to exist, each has its own living habits, very different, not used to say, it is difficult for someone to ask themselves in their hearts, to understand each other.

And each of us is stubborn, to absolutely defend their subjective consciousness and cognition, you feel that the daughter-in-law every day online shopping, is spending money indiscriminately, then no matter how the daughter-in-law explains, you will still feel that this is spending money indiscriminately; the daughter-in-law feels that the mother-in-law does not need to change the mobile phone, then no matter what the mother-in-law says, the daughter-in-law still feels unnecessary.

Therefore, as long as you cross the line in life, there will be contradictions.

In addition, it is worth mentioning that if you do not want your mother-in-law to cross your life, do not covet the benefits of your mother-in-law, you are greedy for the benefits of your mother-in-law, you will definitely cross the line of your life.

Really, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not because of too much calculation, lack of respect, lack of tolerance, but only violates the essence of the relationship, thus losing the sense of boundaries, the sense of proportion, and finally leading to everyone not having a correct and objective attitude to maintain this relationship.

The mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is the daughter-in-law, never treat the mother-in-law as a mother-in-law, let alone treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter-in-law. It is a fact that there is no blood relationship, and it is also a fact that there is no grace of birth and nurture, so why should we deceive ourselves.

Bring the relationship closer, but you feel closer, it is easy to lose the sense of proportion in doing things, and then you will become particularly calculating, for example, you think, I take you as a mother, why don't you take me as a daughter.

Don't complicate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law anymore, the mother-in-law is the mother-in-law, just the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is the daughter-in-law, just the daughter-in-law, it doesn't have to have the content of getting along, it's just a relationship.

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