In a family, women are not afraid of hardship, but of men's incomprehension.
In reality, in many families, the mother controls the home with actions, and the father directs the home with his mouth pointing.
It is said that women are made of water, but now many women are made of concrete, and they have to take their children to do housework, buy vegetables, take care of their in-laws and husbands, and finally be disliked.
Being a full-time housewife is very hard, housewives are more tired than going to work, there is rest time at work, and there is salary, but housewives are high-risk jobs, 24 hours on standby, all year round, no woman is willing to do such work, but most mothers will be because of love for this family, carrying the title of mother, the responsibility of the wife, the obligation of the daughter-in-law, the woman bears too much in the marriage.
Men should not take it for granted that they should enjoy their wives' efforts, because of love, so she will willingly pay for this family.
Men who do not have a sense of responsibility and do not accompany their children to grow up will naturally not feel that children need to spend time and money to take care of, women understand the fatigue of men who come out early and return to earn money late, but men do not understand the trivial fatigue of women's chai rice oil and salt family.
If you meet an unreliable man, the woman must understand the material, independence is the foundation, and then talk about spiritual feelings, the days when the hands of the woman who are not independent are the time when the dignity is swept away, and a good marriage needs two people to operate together.
01.30
The takeaway of the dollar caused a quarrel
Yun Xiao and boyfriend Li Le are college classmates, after they graduated, the two worked hard together, Yun Xiao's career was also very smooth, and then they got married, and after marriage, they needed to raise a baby Yun Xiao had to quit his job, Li Lexin vowed to guarantee
"In the future, I will raise you, you are only responsible for being beautiful as a flower, and I am responsible for earning money to support your family."
!”
It is said that they have been married for three years, it is true, the consumption of children is too big, and the mother-in-law did not take care of them when she saw that Yun Xiao gave birth to a girl, let alone to take care of them!
When getting married, economic conditions were not considered, just because of love, a relationship experienced the disturbance of chai rice oil and salt, the relationship between the two also changed, the wife single-mindedly took care of the family, and the husband became more and more dissatisfied, came back later and later, and the topic between the two of them became less and less.
The husband feels that the wife is just at home every day with children, lying on the bed playing with mobile phones, too idle so complain, but the wife from morning to night, from the morning the husband has not woken up, he got up to make breakfast for the husband, the husband left after cleaning the housework, cleaning the room, at noon a person at home to deal with a few bites, in the afternoon holding the child to go far away to buy vegetables, the day is very difficult, the wife thinks that as long as the family is safe and secure, it is enough.
The child has a cold, Yun Xiao is anxious to eat a good meal for a few days, while taking care of the sick and young child, while also cooking for her husband, the child's crying makes Yun Xiao feel exhausted.
At noon there was no gas at home, hungry mind panicked she ordered 30 yuan takeaway, did not expect that after her husband returned at night, he saw the takeaway box in the garbage can and the above bill, angry,
Housewives are scolded by their husbands:
"I work 12 hours a day, I pay 6,000 a month, and you spend 30 on a meal."
The wife was heartbroken, when they were not married before, they went out to eat together for a few hundred yuan a meal, since they got married, they have ordered a total of this takeaway this time, or because there is no gas at home, they are so humiliated by their husbands, the husband chatters endlessly
"Me
Endure you for a long time, only gave you 500 yuan last month, this month you spent it, spend a lot of money
!
”
The wife said coldly
"500 yuan is really valuable, I work hard every day to take your children for you,
A 30-dollar takeaway violates your family's criminal law
I thought I had violated the Heavenly Court' Rules!
”
"Look at you like you now, like a yellow-faced woman..." The husband said impatiently, turned around, closed the door and went to sleep in the bedroom.
People who have not brought children, really do not know how hard it is to take children, and now men think that taking children at home is a blessing, and the sour, sweet and bitter, only mothers themselves know.
Many men are not satisfied, women take care of their children at home to do housework, suspect that women are not beautiful and gentle and do not dress themselves, women take care of their homes, are not willing to spend money for themselves, who is willing to be a yellow-faced woman?
02.
The grievances and heartaches of housewives
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The wife went to her girlfriend's house with the child in her arms, crying and complaining
"Who doesn't earn money, who hasn't made money?" I understand his hard work of earning money, so I pay for him every day, the pain of giving birth to a child, the pain of taking a child, he does not understand at all, during the day to do three meals a day, while taking the child, the child is sick to watch all night, after giving birth to the child did not sleep all night, every day to do housework, laundry and cooking, and the husband held a mobile phone all day long, all the things at home have nothing to do with him, but also everywhere to pick my faults, I do not go to work is delicious lazy to do, I want to escape from this home, really depressed, Why should women get married and have children, after giving birth, they want to tie themselves to a time bomb, divorce poor children without mothers, not divorced poor myself can not survive, why am I still young? Can't see the hope of marriage? ”
The girlfriend comforted her
"He did not take care of the child, so he does not know the hardship of taking the child, in the future you find an opportunity to let him take the child, you can also let him experience the pain and joy of the child, I understand that you feel sorry for you,
What you despair is not the barrenness of material life, but the man you trust and trust, do not give yourself a trace of warmth, he naturally enjoys your efforts, you must understand that a family needs two people to run together
。 Think about it, there is always a way to solve it, divorce will hurt innocent children! He thinks you haven't paid for this family, so you can take care of your children and don't care about anything else. ”
03.
Don't be an appendage to a man
The wife thought about it for a long time, and felt that what the girlfriend said was not unreasonable, and since he felt that he was so idle, let's be an idle person!
The wife becomes no longer diligent, does not do the trivial housework in the house, leisurely every day, cooks and does not do what the husband likes to eat, only does what he likes to eat, clothes are washed once a week, the house is cleaned once a month, the toilet is done once a month, and only takes care of his children.
The husband was dumbfounded, and could only do the housework by himself, and later, gradually the husband also realized that it was not easy to do housework with children. When the husband complained that his wife did not do housework, Yun Xiao said quietly
"Then you can hire another babysitter!" Anyway, I just have to take the kids every day and don't have to do anything else
。 ”
After the child is older, fortunately, the mother's family lives very close, Yun Xiao will bring the child to her mother, the mother with the child is very careful, but also let her rest assured to work.
After Yun Xiao worked, her husband was very opposed to her work, repeatedly opposed to preventing his wife from having a career, hoping that his wife could take care of the family, and expressed regret for what he had done.
The wife is not willing to be a housewife anymore, work hard, dress herself beautifully, usually only care about the children, the husband is particularly attentive to his wife every day, it turns out that women are not ugly, they are reluctant to pay money for the family, as long as they are willing to spend, everyone can dress up beautifully.
Women want to be independent, independence can enlarge their right to choose, in marriage, the most feared is to try the other half of their own good, give up economic independence, do not put the sense of security on others, only their own wallet bulging, is the best sense of security.
If the husband is unreliable, we must not choose to be attached to him, women must know not to be an appendage of men, can not give up their independence, independence will give us more choices, is our confidence, but also our initial favorite dream ability.
In reality, the difference between married women and unmarried imaginary married life is too big, unless you meet a person who can really understand you, tolerate you, and respect you, otherwise do not make easy decisions, marriage must be cautious and cautious
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Running marriages is from bitter to sweet, women must have a job of their own, so that the waist can be straight, can not be full of husbands and children, must also have their own status.
Work hobbies are indispensable, and all independence is based on economic independence.
When the palm of the hand is up, talking about dignity will become a complaining woman, when life points to others, talking about ideals and pursuits is simply out of reach, so earning money and learning must work hard to move forward
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