"My husband and I are both married twice, I am 34 years old, he is 38 years old, I have a son awarded to my ex-husband, he has a daughter awarded to his ex-wife, after marriage we have a common son,

"My husband and I are both married twice, I am 34 years old, he is 38 years old, I have a son awarded to my ex-husband, he has a daughter awarded to his ex-wife, after marriage we have a common son, he let me take care of the children at home, only give me 1000 a month, but give my ex-wife 1500, should I divorce him?" 」

When I first met, he was very nice to me, often bought me gifts, and promised to be good to my son, I liked his thoughtfulness, unlike my ex-husband who quarreled with me at every turn, and after 3 months together, we got married.

After marriage, I quickly became pregnant, he suggested that I quit my job, take care of the children at home, said that he would raise me, the family to buy vegetables and daily necessities do not need me to worry, he brought back after work, at first I felt very happy, and then found that he had a purpose, did not want me to give my son living expenses.

I argued with him a few times, and he said that he should think about our own life, that my son was taken care of by his father, and that he was still worried that he would go hungry? I don't want to quarrel, I quietly take the savings to my son for living expenses, once my son was sick, needed surgery, wanted about 30,000 medical expenses, the ex-husband hoped that I could take ten thousand, I couldn't take out so much, I helped my husband, hoping that he could give me some.

He refused: "It's not my son, so why do you want me to pay for it?" ”

I was very sad, I felt that he did not love me at all, and was still guarding me at every turn, and by chance, I saw him transfer 1500 to his ex-wife, and every month, I guess it was to give the child living expenses, I did not care. But he only gave me 1,000 living expenses, but gave his ex-wife 1,500, is this appropriate?

In this regard, his explanation is that giving my ex-wife 1500 is good, giving me 1000 is to let me buy milk powder for my children, because he bought all the dishes back, I am speechless, I think he is too indifferent, if I go to work, as for not being able to take out money to see my son? But he thinks that I take care of my children at home for granted, and it is really sad to have no money in my hands? Should I get a divorce?

Zi Qian has something to say:

After looking at your situation, I roughly sorted out 3 key points.

1) You don't have a job

2) Your husband is reluctant to give your original children living expenses

3) Your life is very poor

I want to ask you, "Do you need someone else to arrange your life?" ”

Your husband won't let you go out to work, so you stay at home? It is a must to bring up children, but do not forget that raising children is the obligation of both husband and wife, and he also needs to take part of the responsibility.

Divorce will not solve the problem, but will have one more hurt child, it is recommended that you communicate well with your husband.

First, you have the right to work, because you need to bear the maintenance of the first child, and now the two children find a suitable way to take care of them together.

Second, get rid of the victim's thinking, your husband is a bit choppy, but your thinking is also very extreme, divorce at every turn, you also need to reflect on your shortcomings, learn to communicate with your husband well, quarrels can not solve the problem, will make the problem more complicated.

Third, let your child feel your love. No matter which child, you need the love of your parents, you are more considering your own children, you also have a sense of separation, learn to treat each other's children well, the other party can also compare hearts to hearts, feel your needs.

The above is a netizen's help, if you have better suggestions, welcome to leave a message to help her.