68-year-old I went to My son's house in Sichuan to retire, lived for less than two months and felt more and more wrong, the atmosphere at home made me breathless, especially when I heard the conversation between my son and daughter-in-law, I felt that there was no need to continue to stay, so I stepped on the train back to my hometown, and the behavior of a stranger on the train made me think a lot.
After the death of my wife, I lived on my own for five years, and I lived at ease in these five years, but just three months ago, I suddenly fainted at home, went to the hospital for a check-up and said that it was hypoglycemia, and the doctor said that diabetics like me must pay attention to the problem of low blood sugar.
I hesitated to call my son who was far away in Sichuan, expressing the meaning that I wanted to go to his pension, and my son's attitude was very peaceful, telling me that Sichuan is suitable for the elderly, and let me clean up his period of time and come to pick me up.
A month later I went to my son's house, in fact, I think I still have the confidence to live in my son's house, after all, at that time, my wife and I went all out to buy a house for my son in order to reduce the burden of my son, and now his life is getting better and better, there is no mortgage pressure, I am also indispensable, right?
My son and daughter-in-law were fully prepared for my arrival, and I thought I could enjoy my old age here, but I didn't expect that everything was too much for me, and the two generations really didn't live together casually.
Don't look at me as a father, I am also afraid of being disliked, low eyebrows and pleasing eyes are afraid that what they do is not right to provoke their sons and daughters-in-law to be unhappy, deliberately to please them, give them three meals a day to cook, the elderly sleep less, get up early in the morning, in order not to disturb them to sleep I crept out of the morning exercise, come back half an hour in advance to cook carefully, and then call them up to eat and go to work.
Because I have diabetes myself, my diet needs to be light, low-sugar and low-starch, and I need to cook two meals. The same is specially prepared for them, the same is prepared for myself.
In the morning, I would let them accommodate me most of the time, and the porridge would not be made only soy milk or vegetable soup. Unexpectedly, this also caused the dissatisfaction of her daughter-in-law, who said that I let her eat this every morning, and she had no spirit for a day.
I was so frightened that the next day I rushed to cook porridge for them, I drank boiled water, after all, a person's soy milk can not be beaten, a bowl of soup can not be made. My son saw me drinking boiled water on the steamed buns, that is to say, let me not have to boil porridge in the future, they drank soy milk and soup with me, just because of this, the two people directly quarreled at the dinner table, slammed the door one after another, leaving me alone in the kitchen stunned, I told my son that I can be on it, or take care of the daughter-in-law's eating habits as well, I don't want them to quarrel because of this little thing.
I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to have a mustard for me because of this matter, what I did in the days to come was wrong, I fried vegetables without hooking her to say that the dish was not delicious, I stewed rice and she said that the rice was too soft, I went to the toilet in the middle of the night and she said that she was noisy with her, I went out for a walk and she said that I opened the door too loudly...
I am not moving or not moving in this home until I hear the conversation between my daughter-in-law and my son, and I decide that packing my bags and going back to my hometown is the best choice for me. The daughter-in-law quarreled with her son and said that she would let her son choose one of the two, either choose her or choose me?
From that moment I knew that Sichuan was not the best place for me, so old, and I had to live carefully every day, I would rather be at home by myself, so I stepped on the train home.
My son symbolically kept me, my daughter-in-law was eager to let me go quickly, I secretly cried on the train, dodging from the passing passengers, or was it seen by a young man, who cared and handed me a piece of paper and said: "Uncle, are you okay?"
I nodded and said it was okay, and I suddenly felt that my son was not as good as this unknown passerby...
@ Wei Wei Wei Wei said: The pension problem of the elderly has always received the attention of many people, it is not only the problem of the elderly, but also the problem of young people to consider, the pension is not only a choice, now there are many pension models, group pension, community pension, housing pension ...
As the elderly, we can choose a way of providing for the elderly that suits us best, and do not dwell on the filial piety of our children, which will only increase the trouble for our old age.
As young people, we must always remember the traditional virtues left by our ancestors, they raise us small, we have to raise them old, we can not enjoy the gifts of the elderly to us, but do not want to give them a pension, this is immoral.
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