Belonging and the need for love
When physical and security needs are met, the need for love, affection, and belonging arises. The need to belong and love refers to the desire to establish an intimate emotional connection with others in the circle of life, to be accepted by others, to be able to give and receive love, and to be considered attractive. For example, I want to have close friends, intimate lovers and lovely children.
Maslow believed that love had two forms. One is the love of scarcity, such as possessing others, which is a selfish love that is meant to be acquired rather than given. The other is the love of existence, such as caring for others, which is a love based on growth that is not possessive, it is not selfish. Maslow believed that man was a social animal, and that every man had groups to which he was willing to participate and to which he was willing to belong. Mature love is a healthy, intimate, mutually trusting relationship between two people. In this relationship, two people will be unguarded and unguarded. If one of them fears that their weakness will be discovered, then love is hurt. What Maslow called love is not sex, sex is a physical necessity. Love is an attitude of deep concern for another person and involves intense help, including giving love to others and receiving love from others. If the need for love is not met, people will feel lonely and empty. If children lack love, they cannot grow up healthily. If the need for love is frustrated, people will be prone to psychological imbalance, mental illness, and chronic personality problems. People need love just as they need iodine and vitamins.
Many people are complaining that they don't get enough love. Couples complain that the other person is cold and not gentle enough; Children complain that their parents don't care about them; Employees complained that the boss didn't pay enough attention to them. Some people are even unmet for a long time due to the need to belong and love, and will never be able to establish intimate relationships with people. People's yearning for romantic love is not only due to the influence of belonging and the need for love, but also due to the role of strong sexual drive, which is an important physiological need.
In modern social life, the threat of the need for love is the most prevalent. As the pace of life accelerates, population mobility increases, families break up, communication between people decreases, and estrangement increases, people's need for belonging, contact, and love is even more urgent. Any group or growth group that helps to build an intimate relationship will make people in modern cities yearn for.
Personality Psychology
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