Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
Hello everyone, I'm Mommy.
I want to ask you a question first: after school, will you let your child write homework first, or will you play first?
I believe that this problem must have bothered many parents, let the child write homework first, worry that the child can not concentrate, the mind is outside, but let the child play first, and afraid that the homework will not be finished, affecting the child's normal work and rest.
So one after another, in this matter, many parents are in a situation where it is difficult to have both "fish and bear paws".
What is more critical is that behind these two situations, it actually reflects the different personality and psychology of a child, and may not be able to see anything in a short period of time, but with the growth of the child, it will slowly reveal some clues.
So, today, I will join you to understand the difference between "writing homework first" or "playing first" children when they grow up.
01. After school, children who "write homework" and "play first" have 3 obvious differences when they grow up
Usually, children are naturally playful, especially after being tied up in school for a day, and when children return home, they naturally have little interest in learning.
However, although every child is particularly yearning for the outside world after school, the choices made back home are different.
Some of them may write homework first, while others will think about playing for the first time, and in these two cases, children will naturally have some differences when they grow up.
Self-management skills are different
Those children who throw away their school bags as soon as they enter the house and decisively choose to go out to play tend to be more casual and eclectic, but on the contrary, compared with children who do homework, their self-management ability is lacking.
This can be illustrated from two aspects.
One is the sense of order, which is the degree of self-requirement for the inner goal that it wants to achieve, and can also be understood as self-discipline.
For children who write homework when they return home, their sense of order is stronger, and their control of goals and the arrangement and planning of things are more clear.
So, as they grow, they are clearly better than children who hang out and play in terms of self-management and discipline.
The second is procrastination, for children, once put outside the wind, you can play oblivious, so come and go, children may have developed a small habit of "procrastination" in the matter of writing homework.
So as the child grows up, this procrastination habit may be reflected in more places, and it is also not conducive to self-management.
The ability to withstand pressure is different
For children who write homework as soon as they enter the door, they are more in pursuit of control, more want everything to be carried out step by step, and do not want to be criticized and questioned from the outside world.
Children who choose to go out to play often spend more time on writing homework, sometimes they will boil oil and light the lamp very late, sometimes they can't finish their homework, and they will be criticized by teachers and scolded by their parents.
Then in this case, such children often have better ability to withstand pressure, and in the face of different situations, they will also take better coping methods and measures.
Children who play first tend to be better at dealing with emotions and dealing with problems than children who write homework first.
The degree of reverence for things is different
Children who write homework often have a certain reverence for teachers, parents, and their own work, so they will do what they think is more important for the first time.
From this point of view, such children are often more delicate in their minds, and have a higher degree of self-restraint, and after adulthood, they will also arrange their work and life in an orderly manner.
And the children who play first, because they are more casual, so they care more about their inner feelings, lack of reverence for things, so in terms of responsibility, it is better to write homework children first.
02. So for parents, should they let their children play first or write homework first?
In fact, from my personal point of view, I prefer that parents let their children write homework first, and then go to play.
I have two reasons for this.
First, if you let your child play first, it will affect the efficiency of homework and work and rest time.
Everyone must have had such a situation when they were young, parents shouted at us to eat outside, they couldn't shout back, they just cared about playing, so you think about when the child was on the head, he couldn't even eat, let alone write homework?
Therefore, once the child plays, it may not be able to take care of the time, which will affect the work and rest time, and the longer the child plays outside, the higher the mood may rise, so that it is impossible to settle down and write homework well, which will affect the efficiency of homework.
Second, let the child write the homework first, which can cultivate the child's execution.
As we all know, self-discipline is a very difficult thing, not to mention children, even if adults want to insist on a thing, it is also very difficult, so it is necessary to cultivate children's execution from an early age, so that children face their "work", refuse to procrastinate, then for children's future learning and work, there are good help and benefits.
Therefore, from these two aspects, it is best to let the child write homework first.
03. How to let children develop the habit of "writing homework first and playing later"?
In fact, for children, it is difficult to have such awareness at the beginning, so we need the correct guidance of our parents.
For example, at the beginning, you can make an agreement with your child to stipulate the constraints of writing homework before you can play, and over time, let your child develop such a habit.
In addition, we can also make time arrangements for children, of course, we can also let children do their own time arrangements.
For example, when you get home, what to do first, what to do later, and arrange everything in a time line. Then when the child is doing it, he may be more directional, more efficient, and will not worry about the homework can not be finished.
Finally, do not squeeze the child's free time, for example, the child has finished eating, and has finished writing homework, and we ask the child to do this and do that, it is not reasonable.
On the one hand, the child will feel that the time arrangement made before is useless, and he has always been in a state of domination, so he will want to break free.
On the other hand, children will also think that their parents do not speak, thus losing trust, which is not conducive to the maintenance of parent-child relationship.
In short, good habits can not be formed overnight, parents still need to be a little more patient with their children, so as to slowly cultivate this habit.
Finally, I would like to ask everyone: Will you let your child write homework first, or will you play games first? Why?