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Have the ability to have a second child, do not have the ability to have a second child, if it is difficult to support a child, why should you have a second child?
If you stand in different angles, you will come to different conclusions. Middle-class families don't want a second child, they want to provide their children with good educational resources, and they want to be able to raise a child intensively, so we can't understand what parents who are obviously very difficult but still have to have children are thinking.
If you look at them from a different perspective, from the perspective of the people at the bottom, you may be able to understand them a little.
The 42-year-old mother gave birth to her second child alone, and quietly left after the birth of the child
I just saw a case that touched me a lot in the morning, and it was also a recent event.
The story takes place in Xiaoshan, Hangzhou, a 42-year-old pregnant woman took an online car to the hospital to give birth, at this time she was already in a state of imminent pot, and the child was about to be born.
The doctor opened a green channel for her, entered the delivery room for half an hour, and gave birth to a healthy baby boy, but the mother came empty-handed and was not prepared for anything.
The mother told the nurse that she had time, did not prepare anything, said that she was going out to buy something, the nurse agreed, and the second-born mother left alone and did not come back.
The mother went to the hospital alone to give birth, without her family, and was in a trance, and the doctors and nurses of the hospital expressed concern about this, and they directly sought help from the local police.
With the help of the police, the woman who left the hospital just after giving birth was found and learned about the causes and consequences.
When they found the rental house where Ms. Shen lived, they knocked on the door for a long time, and there was no movement, and then they called the landlord and asked the landlord to help open the door.
Ms. Shen, who had just given birth, was lying alone on the bed, not in good spirits, and there were instant noodles on the table.
It turned out that she was still doing odd jobs before giving birth, feeling that she was going to give birth, so she took a taxi to the hospital, and after paying the fee, there was only 200 yuan left in her body, and she had no choice but to leave, because she had no money to be hospitalized.
The local police took her back to the police station to understand the situation, prepared her a large bowl of noodles and a bottle of milk, and after eating food, the mother's mental condition improved and she had a smile on her face.
More than ten years ago, he came to Hangzhou alone to work and earn money to support his family
Ms. Shen went to Hangzhou Xiaoshan to work alone more than ten years ago, earning five or six thousand a month, except for 900 yuan for living expenses and 600 yuan for renting a house, the rest were all sent back to her hometown of Liaoning, and the family had a mother-in-law and husband to take care of two children.
Only in April this year, the mother-in-law died, leaving the family with a sick husband and two children. So the family could not come, she could only stand up alone and give birth to the child. She wants to work right away, but she only has 200 yuan left on her body, and she must work immediately to have an income.
After Ms. Shen's story spread, the local charity association and the street donated 3,000 yuan respectively, and a local hospital donated baby supplies and 1,000 yuan in cash to help her get through the difficulties.
The mother and son were discharged safely and took their son back to their hometown
With the help of the locals, Ms. Shen returned to the hospital, and finally the mother and son were discharged safely.
She chose to take the child back to her hometown temporarily.
"If there is a caring company to help, or there is a suitable opportunity, I hope to survive here for a long time."
This is a sentence seen at the end, and it is touched again.
In a relatively remote mountain village or some backward rural area, how many people have less than four-digit deposits in their accounts? There should be a lot of it, can not give the child basic education, can only ensure that the child has food to eat, can not provide the child with any unnecessary material conditions or spiritual conditions.
How are these people going to get through tough times? They raise their children alive and pin their hopes on them, hoping that the lives of the children's generation will change.
Not to mention the remote mountain villages, that is, the migrant workers living in big cities, there are many migrant workers who can't help themselves.
They can't change their fate by relying on knowledge, they can only try to let children change their fate through knowledge, hoping that children can have a different life, provided that they can support children and provide children with the most basic education.
These people are not so lucky, they do not have enough stories to impress people, no one will lend a helping hand, and they can only rely on a handful of strength to survive.
Don't have children, the situation will not be much better
For the mother in the above case, if she did not have three children, would her condition be much better?
The answer is yes. But why do they have to have so many children?
The more in the countryside, the more you will feel that no one in the family is not good, which is related to the environment, in the countryside, there are no two or three children in the family, only one child, or an only child, there will be difficulties in all aspects of life.
Urban people may never understand the ideas of people living in the countryside, but in fact, we can't stand on the moral high ground and say that they have no responsibility and no brains, it's just a matter of trade-offs.
Rural life is with "family nature", in the village, people prosper to have the right to speak, as long as the rural environment and moral standards do not change, people scramble for a second child, the phenomenon of the third child will not change.
When the child is young, it is a burden for the family, and after the child reaches adulthood, it is a human resource for the family, which is a point that rural people value more.
With the progress and development of society and the gradual urbanization of rural areas, many old concepts will be slowly banned, and the same is true for "children", but from the current point of view, it is difficult to "one size fits all" in many places, and it is difficult to change the concept of deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
We also look forward to the progress of rural people's concepts, and the concept of raising children should be properly updated, so as not to let ourselves and our families fall into greater misfortune because of stubborn traditional concepts.