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Zheng Bing, 50 years old, an ordinary office worker.
Some time ago, his 80-year-old mother suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and was sent to the hospital for rescue.
Although he saved his life, he also left behind the sequelae of half-body failure.
From then on, his mother would lose her ability to take care of herself and need someone to take care of her all the time.
Zheng Bing has four brothers and sisters, two brothers above and one sister below, and he is the third oldest.
Of the four siblings, only his eldest brother had the best financial conditions.
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Zheng Bing's eldest brother and sister-in-law have all retired, adding up to tens of thousands of pensions every month.
There are also two suites and two cars in the city, and usually take the only grandchild at home.
Zheng Bing's second brother is engaged in farming in the countryside, his income is not high, and he earns 20,000 or 30,000 yuan in living expenses throughout the year.
Zheng Bing himself, a stable job, a house and a car.
It is not a generous family, and at most it is food and clothing.
Zheng Bing's sister, after the collapse of her unit, worked as a nurse in a hospital.
No day and night of hard work can be exchanged for an income of eight thousand per month.
Although the brother-in-law has a fixed unit, he is also an ordinary post, with limited income, and he has to provide for his daughter to attend the academy of fine arts, which is very stressful.
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Zheng Bing's father died of illness when his sister was five years old, and all four of them were brought up by their mother with hard work.
Therefore, they have always been very filial to their mother.
On weekdays, Zheng Bing's mother lives in the countryside and lives with his second brother's family.
He and his eldest brother are responsible for living alimony.
If the mother is sick and hospitalized, the fee will be given by four people together, divided according to each person's income.
So over the years, they have never had any economic contradictions.
After her mother fell ill, she took her to the city for treatment, and then temporarily lived in Zheng Bing's house.
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His daughter is far away from marriage, there are spare rooms in the family, and it is close to the hospital, which is convenient for the old mother to recuperate.
Where should the four brothers live next for their mother? Who should take care of it? And sat together and discussed.
Zheng Bing's eldest brother and sister-in-law want to bring their grandchildren, and the relationship between his sister-in-law and his old mother has always been very poor.
When he first got married, his sister-in-law even had a lot of fights with his mother, and he had always belonged to the kind of relationship that did not interact with each other.
The second brother and sister-in-law had to take their grandchildren at the same time, but they also had to work in the field, and they were eager to break one minute into two minutes, and they really couldn't spare time.
His sister-in-law lives in an old house with one room and one hall to be demolished, which is small and crowded and damp, which is very inconvenient for the elderly to recuperate.
In contrast, Zheng Bing's wife earns the least.
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After repeated discussions, it was the most ideal arrangement to let the old mother continue to live in Zheng Bing's house, and his wife Alan resigned and serve full-time.
In order to make Alain agree, the four brothers and sisters combined to give her thirty thousand yuan a year.
This includes the daily living expenses of the old mother, as well as the hard work of caring.
Zheng Bing is a person who attaches great importance to family affection and filial piety, and also feels that this is the best way.
He gave a ticket to his brother and sister, promising that Alain would agree to this and that the old mother would receive the best care in her later years.
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Alain was a former housewife, and when her daughter went to high school, she became an aunt at a private kindergarten run by a friend.
It's been done ever since.
The size of the kindergarten is very small, and her annual income does not have thirty thousand yuan.
Alain is a typical virtuous wife and mother, and will obey Zheng Bing's arrangements for big things and small things.
From getting married to resigning, to being a stay-at-home mother, to going to kindergarten as an aunt, this is Zheng Bing's idea.
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Back home, Zheng Bing told Alain about this.
Alain listened, and his first reaction was unwillingness.
These days, the mother-in-law lives in her own home, and when she comes home after work, she has to circle around the mother-in-law, too busy to stop.
Feed her, change her diapers, wipe herself and feed her medicine, coax her like a child...
Alain felt that taking care of her paralyzed mother-in-law was much more tiring than taking care of more than 20 children in a kindergarten class.
Although she was not very happy, she was used to obeying Zheng Bing in everything, so she did not know how to refuse.
