After the mainland liberalized the two-child policy, there are more and more two-child families around us.
However, the difference between the second child and the only child is not just a simple number of children, many times there will be contradictions in daily small things, such as the boss and who sleeps, which has become a problem that plagues many mothers.
After Xiao Li gave birth to her daughter, her mother-in-law let the eldest sleep with her, hoping that Xiao Li could have a better rest at night.
But the boss was unwilling, after all, he was used to sleeping with his mother, and suddenly he wanted to sleep with his grandmother, and he always felt very awkward for a while.
Looking at the way the child was crying and making trouble, Xiao Li's heart softened.
She decided to continue to sleep with her eldest, as before, and of course put her daughter in the crib next to the big bed, so that it would be more convenient to feed and change diapers at night.
So Xiao Li has a baby on the left and a baby on the right every night, and he is often disturbed to sleep.
This made the whole family question, thinking that Xiao Li was blindly tossing, but Xiao Li insisted on his own approach, and insisted on it for three years.
Three years later, her daughter went to kindergarten and her eldest went to elementary school, and the family finally understood that her persistence was right.
Nowadays, the two children get along very well and have a deep affection.
The mother-in-law who had been questioning Xiao Li before could not help but praise her shrewdness, after all, no one had expected such a result.
What should parents do after giving birth to a second child?
1. Pay attention to the emotions of the boss
Although giving birth to a second child is a matter for parents, the impact on the eldest in the family is also very large.
Therefore, after the birth of the second child, parents must observe the emotions of the boss in time, and do not ignore the boss because they are busy taking care of the second child.
When parents notice that their boss's mood fluctuates, be sure to take as much time as possible to spend with them.
In this way, the boss can feel that he is still valued, thereby reducing the sense of gap in their hearts and avoiding the parent-child gap between the boss and his parents.
2, let the boss know that his parents still love him
If the eldest is younger, then parents should put their love for them into practice.
For example, pay attention to their companionship, take them to do things they are interested in, etc., so that children know that even if younger siblings are born, they will not rob their parents of their love for themselves.
If the eldest is already in kindergarten or elementary school, then parents can tell them that no matter what the situation, mom and dad are the people who love them the most.
The birth of younger siblings will only give them one more relative, and will not make them lose the love of their parents.
3. Create opportunities for the boss to take care of younger siblings
In some two-child families, whenever the eldest wants to reach out to help his parents take care of his younger siblings, he will attract a burst of reprimand from his parents.
They are worried that the boss is clumsy and can't take good care of the second treasure, but they completely ignore how uncomfortable the child's heart is when they don't trust the boss.
So if conditions permit, parents may wish to let go and give the eldest a chance to take care of younger siblings.
For example, help your parents look at the second treasure for a while when they are busy, or throw the diaper that the second treasure has replaced into the garbage, and try to feed them when eating.
Of course, these may not be easy to complete for the boss who is also a child, but in the process of trying, it can make the boss's feelings for the second treasure obviously deepen.
It will also make the boss more responsible, so as to do a good job in the role of brothers and sisters.