I gave birth to a daughter at the age of twenty-eight and a second child at the age of thirty-three, and now I will talk about my different feelings about having two children.
When I gave birth to a child, I began to buy books and read books and listen to classical music from the beginning of pregnancy, and I was convinced of the importance of the child's prenatal education, and I felt that I had to train the child from the beginning of the fetus to make her different from other children. I don't know how many times I went to the hospital just to do the examination, but in order to see her face in four months, I went twice, because my daughter was too lazy to move in my stomach all the time, and it was hard to see her in the end.
After the birth of my daughter, I put all my energy into cultivating children, and from the age of four, I began to give my children a picture class, a dance class, a drum class, a Chinese language class, a calligraphy class, a swimming class, a roller skating class, a table tennis class, an English class, a math class, and a literacy class, determined to make her a child with a specialty, so that she would be different from other children.
In order to learn from my daughter, I was scolded by me, and I was also beaten a lot, and I had a feeling of hating iron not steel, hoping that she could study hard.
The second son was born when my daughter was five years old, and from the beginning of pregnancy to the birth of the child, she had only one examination, prepared for nothing, and did not take it seriously.
My son only applied for painting and English tutoring classes, but his son himself knew a lot of words from a young genius, and he began to read harry potter and other books without pictures since kindergarten, and never deliberately taught him anything.
After my son went to the first grade of elementary school this year, I bought a plan book for my two children and wrote down my daily plan on it, and my son insisted on doing it every day and has always insisted on it. The daughter only insisted on it for a few days and did not do it.
I write these is not to say that the daughter is not good, the son is good, I am just reviewing the difference between the first child and the second child, my education method, because it is the first child, so I pay special attention, but also pay special attention, the requirements are also extra strict, but let the daughter unhappy, the daughter's pressure is also great. In the second child, because of some parenting experience, and not as important as the first child, the son adopts the method of free range, and does not force anything, but the son grows happily and actively.
It is also from the son's three or four years old that I realized the mistake of the way of education in my daughter, poor parents in the world, I hope you will learn my lessons, try to give your children a relaxed environment, so that children may grow better.