Today, the two-child policy has been open for several years, some families still only need a child, and some families are keeping up with the times and successfully conceiving a second child.
Unlike having a first child, many parents who have a second child have become very "low-key", quietly getting pregnant, quietly giving birth to a baby, and not having the publicity momentum when having a first child.
A good girlfriend gives birth to a second child but does not tell, causing a misunderstanding among friends
In the middle of the night yesterday, I suddenly received a call from my girlfriend, and at first I thought something was urgent, but as soon as I answered the phone, I heard a lot of complaints. Listen to her, she met "plastic sisterhood."
It turned out that a good friend of my girlfriend had a second child, and she didn't tell her, she also knew from other people's mouths, and it had been several days since the child was born at that time. The girlfriend feels that this does not regard herself as a good friend, and she does not tell herself about such a big thing as having a child.
And at the beginning, this friend also swore that he would not have a second child, and said that whoever had a second child was stupid, and as a result, he hit himself in the face before half a year.
After listening to my girlfriend's complaints, I suddenly remembered a phenomenon: now parents give birth to a child, when giving birth to a child, they attach great importance to it, from pre-pregnancy preparation to postpartum baby out, if the birth can be videotaped, they are eager to come to the live broadcast, a situation that tells the world.
But when it comes to having a second child, parents often pass by, and some don't even send a circle of friends, which is in stark contrast to the excitement of having a first child.
The "strange phenomenon" of contemporary parents giving birth to babies: the first child is revealed to the world, and the second child is silent
Nowadays, people's attitude towards having a second child is very cautious, and many families who have given birth to a second child have a very low-key attitude, and even many outsiders do not know that there are new members in the family.
1) There is no freshness to give birth to a first child
The reason why many couples do not disclose when they give birth to their second child is because they have had the experience of having a baby once, and after having a second child, they have not been so fresh.
It is said that "one child is raised according to the book, the second child is raised according to the pig", when pregnant with a child, the whole family is careful, and the food and drink are checked on the Internet to dare to use; and when pregnant with the second child, it seems to be a lot more casual.
After all, with the experience of the first child, after getting pregnant again, it feels like that, in the announcement of the good news of the baby, the first child arrives, the whole family will spend time editing the language and striving for newness, and when the second child is born, it is not so much freshness, naturally even the news is too lazy to send.
2) The gender of the second child is not in line with their own wishes
Many people in the birth of the second child, are running to the intention of "children and daughters", if the second child is born, and their expected gender is different, then the heart will not be very comfortable, it is not in the mood to announce the news of their second child, afraid that others will see their jokes.
3) Unwanted pregnancy is reluctant to speak up
Like a girlfriend friend, Ming ming said that he would not have a second child before, but in the end he was pregnant with a second child because of an unexpected pregnancy or other reasons, and he chose to give birth to it. Such a situation belongs to the typical "punch yourself in the face", in this case, quietly in the circle of friends, not sending any message is the best way.
4) Worry about receiving gift money and indebtedness
Of course, some parents do not openly because they are worried that relatives and friends will be forced to follow the gift after they know, originally they did not plan to do wine, but helpless relatives and friends finally came to the gift, it is best to hold a thank you banquet. So simply choose not to disclose it, so that you will not be indebted to people.
Low-key birth of a second child also has many benefits
Avoid excessive care from friends and family:
Couples have the intention of having a second child, if it is hyped up from the beginning and everyone knows, relatives and friends at home will definitely give care, and excessive care can easily bring pressure to couples who are preparing to conceive.
Many couples who are trying to conceive have such an experience: the pressure they bear is greater than the pressure of pregnancy and the birth of a child, after all, when giving birth to a second child, it is more often with purpose, the most obvious is to expect the sex of the fetus.
In addition, for the matter of having a child, others care too much will also make the couple disgusted, so it is more convenient to say that when giving birth to a second child, it is more convenient to quietly.
Avoid some bad effects on Dabao
On the issue of having a second child, parents still have to take into account the feelings of Dabao, if you are pregnant with a second child and publicize it all day long, Dabao is easy to be hurt because of the attitude of your parents, whether Dabao agrees to have a second child, parents can not be overly differentiated.
Avoid problems with the fetus and be happy in vain
Many mothers in the second child, the age will be older, such an older pregnant woman in pregnancy, it is easy to appear embryo suspension situation, so low-key birth of the second child, but also to avoid fetal problems, their own white happy.
Kojima would like to say:
In short, whether to have a second child is a matter for each family itself, there is no need to render it to everyone, the adopter knows the grace of the parents, every child is the treasure of the parents, less forms, more care for the child, is the parents should do the most.