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After having children, many women choose to return to the family for some reason and become a housewife who is at ease with the care of their children.
In fact, many women become housewives, making great sacrifices for their children and families. They gave up their original more colorful lives, such as a worthy career and free and elegant social activities. Then confine yourself to the family side of the world, and take the child as the focus of life.
For children, the mother's attentive companionship is more important than anything else when they are young. When children are young, most children want the company of their mothers, and they can also see their mothers' efforts and sacrifices in the process of growing up. But as they get older, they hate the sacrifice of their housewife mothers a little bit, and even look down on them.
I once saw a blogger describing the life of her mother who was a housewife at home, and its content touched me deeply:
What his mother did for him is something that most housewives repeat every day, and it is also what many children who do not have their mother's company aspire to. We all feel that this is maternal love.
But in the eyes of bloggers, seeing what her mother did, she didn't feel that it was maternal love, but sadness, she didn't have her own wonderful life, this home was all her wonderful, and she only had herself in her life.
From his description, I also see that most housewives with raised children may have the mentality that they can see the sacrifice of the mother, but also look down on the sacrifice of the mother, too real.
Housewives may end up only touching themselves
At a young age, many women being housewives may be a stopgap measure. At this time, high-quality companionship for children is more important than earning money to support the family. The child is accompanied by his mother wholeheartedly, and his personality is better in all aspects.
But as children grow up, when children have their own social circles, pursue their own space and privacy, they often do not need their mother's full range of companionship and discipline. If the mother still blindly puts all the focus on the child, everything is focused on the child, and the child will feel oppressed and suffocated, and even cause the child to want to escape, and they also look down on such a mother in their hearts.
So if you plan to be a housewife, don't take taking good children as the only thing, blindly sacrificing your time and hobbies for your children, otherwise this is a great mother's love in your own eyes, and you are also touched by yourself. But it is a burden for the child, and it is the mother who always controls her own life. The result may be that the more the mother pays, the less appreciative the child is, the mother feels that she has sacrificed so much for the child, but she cannot exchange it for the corresponding return, the injury is angry, and the parent-child relationship once dropped to the freezing point.
For women, housewives are only temporary. Be prepared to go out to work at any time as your child grows up and maintain a steady stream of charging capacity. At the same time, even if you are a housewife, don't take taking children as the only thing, put all the joys and sorrows on the children, and in addition to taking the children, you must also have your own life, develop your own interests and hobbies, give the children space, give yourself space.
【Topic Discussion: What do you think of housewives?】 】
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