If the two loves are long, they are in the twilight of the dynasty.
Truly love a person, if it really reaches the point of talking about marriage, don't rush this time and a half, or first see if the other party is suitable for marriage. Women, in particular, marry the wrong person, but it is a lifetime of pain.
No matter how much you love someone, stay calm and don't decide a lifetime of things on a whim. Marriage will not be settled, two people are not suitable to be a husband and wife, do these 4 things together to understand!
1. Eat together
If two people want to be together for a long time, they are bound to eat together, although they may only be able to enjoy three meals a day in the morning or evening, but this time is the best time for two people to exchange emotions, and it is also a time for two people to share happiness and sorrow together.
Although it is not a good habit to talk while eating, it is necessary for couples to promote and communicate emotionally. The right couple eats together, they may have different tastes, but they can still eat happily, and those who are not suitable, even if the taste is the same, the two have no appetite.
2. Travel together
In Mr. Qian Zhongshu's "Siege of the City", Zhao Xinlin said: "The order of honeymoon travel after marriage is reversed, and we should travel together for a month." After a month of boats and servants, the two sides have not yet seen through each other, dislike each other, have not quarreled and quarreled, and continue to maintain the original marriage contract, such a couple promised not to divorce. ”
Because before preparing for the trip, the two sides plan the itinerary, raiders and book tickets and book hotels, etc., if someone is only willing to enjoy the success and is not willing to pay labor, then the love will be consumed after a long time. In addition, there are many unknowable things in the journey, which may cause emotional fluctuations between couples, and small things that are usually not worth mentioning may be infinitely magnified during the journey. If one party is emotionally unstoppable and the other party is able to patiently soothe and calmly solve the problem, then this person can basically be worthy of a lifetime.
3, find a "reason" and quarrel
Find a reason before marriage, deliberately quarrel, and look at the other person's attitude. People who love you are always willing to bow their heads and actively obtain forgiveness. People who don't love you put on a look of "old and dead don't interact with each other".
Quarrels will expose a person's true temper, and even see whether a person has domestic violence. Lest I really quarrel in the future, get hurt again and again, and regret it.
4. Talk about each other's families
Once married, they tend to become very selfish. They will gradually see each other's parents as outsiders and only consider their own parents. If they were both like this, there would be no way to live.
So, in marriage, just talk about the parents of both sides to see if they consider the problem in their own position, or if they have any dissatisfaction, even if it is a euphemism? Once you have these moves, you have to be careful, because marriage is not only a matter for two people, but also a matter for two families, and if it is related to the parents of both sides, there will be great contradictions in the future.
In a lifetime, it is not the parents or children who can accompany themselves to the end, but the pillow person who accompanies them all day.
In fact, people still have to be realistic, love and marriage are not the same after all, when in love you can choose a love, but marriage is not the same, marriage not only needs companionship, but also needs tolerance and financial support.
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