Under the inducement of Zheng Bing, Alain agreed.
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Zheng Bing thought that this matter was settled, so he used Alan's mobile phone to compile a resignation message and sent it to the kindergarten director.
Alain looked at the resignation message and felt mixed feelings.
That night, she thought a lot and thought about insomnia.
On the way to work the next day, Alain told his daughter Xiaoxue, who was married far away.
Unexpectedly, Xiaoxue was more excited than she was, and told her to go to work and tell the director of the park clearly that she would not resign.
Xiao Xue knew that her mother was soft and unsystematic, and her thinking was relatively simple, and she did not know that she had been calculated by her uncle and father and sister-in-law.
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Xiaoxue told her: "Mom, although you can't earn 30,000 yuan a year, it's a job you like, and you can get freedom and happiness." If you quit your job to take care of my grandmother, not only is it possible all year round, but there is very little money in hand, which is completely unnecessary. If you don't take care of it, you'll still be gossiped about by your uncles. ”
Although she said it very reasonably, after thinking about it, Alain decided to take into account the overall situation and obey Zheng Bing's arrangement.
Her daughter saw that her mother could not enter the oil and salt, so she directly bought a ticket and returned home.
She wants to stand in front of her mother and defend her rights.
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His grandmother had three sons, three daughters-in-law and one daughter, so why let her mother serve her grandmother full-time.
Even if she were to do it, she shouldn't have given that little money.
In front of the family, she put forward her own ideas: let her uncle and father and sister-in-law pay together, and hire a more professional live-in nanny for her grandmother.
"Either you have a babysitter, or you take turns taking care of Grandma, or you take care of your own home, and I take my mom to my house."
"Anyway I don't agree with my mom taking care of Grandma!" In the past, my grandmother hated my mother for not having a grandchild for her, and I witnessed how bad my attitude towards her was, and how bad my attitude towards me was. I wanted to use my mother's honesty and kindness to bully her, and I was the first not to agree. ”
After Zheng Bing listened to his daughter's righteous words, he was furious in an instant.
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Zheng Bing felt that his father's dignity had been violated and roared.
"You are an unfilial daughter, how can you talk to your old man like this?" As a daughter-in-law, your mother's filial piety to your grandmother is a natural thing, and it is not your turn to manage? Besides, instead of letting her do it for nothing, we all gave her money..."
"Money, only 30,000 yuan a year, the average is less than 3,000 per month, what are you going to do?" Xiaoxue interrupted her father's words.
"Dad, if you don't defend my mother, then you will divorce me!" I took my mom away. Xiao Xue looked at Zheng Bing firmly.
"Great aunt and second aunt, little sister-in-law, give you thirty thousand yuan a year, and ask you to take care of your grandmother all year round, are you willing?"
Great Aunt: "I'm exhausted with my grandchildren, even if I have the energy to take care of your grandmother!" Besides, we were not compatible, and I was afraid that when she saw me, she would be angry and die. ”
Second aunt: "I have a bunch of farm work to do in my house, and if I have time to guard your grandmother, I can't afford to be responsible for what happens." ”
Sister-in-law: "Your cousin is still in college, and I have to earn money to pay her tuition." ”
...... Then, there was a moment of silence.
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In the end, Zheng Bing's brother and sister could not refute Xiaoxue, so they began to complain about him, saying that he was incompetent and could not control his daughter.
The daughter who married out spilled the water, and when was the turn of the family to point fingers.
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So far, Zheng Bing's brothers and sisters have refused to take turns to serve the paralyzed old mother, nor have they paid a lot of money to hire a nanny.
Both sides are currently in a stalemate.
Xiaoxue took her mother to her home, she was afraid to leave her mother behind, she would still be willing to take care of her grandmother in order to keep this big family.
She couldn't bear her mother's guilt, she felt that she was not wrong.
We Chinese and are very particular about filial piety.
There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time!
Even if children are filial piety, they will become no longer filial piety as their parents are bedridden for a long time.
Although this is very heartfelt, it is real in society and is not uncommon.
I ask you: Does the daughter-in-law have the obligation to take care of her mother-in-law?