What happened to those who were full-time wives?

What are the consequences of being a housewife? Watching the once popular drama "The Temptation to Go Home" is a good lesson. Women wholeheartedly understand their husbands and wait for their in-laws, and as a result, they are bullied by their mothers-in-law everywhere, their husbands cheat, their parents are looked down upon, and they have miscarriages. Although dog bloody, but too real.

A rich and handsome man, in the choice of marriage and love, prefers to find a housewife who pays for the family wholeheartedly, has children for them, cooks and buys vegetables, takes care of the family, and serves the in-laws. This way he can develop his career without worries. But no one has thought that these women who are willing to sacrifice their time and youth for the family also have their own careers, in addition to being the mother of the child, the wife of the husband, the daughter-in-law of others, she is first of all herself, she also has her own dreams, her own interests and hobbies, and her own circle.

Therefore, I have always been very opposed to the backward marriage model of "male outside the female protagonist", such a result is only one party is the winner, that is, the man. In fact, the pressure and payment of housewives is never less than that of men, they get up early and make breakfast in the dark, send children to work, buy vegetables and cook rice for hygiene, supervise children's homework, take care of the elderly, but the only difference is that these efforts have no economic benefits, and men do not recognize these efforts.

In their eyes, housewives are sleeping at home, talking to girlfriends when they are bored, resting when they are tired, and eating freely when they are hungry. They never recognize the value of housewives, they do not recognize their efforts.

Whoever holds the economic power, who is the person with the highest family status, has the right to speak. Even your in-laws don't recognize your efforts, and they will look down on you and bully you because you don't have a job to make money. And you, because you have not made money, you have to reach out to your husband for money in everything, you have no dignity, you dare not refute it, you can only swallow your anger.

In this divorce and tearing war between Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei, it further confirmed my point of view - women must not be full-time housewives! Especially do not be used by the other party as a fertility tool, three children in five years, by the husband and his parents to promote, after giving birth to one after another, the body was seriously damaged, never returned, but also lost their careers, in widowhood parenting, but also by the other party's family looked down upon, humiliated, abused, bullied.

What is even more excessive is that when you have given birth to three children, your use value is gone, and you transfer your property before divorce, so that you can get out of the house and be swept out of the house. What's even more ridiculous is that the people you once loved and sacrificed everything you gave, and finally turned away without hesitation, and your efforts will eventually be disappointed.

This is already a new era of society, a society that advocates women's rights everywhere, but the plight of housewives and the status of women after marriage have not yet been guaranteed. As women, we must always learn to love ourselves, protect our own interests, and stop squeezing for anyone, including objects and our own parents.

Ancient people always said that women without talent is moral, male talent and female appearance is the most right, male and female protagonists, you are responsible for beautiful as flowers, I am responsible for supporting the family, that sentence: I raise you! Wait, now it seems, how childish and ridiculous. It's all men's world weaving out lies to trick women.

In this world, the only one who can really rely on it is oneself, and true happiness is not the gifts and charity of others, but the creation of oneself. Nor does a woman's happiness come from how successful her own men are. But to love yourself, strive to create your own career, develop your own interests and hobbies, have a girlfriend who knows you, cherish and love each of the people around you, these are the happiness of a woman.

Through Li Lianglei's many small essays, let us know how important it is to have culture to read more, especially women should read more, so as to identify the routines of scumbags, not to be brainwashed and manipulated, to be independent and free women, to defend themselves, and to fight for their legitimate rights and interests!