Are you experiencing a "widowed" marriage? Obviously it is the life of two people, encountering a little thing is that you are alone in the resistance, tired of work, want to chat with your husband, talk about it, but he

Are you experiencing a "widowed" marriage?

Obviously it is the life of two people, encountering a little thing is that you are alone in resistance, tired of work, want to chat with your husband, talk about it, but he is lukewarm to you, and even feels that you are arrogant and unreasonable.

If you're in a situation like this too, don't worry first, it's a very common marital state among the many counseling I've faced, and you're not alone.

As long as it can be adjusted through systematic science, this bad marital state can be saved.

In fact, widowhood is a relative concept, for some people, two people will feel happy when they see each other once a week, but for some people, it is eager to keep in touch with each other 24 hours a day.

So to solve the problem, you must first understand whether you are a real widow or a fake widow due to your own over-dependence.

The solution will be different for two different scenarios.

The first: false "widowhood".

This situation occurs more between young partners, who can't help but want to haunt each other because of the depth of love.

But any intimate relationship, we must understand moderation, even if two people get married, but also respect each other's independent time, run the marriage, sometimes like holding the sand, the tighter you grasp, the more you lose.

In response to this situation, we must restrain our excessive dependence and strive to find a balance between intimacy and independent self.

You can cultivate more hobbies and find more fulcrums of life.

The second category: true "widows".

If you and your partner really don't communicate too little, they always ignore everything in the house.

At this time, you must first take the initiative to express your dissatisfaction, do not let the other party guess, and hope that the other party will take the initiative to change in a way that makes trouble.

The most taboo thing in marriage is to expect the other party to fully understand you, and it is necessary to maintain proper communication.

Maybe you will complain, why let me change first?

The reason is simple, whoever changes first benefits first, marriage is not the internal friction of two people, but mutual cooperation. When the other party is not fully enlightened, if you can take the first step of change, you can feel the benefits of change first, start a virtuous circle of your marriage relationship, and thus have a happy and beautiful life.

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