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Southwind effect
Also known as the Law of Warmth and the Law of the South Wind.
Derived from a French fable, the north wind and the south wind are more powerful than the power of seeing who can take off the coat of a pedestrian.
The north wind whistled through, and pedestrians wrapped their coats tighter to ward off the cold.
The south wind blows slowly, making the weather windy and sunny, pedestrians feel warm, and then take off their coats, and the south wind wins.
The South Wind Effect is applicable to all kinds of interpersonal relationships, such as parent-child relationships, intimate relationships, workplace relationships, and so on.
It means that a gentle communication style can make people feel relaxed and comfortable, producing a relatively good positive effect; while a more cold communication style will make people disgusted, but it will greatly reduce the effect.
For example, in the parent-child relationship, the North Wind-style stick education, although effective at the time, but children who enter adolescence will mostly rebound.
The positive education of the South Wind will establish a healthy parent-child relationship with the child, so that it can be better guided during adolescence.
Case:
In the TV series "Very Good", Su Daqiang wants to marry the nanny Xiao Cai, everyone knows that the nanny does not really love Su Daqiang, and the brother and sister's approach fully reflects the impact of the north-south style communication style on the situation.
The second brother Su Mingcheng directly threatened with a kitchen knife, saying that whoever married would kill whom, such an act did not separate the two, but made Su Daqiang closer to the nanny Xiao Cai.
In the end, the powerful character Su Mingyu appeared, she had a gentle attitude, first explained her position, said that she supported the two of them in divorce, and they would give them additional living expenses after marriage, and then analyzed the pros and cons with Xiao Cai.
Neither did he speak ill of him, nor did he express half of his unhappiness, and in the end, Xiao Cai quit on his own.
This is the power of the south wind effect, and it can reduce a lot of trouble for you when used well.
principle:
Human beings are emotional animals, under certain objective conditions, they all like to start from their own feelings, eat soft and do not eat hard, like gentle and do not like tough, so in the case of peace of mind, people's discernment between right and wrong is stronger.
enlightenment:
When dealing with interpersonal relationships and communicating with people, we should pay special attention to the method, and the results will be very different if the use is different.
The gentle and clever way can solve 80% of life's communication problems, and the remaining 20% is left to the method.
