When talking about the dangers of language disorders, my teacher specifically cited several cases in which language disorders inevitably lead to social phobia from teenagers to adults.
If the child has these manifestations
80% may be social phobia
1) When talking to strangers, worry about embarrassing or humiliating yourself, and worry that others will notice your anxiety
2. When talking to strangers, the language organization is chaotic, the logic is wrong, the expression is not clear, the words are not up to the mark, and the intonation is abnormal.
3. Fear will lead to abnormal tension in the body, such as blushing, sweating, trembling, rapid heartbeat, dare not look at each other, and increase additional actions such as unconscious coughing and swallowing.
4. Because of fear of embarrassment, the behavior is stiff and rigid, and dare not do too much action or dare not take the initiative to say hello.
5, refuse to be the object of attention of others, more afraid of becoming the center of everyone's vision.
6. Persistent social fear will bring excessive physical load, physical function consumption is more, and mental state will show a downward trend.
7, social fear will divert your attention and focus, often remember the other person's name, the other party's appearance, etc., for the next meeting of the embarrassment of the foreshadowing.
8, social phobia brought about by negative self-evaluation is twofold, negative experience in social situations and negative evaluation after the fact will make the mood worse.
9, for children, social fear is more obvious, refuse to say hello, do not know how to respond, and even cry, tantrums, over-reliance on parents, etc., are typical manifestations of social fear.
What kind of people are socially fearful?
We once hosted an adult who stuttered and had an experience of social phobia, which he described as follows:
When I first interviewed, although I prepared for several days, but when I heard my name, my brain was blank, nervous to the point of sweating, my blushing heart beat faster, the interviewer thought I was suddenly ill, let me go to rest first, I sat on the sofa next to me to take a deep breath, suddenly felt dizzy and nauseous, others handed over a glass of water, forgot to say thank you, suddenly felt like going to the toilet, wanted to rush out of the door to escape.
What effects does social phobia have on us?
Low self-esteem
Lack of self-confidence
Negative self-talk
Resistant and sensitive to criticism
Extremely poor social skills
Difficulties in the development of social relations
Why does social phobia occur?
Genetic characteristics: Anxiety disorders tend to have a family history. However, it is not entirely clear how much may be due to genetic factors. Or caused by the atmosphere of family growth.
Brain Structure: The amygdala of the brain may be in control of fear. People with overactive tonsils may have an exacerbated fear response that leads to anxiety in social situations.
Environment: Social anxiety disorder may be a behavior that arises from childhood stimulation, childhood, psychological vulnerability, after being teased and bullied, resulting in psychological shadows. It may also be a tension in the relationship with parents, so that anxiety is constantly magnified to other occasions.
Personal defects: It may be that the appearance or physical defects make them have no self-confidence, reduce the recognition of self-worth, and the sense of existence.
Language defects: Socialization itself is an occasion for language communication, and language is precisely a favorable tool for self-expression, language barriers seriously damage personal image, and the embarrassment caused by unclear words or stuttering is irritating and makes the listener feel bad.
In daily life, social phobia is most afraid of encountering the following occasions:
1. Interview, being interrogated by strangers. Communicate with unfamiliar people or strangers
2. Attend a party or social gathering with new colleagues
3. Assign to a new work unit or class
4. Be named by the teacher to answer the question in public.
5. Report to leaders in public, or give speeches in public, and make eye contact with countless people
6, on the way to the toilet, I met the leader who did not know how to say hello
If parents or children have these manifestations, we must pay attention to them, these may be fear of social psychology at work, and there is already a tendency to serious social fear.
In fact, we have no way to predict the occurrence of social fear in advance, but to observe and prevent it as early as possible. It is then mitigated through various interventions.