After the opening of the second child, many families have joined the ranks of having a second child, and at the same time, there is also a phenomenon, that is, the second treasure follows the mother's surname.
According to tradition, children follow their father's surname, but the status of women in contemporary society has gradually improved, in order to better pursue equality between men and women, some women want to let Erbao follow their surname when Erbao is born, but is it really good for children to do so?
Comer: Regret letting the baby take my last name!
Xiao Jiang is an only child, and soon after marriage, she had a child, because the two people have a very good relationship and like children very much, so they immediately became pregnant with their second child after recovering.
For the baby after the birth of the name and worry, is every parent to experience, this day, Xiao Jiang suddenly made a request to her husband, she wanted to let the second brother with his surname, the husband did not refuse after listening, but said that he wanted to discuss with his parents, that night the family held a small meeting for this.
Xiao Jiang originally thought that it would be difficult or even unsuccessful to let the child follow his own surname, but after her husband told her in-laws, her in-laws felt that in this society, it was quite common for Erbao to follow her mother's surname, and she agreed.
In this way, the baby's natural surname is Jiang, but the child gradually grows up and has more and more problems.
Originally agreed to the second treasure with the mother's surname of the in-laws, gradually began to be eccentric, usually good food and drink, first take care of the boss, no matter what happened in the family, who made a mistake, the in-laws have to drag the second brother to educate, and now the two children are intolerable, so that Xiao Jiang regrets it very much.
Although the surname of the second child with the mother is a trend in contemporary times, it does not mean that this practice applies to every family, if there is a certain contradiction in the family, it will not only affect the family harmony, but also the feelings of the two children will be hurt.
The drawbacks of the second child with the mother's surname, you have to guard against!
1, easy to be treated by others with different eyes
Children with the father's surname is a common phenomenon, therefore, most people's first feeling is that the child follows the father's surname, if you encounter two children with different surnames, people who do not understand the situation will feel that there is a problem in the family.
For example, two children are half-married, the mother is married twice, the husband and wife are not harmonious, etc., will speculate wildly.
If someone behind the scenes gossips, it will evolve into a family conflict after a long time, and even if there is no problem, the relationship between the family will deteriorate.
2. It is not conducive to the growth of children
The child always has to grow up, always has to contact different people, if the child follows the mother's surname, then when he goes to primary school, he will face a rumor crisis.
You know, people's imagination is very terrible, if there are some good people around the child, knowing that the child follows the mother's surname, and then speculating, they will spread rumors at will.
For children, this is not only a blow, but also brings psychological shadows, and even makes children reject their own names.
3. Differential treatment of the elderly
In some families, the elderly's practices are inconsistent, even if they did not object when deciding what the child's surname was, but as the child grew older, their sense of rejection of the child would gradually deepen, and then rise to the difference between the two children.
You know, in a family, if as a parent and an elder, you can't treat two children equally, the future growth, physical and mental health and character development of children will be affected, especially the second treasure, which is likely to develop into an extreme personality.
4. There will be a gap between the two children
The elderly treat children differently and are treated differently by others in life, which will increase the psychological burden of children, and then evolve into contradictions between each other.
For example, the second day to watch the boss eat well and drink well, but he has nothing, naturally resentful, if the people around him take the opportunity to provoke behind the scenes, the contradiction between the two children will become deeper and deeper.
Therefore, there are still certain drawbacks in the second treasure with the mother's surname, if the parents do not think about how to deal with these, or honestly let the baby and the father's surname is better, at least in the future life will not encounter so many troubles.
Dear parents, have you ever considered letting erbao take his mother's surname?