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Why some women can make the other half consciously feel responsible

Why is my boyfriend or my husband so irresponsible to me?

What should I do? In fact, many times, when we realize that men really pay too little to us, it means that they have actually been withdrawn from the role we have paid in this intimate relationship for a long time, I believe that at this time, for many women, ah, they are already in a very passive position, and in this case, the most difficult thing is that men, he has become accustomed to getting along with you before, if you suddenly ask him to ask him, suddenly he wants to increase his sense of responsibility for you, this time, He will certainly be rebellious, and he will be extremely resistant.

So how can we get men to voluntarily take responsibility for you? Do you really start to take responsibility for your family, for you and your children? Today, let's talk about it. First of all, the first point I say is that we must know that if we want to make a reasonable appeal to a man, we must put us in the other person's point of view and express it in the language that he can understand.

What about men, when are they willing to meet your needs and are willing to take responsibility for you? It is when he feels your value, and feels what you say, which is interesting to him, at this time, he will voluntarily take on this responsibility. Let me give you an example, for example, no matter where your husband goes, whether it is the company's team building, or a class reunion, if at this time, he is willing to take the initiative to take you, it means that your emotional concentration is relatively high, he feels, take you, let him have a lot of face, let him feel your value, this time, we will put forward our reasonable appeals, this is the best period.

So the next time he does this, you might as well say so, honey, yesterday I went shopping to see a dress, I think it is particularly suitable for me, and your shirt is really quite matched, otherwise I will wear it when I go to your classmates' party next time, what do you think? In this case, he will definitely meet your demands. Let's talk about the second point, which is what we want. Start with small things to develop his habit of being responsible for you, and in the early days of our habit, we can use the mechanism of showing weakness and rewarding to achieve our goals.

For example, imagine such a scene, you are busy at home before and after cooking and sweeping the floor, and you, a person only has two hands, can not be busy at all, your husband, at this time, is lying on the sofa playing games, this time, you just say to him, hey, dear, you go to help me turn over the dishes in the pot, the last time you cooked, I think you have a particularly good grasp of the heat, this kind of natural situation to make a request, the other party, generally will not refuse. In this process, it not only feels your need for him, but also feels a sense of value for himself, and after the number of such times gradually increases, he is willing to be responsible for you.

Of course, when your meal is ready, you must not forget to praise him fiercely, be sure to tell him, oh dear, fortunately you just helped me control the taste of this dish, it is really good, I feel that you have the talent of a chef, if you often talk to him in this way, over time, it will form a virtuous circle. So the third point is that we have to learn to establish a reward mechanism.

Students, I don't know if you have found ah, boys, no matter how old they are, they all like to play games, playing hearts are very heavy, why play games this thing makes them so fascinated? That's because of the game's reward and punishment mechanism, you can get rewards through this level, such a high empowerment will make men get great satisfaction in the spiritual aspect, so I want him to see your pay, and hope that he can take the initiative to pay for you.

We must establish a reward mechanism in the relationship, you must pay attention to the other party every time for you to make the initiative to pay, and give him rewards in time. Here, CC introduces you to a small formula of speech, we can use the surprise tone plus praise statement, the first time to give him a reward feedback. Let me give you an example, let's say, your boyfriend is peeling a banana there, and he's peeling one for you, and after you take the banana, give him a surprised expression, and then you say, well, honey.

Did you buy this banana? How did you pick it? This is just the right level of softness and hardness, and the taste is so sweet. This is from a psychological point of view, that is, when we express surprise at someone's behavior, it will make her feel that she is being noticed, and this feeling will prompt him to behave better in the future. And when the other party accepts your praise, the man may also use that kind of pretending to be very indifferent to you to say to you, if you like me to buy it next time, isn't it just a banana? In a relationship, what kind of man is your soul mate

Below, let's talk about the fourth point, that is, to hint at each other, to guide men through hints, we, don't say bluntly that I want so-and-so, but to express that although I like something very much, I love this thing, but I am not willing to spend money, so ah, have to give up, so, let the man think that you want it, but for her to want to be frugal, so it seems that you are very good at living, very sensible, men, this time will be particularly painful for you, Want to fulfill your wishes.

I give an example, for example, you can say so, dear, the decoration of the new hot pot restaurant downstairs can be awesome, I think there must be a lot of people who come here to eat on Valentine's Day, at this time, you add another sentence, well, but ah, when the festival they will definitely rise in price, forget it, let's eat at home, maybe, you say this sentence, he will give you a warm Valentine's Day.

We must know that the relationship between two people is always equal. When a man does something for you, you must not be a natural taker, but give him a positive return. Only by forming this kind of goodness, only by forming this virtuous circle, the other party can become a good husband with a sense of responsibility.

So that's it for today.

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