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A friend of mine gave birth to three children some time ago. When I went to see her, I said, "I admire your courage, how dare you have three children, how much perseverance does it take to raise three children, no one helps to bring them, and I will go to work later." I felt so tired as a child, and I thought about going to work after my child went to kindergarten. ”
The friend said: "To tell you the truth, I am used to living as a housewife with children at home, and I am afraid and panicked at the thought of my children going out to work, but if I stay at home, I will inevitably be guided around." If you have a child, you can skip work on the grounds that you are staying at home with your child. When the youngest child is older and I am not young enough, I can stay at home all the time. My friend's words left me speechless for a moment.
But slowly I also understood the mentality of housewives like friends, although strange but also in line with human nature. "I just escape from work by giving birth to child," the housewife thought, which was very strange.
I just don't want to go to work and face unknown risks
Housewives like friends are mostly accustomed to family life around children and housework every day. In their view, the work of caring for children and handling housework, although trivial, repetitive, and costly and energy- is controllable, and the working hours and content can be at their disposal.
And the people I contact are almost all familiar friends and relatives, and I am very easy to deal with. Although such a life is boring and boring, there is not much expected risk, and the whole person has a sense of security.
But going out to work, there are too many unknowns to face. The work content, the working environment, and the personal exchanges between colleagues and leaders, intrigue. All of this requires sufficient capacity and emotional intelligence to deal with. Many housewives have been at home for a long time, have no bottom for these work things, and know a few pounds and twos of themselves very well, afraid that even if they go out, they will not find a suitable job. Withdrawing from the unknown at work, so I can only give myself reasons to be a housewife.
Raising children is also not an easy job
The birth of a child is bound to require someone to take care of it wholeheartedly, and if there is no help from the elderly, it is not willing to ask for a nanny, so that the child's growth is fake to others. When she was a child, the mother's attentive companionship was of great significance to the establishment of a child's sense of security and the cultivation of a good character, and it was also the wealth of the child's life.
Most families, three years before the birth of a child, require a mother to temporarily give up work and return to the family as a stay-at-home mom. And full-time mothers are not an easy job, taking children is not an easy job, 24 hours a day to the child, not only physically tired but also tired. Similarly, working mothers are not easy, working during the day is work, and at night is children.
Career and family are not easy to balance, no matter what kind of identity, we need to have enough respect and understanding for her.
But the mentality of running away from work with having children is really not advisable. Having a child is not a trivial matter, it requires huge energy and financial support, regardless of the actual situation, blindly giving birth to a child, is a huge risk. Not only for the family, but also for yourself. Even if you really like children and want to have more children, you must keep yourself charging at any time so that you have more choices in the future.
[Topic Discussion: Full-time moms around you who have such a mentality? 】
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