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It is said that raising children to prevent aging, we have always believed that parents raise their children to grow up, children accompany their parents to old age, and pass it on from generation to generation.
Many parents treat their children with all their hearts, live for their children in this life, provide for learning, ensure that they have no worries about food and clothing, work for their children's work and marriage, buy them a house and a car, spend all their savings, and have no regrets, never thought of leaving a way back for themselves, and always feel that as long as the children are there, their old age can be guaranteed.
But in fact, only then can we see clearly whether our children can be relied upon. There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and perhaps at the beginning the children can still work hard and complain, but as long as the time is long, they will always be impatient.
In addition to the instinct of human nature, it is also necessary to consider the reality of the situation, children have old and young, but also need to run for life, many times life can not be two perfect, filial piety is a must, but they can not always stay by the side of their parents to take care of, this is the actual situation.
I have such a situation around me, the old man is bedridden, only two daughters, one of them does not go to work, staying at the bed to take care of, the other daughter because she has to go to work, reluctant to leave this job, because the children are not married, the house has not yet landed. Until the old man died, he did not perform filial piety in front of the bed. Of course, this is too selfish, but it is the norm in life.
Parents can give to their children unreservedly, but in their old age they will know that there are too many cuts in front of their children, and parents are no longer the first priority of their children.
The children of Teacher Lin in "Xiao Min's Family" are all abroad, and she lives alone in a nursing home until she finally dies of a heart attack, and her children have not been able to see her last.
Parents want their children to have a career, but the higher they fly, the farther they are from them.
After the old age, it will be found that in fact, most of the children can not count on, they have their own lives, have their own jobs, only their wives are always with them, only they are always dependent.
In old age, the greatest reliance is not on children, but on wives and themselves.
Having companions is the greatest happiness
Young couples come and go, people are still unaware of the importance of the other half when they are young, many people will feel that the other half is a burden, together for a long time, the other half of the disgust. Even many people will run away from their families and do things that betray their other half.
When we were young, our world was very big, there was a vast world outside, there were many friends to accompany, there were many temptations around, at that time we couldn't see the people around us, and we couldn't help but want to escape and explore a more colorful world.
In the minds of many people, wives are outsiders, children are the closest people to themselves, do not care about their wives, and feel that as long as they are good to their children, they will have to rely on them when they grow old.
At that time, I tried to escape from the family, get out of the control of my wife, felt that leaving her own life would be more free, preferred to leave time for friends and colleagues, did not want to go home after work, and was extremely harsh on my wife.
Business partners, colleagues, and friends are more important than wives, and in the minds of many men, wives are always ranked last.
Only when people are old, have seen enough of the prosperity of life, and seen through human nature, will they find the importance of their wives, and will they understand how happy it is to be old and have companions.
This year's New Year to go to relatives, a grandfather suffered from cerebral infarction, life can not take care of themselves, children are working in the city, only the wife accompanies him, serve him, cook for him to wash, serve tea and pour water, although sick for many years, but the whole person's state is very good, which is undoubtedly the credit of the wife.
People in old age, do not expect children, even if they have the heart but also powerless, the biggest dependence is actually the wife, only the wife will do their best to take care of you, at this time, there is someone around to accompany, is the greatest happiness.
If one day the wife goes first, the biggest reliance is on herself
Grandma is 76 years old this year, grandpa died for many years, has been living alone, although the children are in a village, but they all have their own families to take care of, until the last resort, the elderly will not want to move with their children to live together, one is not used to living, the other is afraid of trouble with their children.
This is the real psychology of many elderly people, the elderly do not want to cause trouble to their children, when they are healthy, they still want to live on their own, unless they can't take care of themselves on the day, they will never easily trouble their children.
Even if it is at the stage of not being able to take care of themselves, if there is a condition, parents do not want to trouble their children, prefer to go to a nursing home, prefer to find a nanny to serve, and the things that can be solved with money do not want to become a burden to the children.
As parents, they always want to avoid confusion for their children as much as possible, and as children, they also try to avoid taking care of their parents.
In life, I have seen many people push and block their parents' pension, and many people even quarrel with their brothers and sisters because of their parents' pension, afraid of their own losses. I have to say that such behavior is really chilling.
In fact, we should have understood that the biggest reliance on people in this life has always been themselves, walking can only walk by themselves, some suffering can only survive on their own, so it is better to save more for themselves, exercise diligently, and raise their own lives, even if one day life can not take care of themselves, there is more choice to have money, do not have to look at other people's faces.
The biggest reliance on people in this life is actually not their children, but their wives and themselves. After recognizing this, we should understand that these two people should be the only ones we should be kind to.
Be kind to your other half, two people can come together is a great fate, can accompany each other to the old, can be said to be a great luck, hold hands with each other to accompany the old, in the young age together to fight together, to the old age together to rely on each other.
Be kind to yourself, the only thing that really accompanies us in this life is always ourselves, and others can't rely on it. It is wise to love yourself, treat your body well, make good money, and leave yourself a little more reserves.