"A drop of water can never dry up until it is put into the sea, and a man can only be most powerful when he integrates himself into the collective cause."
Human beings are social animals, since kindergarten, children began to integrate into a small collective, with the expansion of the collective and finally integrated into the whole society, which requires children to have good social skills, so children's social skills should be cultivated from an early age.
China Youth Daily once launched a questionnaire survey on "social phobia" for college students, and the survey showed that 80.22% of the college students surveyed said that they had a slight "social fear"; 6.90% of the college students surveyed said that they had a relatively serious "social fear"; 0.64% of the college students interviewed said that they had serious "social phobia" and were medically diagnosed with social phobia.
Social skills are an ability that will benefit children for life
1. Language skills develop faster and stronger, and intelligence is also higher
Babies with strong social skills can more accurately grasp the meaning of other people's words and the accuracy and moderation of their own expression when getting along with others, which prompts them to continuously enhance their language ability when socializing, and language ability is the basis of a person's intelligence, and the development of language ability and the development of intelligence show a positive correlation. Therefore, babies with strong social skills have stronger language skills and higher IQs.
2. Stronger logical ability
The baby's social process is also a process of constantly improving his own logic, especially in the period when the baby is in the transition from simple sentences to complex sentences, and in the process of interacting and communicating with others, he will continue to improve his own language logic. The process of perfecting the logic of language is also recorded by the brain and applied to the logic of other things. So we will find that children with strong social skills do all kinds of things with reasonable and orderly.
3. High efficiency and strong leadership ability
It is inevitable that children with strong social skills will come into contact with more children of the same age, so this prompts them to deal with more interpersonal relationships in a limited time and improve their efficiency. At the same time, because they can understand other people's words well and express themselves clearly, and have good connections with many people, they are slowly in a leadership position.
4. Mentally healthier
Babies with strong social skills are more willing to communicate with others when they produce negative emotions because of their good expressions, so that negative energy has a certain cathartic channel. At the same time, because there are many friends, you can also provide them with more positive emotions to divert their attention, will not be alone and resentful, and the more you think about it, the more uncomfortable it is.
And the baby with weak social skills in the encounter with unhappy things or because can not clearly express or because can not accurately receive the comfort of others and slowly choose to keep silent, negative emotions accumulated in the heart, if the self-healing and explanatory ability is not high, it is easy to cause depression, autism and other psychological problems.
5. Be more responsible
Pre-adult children often want to grow up quickly, they will prove their "maturity" through various behaviors, and they also yearn for others to treat them as "adults". A child with strong social skills tends to be in a leadership position in a small group and will meet his needs well.
The child will enjoy the dependence and trust of other friends on him, and will enhance his sense of responsibility while feeling fulfilled, hoping to be worthy of the trust of those around him.
How can parents help their babies develop social skills?
1. The most basic thing is to let your baby interact with people more
Social skills can only be cultivated in communication, there are no other shortcuts. Bring your baby with different people and expose him to people with different personalities and fields as much as possible. Don't be afraid of your baby's conflict or grievances in your interactions with people, because this will better exercise your baby's ability to handle things. Being too smooth is not good for developing your child's social skills.
2. Teach children to respect others
The minimum standard of fellowship with people is mutual respect, and if you want to get the respect of others, you must teach your baby to respect others. When talking to people, look at each other, do not interrupt others' words at will, do not disagree with others' views and do not attack, and respect the right of others to express their own views.
Also teach children not to talk about others behind their backs, the more praise words the better, but negative words should think twice, find more shining points in others, reflect on the shortcomings of others, and encourage them to change them.
3. Play more games that require collaboration
Simply bringing children together has a limited effect, and children are prone to going their own way. You can choose some cooperative games, so that children can play their own skills and ultimately achieve the same goal.
In the whole process, children need to take the initiative to communicate with each other to be able to complete, which will make children more intimate and trusting, and finally share the sense of achievement after achieving the goal, and mutual gratitude can also cultivate the concept of children's collectives, and they will not deliberately choose to solve things that they can't do alone.
In short, children's social skills are indispensable abilities for later life, and they are also a small number of abilities that can be obtained through training, so parents should pay attention to them and cultivate them well.