Huang Ellie, who had been deliberately planning to marry the second generation of highly educated and rich people, and only wanted to lie flat and comfortable, divorced, and as soon as the news came out, it immediately spread all over the Internet. Huang's father is a Chinese, her mother is Vietnamese, and she is a stand-up comedian herself.
In people's stereotypes, Asians are all school bullies with no sense of humor and strict family rules. Standing on the stage, Huang Ellie, who used the most explicit language and exaggerated actions to describe her experience to everyone, became a different firework. But what made Huang Ellie quickly famous was not only that she broke people's perception of Asians, but that she was contrary to mainstream feminism: when she entered marriage, she only wanted to lie flat and did not want to struggle. Fear drove her into marriage When she was worried that she would not be able to support herself, she wanted to grab a man and provide a sense of security through marriage. Her husband, Justin Kashiwata, is a mixed-Race Japanese-Filipino student who graduated from Harvard Business School, and her father is a Japanese-American inventor and television celebrity.
Whether it is from the appearance or family lineage, it seems to be impeccable. So Huang Aili took out the posture of a high-level maid and got along with each other. Until four years later, under Huang Aili's constant hint of "urging marriage", the other party finally proposed to himself, but only on the premise of signing a prenuptial agreement. That is to say, if you divorce in the future, Huang Aili will not get a penny. This made Huang Aili very uneasy, but she still grasped the life-saving grass of marriage. For this experience, Huang Aili complained about herself in the show: "Like a fool, I asked this man if he wanted to take me to prison, so now he is locked up in this prison where "two people fight to the death", and he doesn't know how to escape from prison." ”
Huang Aili described herself as hating to marry at that time, "eating cough medicine as a dessert at that time."
This reminds me of a saying on the web: never choose to be with a person because of fear, loneliness and loneliness, because you just fell from one spider's web to another. Second, after the disillusionment of a housewife and the birth of a child, Huang Ellie suddenly found that this was not the life she wanted at all. In her mind's eye, a housewife can gracefully drink afternoon tea with her girlfriend while taking care of her children with ease.
When you are at home, you can come as you want, relaxed and comfortable. But the reality is that after giving birth to a child, she is not only out of shape, but more importantly, she no longer has the energy to maintain the image of a delicate housewife. She indignantly complained that "breastfeeding is a barbaric ritual, reminding you that your body is now a canteen, no longer yours".
I used to think that housewives were lying flat and relaxed, but now I suddenly found myself without colleagues, without social security, and with a baby who tied herself to the canteen at that time, and I still had no money, and I still felt afraid. After all, once her husband doesn't want her, she has nothing. The same fear drove Huang Aili to the stage. And this time on stage, she quickly became popular. Becoming the "pillar" of the family, she frankly misses the freedom to be single. Now that she has no fear of not being able to eat or sleeping on the street, she can't help but question her choice, and more importantly, she wants more. More money, more freedom, more happiness.
When a woman has no financial troubles, she will really start to please herself, provided that she is her own provider. As the old saying goes: eat people with short mouths, and take people softly. In order to live a comfortable life, Huang Aili initially gave up the difficult road of self-struggle and turned to what she thought was a high-quality marriage, but she also paid a corresponding price. When she realized that this kind of life was not what she wanted, Huang Aili quickly returned to her own battlefield, which was admirable. In order to get rid of the dilemma of having a baby after marriage, Huang Ellie began to do her old business, according to her words: "We worked hard, and then I didn't have to take care of the children." Huang Aili also said that she is definitely the kind of person who first puts an oxygen mask on herself and then on her child.
It sounds petty, but in fact Huang Ali especially loves her children. If your state is a mess, how can you better raise your children; if your life is not guaranteed, how can you better protect your children? Seemingly selfish remarks, in fact, a woman is really responsible for herself and her children. In addition, huang Aili's favorite place is a kind of momentum that you can say what you like, and I can do what I want. A lot of people ask her now that you're out of work, who's going to take care of the kids? She shrugged back, of course, on the TV! People asked her how to balance family and work, and she asked domineeringly: Why don't you ask my husband the same question? And replied to himself: He can't do it, because he doesn't have to. People expect her to be more mature after becoming a mother, she replied: Just because you are a parent, it does not mean that you have grown up, but there are more responsibilities and you are unable to do it. When Huang became famous, her mother asked her if she would make more money than her husband and if the other party would feel threatened and leave her.
She replied, "The only man who will leave a woman because she makes more money is the kind of man who doesn't like the money in the sky." Her mother went on to ask, "Doesn't he feel like you've taken anything from him?" "Oh, you mean, let's say the pressure of raising a family?" The humorous and honest answers make people laugh and at the same time begin to reflect on the inequalities between men and women in family life. In addition, Huang Aili also mentioned that looking for a nanny has always been over 62 years old, because the sexless married life with her husband after giving birth to a baby is already in jeopardy, and refusing to find a young nanny is a means for her to defend her marriage. People can't help but sigh, supporting a family, strong and confident on the stage, Huang Aili, who is free and at ease, still has a fear of marriage failure in her heart. Now that she is divorced, she no longer has to worry. And she didn't need to worry about it. In general, people like a consistent image, but Huang Ellie has broken people's preferences. From the beginning, she was determined to lie flat in marriage and ridicule women's rights; to later return to the stage because she could not stand the life of a housewife, complaining about her married life; now after becoming the pillar of the family, she chose to be single again... The most powerful people are those who live without screwing. Huang Ellie lives without any screws, so she goes all out to make different choices at each stage of life, get it, re-evaluate its value, and make the next choice. Huang Aili told us that even if the cognition is limited, what if it is wrong? As long as you still have the courage to start all over again and put it into action, you can always reshape your life and have the right to choose again!