On the second day of the Chinese New Year, I went to my grandmother's house to visit the New Year, and when I drank wine and ate vegetables, I sat at a table with several cousins and cousins, and everyone ate and chatted. Chatting and chatting, we talked about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that is now common in rural society, as well as the phenomenon of mother-in-law serving daughter-in-law in the early years, and now it is more strange that mother-in-law serves daughter-in-law. The second cousin laughed and deliberately made fun of the eldest cousin, the eldest cousin is now a grandmother-level identity, said, your group of mother-in-law is really pitiful, it is not easy for many years of daughter-in-law to become a mother-in-law, ready to enjoy and implement the rights of the mother-in-law, the social atmosphere suddenly changed, the previous mother-in-law relationship suddenly reversed, the mother-in-law is not fragrant, not worthy, becomes a daughter-in-law is valuable, eating fragrant, the mother-in-law has to serve the daughter-in-law, see the daughter-in-law's face to act, the daughter-in-law changes her face, the mother-in-law is afraid. After saying that, everyone present laughed, a few of them were old, although they had not yet become mothers-in-law, but the sons were already in their twenties, and the mother-in-law who was already in his twenties smiled and nodded his head straightly to show his approval. The third cousin said that there was no way, now how difficult it is for a boy to marry a daughter-in-law, everyone has seen. House, car plus deposit, three gold is not too little, hardware is not too much. How much is needed. A normal family, marrying a son, almost costs the entire family more than ten or even more than twenty years of savings, including the parents' savings for their own pension. The daughter-in-law who married at such a large cost, the mother-in-law of course did not dare to summon the daughter-in-law like the previous mother-in-law. In case the daughter-in-law gets angry, quarrels with her son, and finally quarrels a lot, and insists on divorce, it will not be worth the loss. The cost and cost of quarrels are too great, and the mother-in-law has already recognized the reality, seen through the essence, and offended her daughter-in-law, that is, she can't get along with the money, it is better to endure humiliation and steal life. Now girls are more valuable, and after a little grievance, they go back to their mother's house. The mother-in-law did not persuade her daughter to live a good life and told her daughter the great truth of living a life with two sons, but instead instigated her daughter to make trouble, only to force her son-in-law to hate and not to kneel and prostrate, and then let her take her daughter home. What's more, the cruel people with unhealthy hearts directly take this opportunity to shake off their daughters for divorce, and now there are few girls, the sought-after is very much, the dowry money can't move for 100,000 yuan to start, it is a big deal to tie the knot again, and collect the dowry money again, which is easier to earn than to work to earn money. At most, it is to be poked in the spine and scolded behind the back of the ground. But the overall atmosphere of society has gradually changed to laughing at the poor and not laughing at prostitutes.
The eldest cousin said with deep empathy that society has changed, and some things have come in reverse. We got married at that time, the two quarreled, the woman ran back to the mother's house to complain, when the parents in general, will not say too biased in favor of their daughters, but the son-in-law daughter of the big fifty board, and then began to tell you the two people to live the big truth, what a long day, that there is a horse spoon does not bump the pot along, the husband and wife bedside quarrel bedside and bedside and. The two didn't have an overnight vendetta and so on. When the son-in-law came to pick up, she symbolically said a few heavy words and let the daughter follow the son-in-law back. At that time, the old people had tutors and family style.
I remembered the quarrel between my second sister-in-law and my cousin, giggled and said, my second sister-in-law's parents are big tutors, the rules are also big, I remember once my second sister-in-law and my brother quarreled, and went back to her mother's house in a huff. Her father kept her to eat, ate lunch, drank some water, and asked my sister-in-law to come home. My sister-in-law refused, grinding and chirping until the afternoon, his father got angry and rushed straight back. My sister-in-law made an excuse that the road was too far and it was dark when I walked back. Her father pushed the bike straight to the door, carried my sister-in-law, and sent it back. My sister-in-law and sister-in-law have three sisters, his father treats them equally, and the daughter who marries out, because the husband and wife quarrel, are not allowed to spend the night at home, can manage a meal to eat, and leave after eating. If there are any problems and contradictions, go home and discuss with your old man to solve them. So my cousin especially respects and likes his father-in-law, and every year when he goes to visit the New Year, he is good at smoking, tea, good food and drink. When the old man was sick and hospitalized, he was also willing to urinate and urinate, when his own father waited. When the old man died, I heard my sister-in-law say that the three sons-in-law were the most pitiful and pitiful for my cousin to cry, and that was not pretense, but real crying and emotional.
When I finished talking about my cousin and sister-in-law, the audience fell silent. My cousin said with great emotion that the people in the past were really thick and atmospheric, with a gentlemanly demeanor, compared with the current pattern and vision of people, now people are all in a copper smell, drill into the eyes of money, fall into the quagmire of selfishness. As the saying goes, the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked. Parents are role models for their children. How parents behave in the world, children see in the eyes, learn in the body, this is the words and deeds, this is the family style. Don't say that the people before it did, this is not good, that is not good.
Everyone nodded, smiled, and continued to chat.
