I've seen a joke online before that goes something like this:
A: What's your last name?
B: My surname is Wang
A: Why is your surname Wang?
B: Because my father's surname is Wang
A: Why is your father's surname Wang?
B: Because my grandfather's surname is Wang
A: Why is your grandfather's surname Wang?
B: Because my grandfather's surname is Wang...
Although it is only a small joke, it also reflects the common situation of mainland sons following their father's surname, which is due to the fact that in the past, society advocated male and female masters, and the economic status of men in the family was often higher than that of women, and all traditional cultures generally followed the father's surname.
However, with the development of the times, equality between men and women is advocated, and women in modern society have a high level of education, and they are not inferior to men in career development and economic income, and even in some families, the income of mothers is much higher than that of fathers.
Now many post-80s and post-90s parents themselves are only children, so there are many possibilities in the question of whose surname the child is, and both husband and wife hope that their surname can be passed on by the child. At this time, if the husband and wife do not negotiate in time to find a proper solution, the husband and wife will inevitably quarrel, and it is even likely that they will divorce.
Recently, a couple in Kunming, Yunnan Province, argued endlessly over whose surname the second child had, and even sued for divorce. The couple's wife's surname is Shi, and her husband's surname is Tang, and the two have two lovely daughters, but the reason for suing for divorce is who Erbao is with.
It is reported that the couple had a stable relationship until 2021, when the second child gave birth to a second daughter, the wife believes that Dabao has followed the father's surname Tang, and the second treasure should follow his own surname History. However, the wife's idea was strongly opposed by the husband, and the husband and wife did not give in to each other on this issue, and eventually sued the court for divorce.
The judge's mediation surname is just a symbol of a person, and no matter whose surname the child is with, it will always be a common child of the husband and wife. After persuading her husband to also say the reason for his insistence, it turned out that letting Erbao follow his surname was his father's last wish before his death.
After the mediation of the judge, the wife also expressed understanding of her husband's distress, and finally the two parties reached an agreement, the second child followed the father's surname, and dismissed the idea of divorce.
As soon as the experience of Ms. Shi and Mr. Tang was issued, it immediately attracted the attention of many netizens on the Internet, and the views of netizens on whose surname the child was with were also different, but they were roughly divided into the following categories:
1. It is legal freedom to whom the child is surnamed
According to Article 22 of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, children can follow the father's surname or the mother's surname, which means that it is legally possible to follow the surname of the child.
2. Following the father's surname is traditional
The traditional understanding of society has always been that except for a few cases of inverted doors, most children follow the father's surname, and the father's surname is what the child's surname is. Children with the father's surname is not only the traditional cognition, and if the child follows the motherhood, it is easy to cause unnecessary trouble in the future, such as some people will think that the mother takes the child to remarry, etc., which is difficult to explain.
3. Support children to follow their mother's surname
Many netizens believe that the mother gave birth to the child in October, all kinds of hardships dad can not understand, and women in modern society are also working hard in the workplace, and share the economic pressure of the family with the father. The mother pays so much, and the child should follow the mother's surname.
4, there is no succession to the throne in the family, and it is okay to follow anyone's surname
There are also many netizens who think that the name is only a code name, a title, as long as it has meaning and can be surnamed with anyone. Whether the child follows the father's surname or the mother's surname, it is his own child, the blood relationship is constantly cut, and the family does not have the throne to inherit, do not pay attention to these.
5. Let the child follow the surname of the party with economic conditions or higher family status
There are also some netizens who believe that the name can help children integrate into different circles, if one of the parents of both parties does have higher economic conditions or social status, the child should be surnamed with, which will help the child to integrate into a higher circle and establish a better future development.
Most people's surnames follow them for a lifetime from the time they are chosen, and from this point of view, what the surname is important to the child. However, no matter who the child is surnamed with, it is a common child of both husband and wife, and the blood relationship is constantly separated.
For children, the important thing is not who to surname, but the loving parents and a good growth environment, husband and wife for the child's surname disputes, and even divorce, obviously because of small mistakes.